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CookieAdmiral · 2022-01-30T01:29:39+00:00

Approach girls. Start with a funny line.

"You look like trouble" should do it.

Chit chat, flirt, stand up straight, crack jokes and gauge her reaction. But careful, you don't just wanna be a funny guy, make sexual innuendos as well.

Take her inside and dance with her (if you see she is interested im you, which will come with experience.).

Spin her, grind, dance and make eye contact, go for a kiss after 4-5 minutes. If you accomplish it, great, escalate from there ("hey, let's go to my place and smoke/netflix/debunk conspiracy theories /whatever" ). She'll know.

If not, say something funny ("wow best kiss ever") pull back a bit and try again later. Under no circumstances shouls you seem butthurt about it or break frame.

If she still won't kiss you after a 2-3, you should just try a different girl. Repeat from start.

It's really not that complicated, you're overthinking this shit.

vibrantbarleybowling · 2022-01-30T01:25:54+00:00

I think you look just fine. Club game is different for many people. Some find it easier than others.. What you should do to be better at it is:

1: talk to more girls in the daily basis the prettier the better but generally talk to any girl and don't just talk to them to pick em up... but just for the conversation.... you can talk to the girl in the supermarket cashier, girls in your class or work do this enough time till you feel more confident around woman... 2: once you feel confident around woman thats all you need, try to dress up good, shower regularly and smell good. 3: memorize openers ... pick up openers but not cheesy ones rather playful ones, make her talk, try to create a reason for physical contact.

As long as you dress alright, keep yourself clean and have a good posture looks are not important because this defines your outer looks .... Hope this helps

alexandhisworld · 2022-01-30T02:23:58+00:00

Ugh you’d get so many more women if you didn’t see the world the way you do

partytrailer · 2022-01-30T03:27:00+00:00

Learn how to dance. Girls will gravitate towards you.

noonewonone · 2022-01-30T01:47:36+00:00

Your looks are fine but you’re lacking confidence and style. Go read ‘The Game’ and then ‘Models’, that should help you start.

MrStallion22 · 2022-01-30T01:51:40+00:00

Nothing wrong with the photo. You do sound very passive though, like girls are supposed to approach you or something. Not how it works bro. And anyway girls are probs showing you attention, you just wouldn’t know because it can be subtle and you’re too inexperienced to notice.

If you’ve got friends that are good with girls try to watch what they do and how they do it and emulate that. If you’re all out together ask to wingman them. If I’m out with someone less experienced than me and I can tell they need a confident boost I’ll usually talk to a group of girls and warm them up a bit and then include my friend in the conversation so it’s a risk-free way for him to talk to girls without the fear of instant rejection - ask if they can help you out like this.

There’s obviously so much more to this than my reply but if you have any specific questions, PM me ;)

alexandhisworld · 2022-01-30T02:24:41+00:00

You said it yourself, you do best when you’re not trying. Just merge the mindset

wj2smooth · 2022-01-30T05:31:42+00:00

I think you’re a good looking guy bro, but if you want to enhance, I’d grow the beard out more, maybe get a higher fade to show off a crispy hair line, and trim your eyebrows… (don’t think any of this is necessary as you’re good where you are) I’d also learn to dance or atleast be comfortable moving to music.

Lumpy_Ordinary_882 · 2022-01-30T18:27:05+00:00

Man, you look great! I can ensure you that your looks certainly aren't your issue here.

So if it isn't your looks that is the problem, then what could the reasons for not getting any women be? Think about that for a while and I'm sure you will be able to figure out what I'm trying to say here...

Equivalent_Speaker26 · 2022-01-30T03:34:21+00:00

Learn how to "work the room"

Try this trick: As soon as you walk in, assume everyone is looking at you. Assume you have a a scoreboard on your head with the number 100. As soon as you get caught alone for more than 3 seconds, you are losing points and everyone can see it. Always be talking to someone (guys, girls, or groups).

