How to talk about nothing?

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-03-06T14:26:53+00:00

Women want to laugh, and have fun. They don’t want to over analyse shit, or think logical when they are flirting.

Save the deep convos for university debates.

It’s all about being humorous, observant, commenting on things you observe about the environment, heck even if you to all about topics, let’s say religion you can make it funny and light by simply joking:

She: So what do you think about religion?”
You: That me and the devil would get along great, i’m sure you could be our succubus and join our plans for world domination”

or

She: So what do you think about religion?”
You: “Well i’m going to hell for sure, unless someone saves me in less than 24 hours… That’s why i came for your help”

See what i did there?

Rather than talking about religion, whether I believe in god, or which religion is the real one, or getting into a debate about the big bang or evolution, or any boring crap like that… I switched it something more humorous and more light.…

Another example:

She: “What do you think about science”
You: “Well girl, I think you and me have some chemistry together😏 “

You take the opportunity to flirt, while avoiding any deep convos.

Because while she may be smart , a nightclub or any place where people are supposed to be having fun and wanting to shut off their brains, it really is not a good idea to give deep analytical serious answers to that stuff, it is not a good place to get into philosophical questions or boring debates.

Think of it: “The music is loud, people have had some drinks, they are tipsy or drunk, people being loud,… it’s just not the kind of place to be deep about those things or even brining those topics into a situation like that.

And since attraction is emotional not logical, then talking about that will just be counterproductive, attraction happens when you laugh, when you feel sexual tension, suspense, surprise,… Not when you are thinking deep about the meaning of life or which religion is the correct one or whether god exists or how things technically work.

Let’s put one last example of a conversation:

She: What’s your sign?
You: Libra and you
She: Oh same
You: Well, let’s just get married then
She: Haha, for sure, where is our wedding?
You: Las vegas baby, but this has to be our secret, or we might get in trouble”
She: Why would we get in trouble?
You: Because my parents are christian and i’m not, and they want a catholic weddings.
She: i’d like a catholic wedding too”
You: Well darling, then i’m afraid we can’t be together anymore, i want a divorce”
She: Hahaha, but we aren’t even married yet, how can there be a divorce?
You: Doesn’t matter, you keep the children, I keep the dog. Tell them I’ll miss them, but not as much as the dog.
She: Wow, and why shouldn’t i be the one to keep the dog instead?
You: Really? are you really gonna abandon your children to a guy like me? What kinda of mother are you?
She: Oh! Says the guy who misses the dog more than OUR children?
You: I mean they don’t call a dog a man’s best friend for nothing… Besides, the dog loves me more”
She: 😂That’s not true, the dog loves mommy more.
You: “Don’t make our dog choose who he loves most, it’s not fair to them
She: I don’t need to, coz he is a good boy, and good boys love mommy more
You: - There is only one way to make this divorce deal.
She: - What way?
You: - Rock paper scissors. Whoever wins gets to keep the dog, and whoever loses owes the other a drink
She: - Haha ok, 1 2 3
You: - (I win) Piña colada for me and my dog thank you
You: - (She wins) “I’ll miss you buddy, (talking to an imaginary dog) I wish i’d marry you instead”.

That’s more or less how to be playful and fun.

the_cute_brigadier · 2022-03-06T14:12:18+00:00

Commenting because I'm also neurodiverse and want to learn this skill better too.

SocialKing_ · 2022-03-06T21:52:02+00:00

First of all, the fact that you can talk about deep shit is great!

I'm literally the same. Before I got into learning game, I honestly thought chit chat and small talk was only reserved for people with double digit IQs.

However, when I started studying game, I realised that there is actually an art to the casual chitchat and humour in general.

But you know what the weird thing is?

Girls love deep chats as well!

It's not that it's boring or whatever, it's just that it's your job to make it interesting.

Talking about alcohol addiction is boring if you start teaching it like a lecture. E.g "Did you know that alcohol activates GABA receptors and increase dopamine and..."

Instead, if you want to make it interesting, you have to spark interest by bringing up a question like "I'm curious, does your head feel lighter or heavier when your drunk?"

Or "Don't you think it's weird that weed is illegal and alcohol isn't, even though nobody has died from weed and loads have died from alcohol?"

The problem you're having is that you aren't making it fun or interesting, either because you aren't expressive enough when talking about deep shit, or you just use too much jargon and dive too deep into theoretical science.

The types of deep topics that does really well is things like:

"Why is it bad do you think to have multiple partners?"
"If law didn't exist, what do you think is the age that most girls would lose their virginities?"
"What is your favourite drug and why?"
"What was the first drug you've ever tried and what was it like when you first had it?"
"What is the weirdest place on your body to get a tattoo do you think?"
"If you drank until you puked, would you count that as wasting alcohol?"
"If you were to invent a new brand new cocktail, what would you name it?"
"If your house was burning down, and you could only carry 3 things with you, what would you take?"
"Why do you think girls like tall guys so much? What is it about height makes them super attractive?"
"Where is the one place you would not ever get a piercing?" (great to ask emo or goth girls)
"If you had a threesome, would you rather have it be two guys and you, or you with another girl and a guy?" (then ask why she picked one over the other)
"Kiss on the first date or nah?" "Why?"
Choose 3 celebs for her to FMK (fuck, marry, kill), and ask her why

Just as long as you inject a few jokes here and there, add in a bit of sarcasm and role playing, direct the conversation towards sexual topics and physically escalate along the way, you're good to go!

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Big-Dust7208 · 2022-03-06T15:18:50+00:00

Banter is the best when you just meet someone. I am not keen for conversations about neurological problems at 3am or anytime really after dinner. Just tease your friends, ask the girl how’s her night, what did she like about it. Little fun fact that can be finished in 1 line. If you’ve been hanging with the person all night then little cap about what happened through out the night.

Nothing is less funnier than serious deep topics on a night out.

mightymite88 · 2022-03-06T18:39:24+00:00

Why would you want to talk about nothing ? What's the goal there ?

Talk about what shes passionate about. Enflame her passions. Turn her on. Make her interested. Dont waste time.

BIGC4075 · 2022-03-06T14:46:04+00:00

Why dou you intellects desire to learn "how to" communicate with idiots? Stop meeting morons, know your value. Morons go to clubs and bars. You are who you hang around.

newlife909 · 2022-03-06T23:18:19+00:00

I'm like this too and have gotten way better at it recently. Two things to realize imo:

Yes, you have not found an equivalent. You are who you are and hopefully you can find someone who likes to talk about the things you do.
Most girls will not be you're equivalent and u need to adjust

I found our biggest problem is obviously what you said in your post. You said "I have a set topic to talk about." Don't. Just talk. Dumb the conversation down and keep it humorous, and tease tease tease. Easiest way to relax and let the convo flow

AuremYT · 2022-03-06T14:44:10+00:00

Ask her what her favorite dinosaur is.

Ok_Independent_487 · 2022-03-06T16:54:59+00:00

Just buy a book in foreign language and memorise some sentences and then just talk

WagerGoat · 2022-03-07T10:11:06+00:00

Just say what’s on your mind, let her talk(women can talk your head off) just pay attention and listen while getting to know her mindset. The key is to open her up mentally do that and you’ll get her to be opened to you physically. From my experience me getting to know a woman mentally and learning how they operate actually led the woman to iniate sexual conversations, but that shouldn’t be the only reason you do it, just that so many dudes try to openly fuck so when I come around it put me in a different category than what they would label “all guys”

Title	How to talk about nothing?
Author	FaithInStrangers94
Upvotes	14
Comments	13
Date	March 6, 2022 2:05 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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