Start by opening guys, treat them like hb1's or 2's, no effort needed. Then take that guy and use him as a wing. Talk to him for a bit, and say hey let's go talk to them (hb5 group). Then take your wing, open the hb5 group and introduce your wing. Talk for 5 minutes and then take your group to open another group of strangers. Introduce both groups to each other and merge them. Keep talking to random people and merging groups. Try to meet everyone. Every girl in the bar will notice that you are really popular. You can now open anyone because have a ton of social value and look like a celebrity.

2022-01-30T01:51:41+00:00

“You caught my attention, and I know if I didn’t introduce myself, I’d regret it” has worked pretty well.

No-Department6252 · 2022-01-30T03:57:24+00:00

Stop chasing women and become as fit as you possibly can. The base of physical attraction is the body and you are ideal height so once you obtain an attractive body you will see a drastic difference with girls.

uhmhisup · 2022-01-30T01:44:32+00:00

Change your hairstyle

Head-Combination-299 · 2022-01-30T02:35:59+00:00

I think you’re an area active person. Just talk to people as if you were getting to know them in a class group project situation. Maybe coming on too intense or strong. Just relax. Not sure if your age but girls wanna make out and hook up too.

2022-01-30T02:45:44+00:00

Just chill don’t think about it too much where you from dude

Calamity__Bane · 2022-01-30T03:30:39+00:00

It's not your looks, but you may want to change up the hairstyle and beard (beards are generally not a good idea if you have a good chin and jawline).
Are there any major differences you can spot between you and your friends? Appearance, attitude, behavior?
What is your state normally like when you're out? Are you feeling physically uncomfortable or anxious?

2022-01-30T03:33:28+00:00

U need to smile bro, u seem shy/self conscious. Have a idgaf mentality, be relentless. Smile because ur happy, u give off “eh” vibes. Woman are not attracted to that. If you can’t pull with just looks, pull with your vibe. You’re trying too hard trynna catch another females vibe when they should be catching yours. See what I mean? Get em king 📈‼️💯

bmead0ws · 2022-01-30T06:39:48+00:00

You're acting like a woman waiting for someone to approach you. If you wait around for girls to give you permission to approach them you're going to get very few interactions or none at all.

In my opinion there's nothing wrong with you physically. Mentally you need to just make that shift to where you're not outcome dependent. Stop viewing rejection as a bad thing, cause stacking rejection after rejection will put you in a state to where you don't care. You'll end up building confidence through this.

18Mandrake_R00T5 · 2022-01-30T13:20:48+00:00

At least you are ____

TheWisedGuy · 2022-01-30T13:44:18+00:00

I am in the same situation as you. What you need to do to boost your confidence is have a few drinks until you get in that relaxed state of mind, once you get in that you’ll be able to approach girls without second thoughts. When I’m standing with my friends I look around I notice some girl looking at me, sometimes when I’m not confident enough or not fully in the mood I just I ignore it which makes me regret it later. I’m not a good talker with girls but I attract more girls when I’m dancing, I do some funny dance moves and they notice me and they look at me so I dance with them or talk. It doesn’t succeed all the time. I also manage to talk to a girl at the bar or while I’m walking around the club and see how it goes. You just try to talk and see if the girl is very responsive and laughing and talkative with you then you start throwing some flirting or teasing words, On the dance floor or on the bar. The very first time I managed to pull a girl from club and take her home was last month. Saw her sitting with her friend and I waved at them and did say: may i sit here, and they were ok with it. So from there we talked and I clicked with one girl and then we danced and then went home. So I’d say you just try to talk to girls and see, one of them could click with you and would work out.

HerrLogic · 2022-01-30T19:46:46+00:00

Apparently big floofy bangs are in for men so you could try growing your hair out. Just look up “glow up boys” on YouTube and you’ll see what I mean. There’s a trend in those videos: short hair = less attractive, poofy floofy hair = more attractive.

You have strong facial features and you’re height-weight proportional so I think you’re good for looks.

Beyond that know the type of woman you like and don’t try to make people like you. Just be fun to be around.

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