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Comedywriter1 · 2022-01-28T05:03:18+00:00

It’s like jumping into a pool. You know the water is cold and it’s going to suck. But the pain only lasts a few seconds so you do it anyway.

It takes practice. Practice every day.

Approaching strangers is a lot like any physical skill similar to what pro athletes do.

If you’re a basketball player, you practice shooting free throws so that when the times comes to shoot your shot, you’re ready.

rattled_by_rush · 2022-01-28T05:06:41+00:00

Tbh this is something I struggle with too, but what works for me (sometimes) is take some time to think of how you'll feel later that night, or tomorrow, or a year from now, if you don't approach. Actually imagine the feeling of sitting down and feeling regret about how you didn't take the shot. Then when you're in the moment, you'll be forced to acknowledge that what you're actually doing is making an exchange between your current discomfort (mild) and your future regret (probably much worse).

2022-01-28T05:23:37+00:00

Just gotta do it to get over it. Then you get used to it and you'll start to not care and it'll just become fun. Basically once you're outcome independent you'll be completely free and it'll just be like a fun thing to do when u want

rohitp17 · 2022-01-28T05:18:05+00:00

How i did it was with affirmations and once you see the one you want to approach start walking within 3 seconds immediately

chethelesser · 2022-01-28T07:44:09+00:00

You guys get choosing signals?

Calamity__Bane · 2022-01-28T07:02:29+00:00

You just take the step and focus on the girl instead of your nerves. The less you pay attention to your head, the better off you'll be

JacobMoogberg69 · 2022-01-28T11:09:38+00:00

Retrain your brain to think that the most embarrassing thing in the world is not to go over to a girl and get shot down, but to actually do nothing. Because doing something is honorable even if you don't get a desired outcome. But doing nothing is the most embarrassing g and pathetic thing that reflects badly on you.

Soon enough the little voice in your head will start telling you - go and talk to that girl you doofus" instead of telling you you are good for nothing loser.

Minute-Lie-2287 · 2022-01-28T17:49:30+00:00

Mario says " here we go".

Are they going to kill you?

You only have something to gain and nothing to lose.

Don't think of it as a task, it's supposed to be fun.

Give yourself a time constraint of 20 seconds then go.

About all I got besides having a buddy push you.

You're really the only person who can help yourself here honestly.

TheRiverOfDyx · 2022-01-28T06:28:25+00:00

When you’re “thinking” in those moments of anxiety, you’re not properly thinking, you’re near-panicking. Stuck in your head. It’s a way to retreat.

You can’t approach an “enemy” while retreating. Women aren’t enemies, they’re just different sovereigns. You’re a sovereign, she’s a sovereign.

A sovereign cannot attack and retreat at the same time. They must do one or the other. If you’re in your head thinking about what to say, you just as well know that your mental troops are in Retreat Mode. A general would do well to know what his troops can handle, and they can’t handle conflicting orders.

So GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD!!! Look at your shoes. You’re on the ground, right? Look up at the sky, it’s blue, it has some stuff in it. List it off in your head real quick. Look at the buildings around you, get back into the space that the pretty girl knocked you out of. Girls are like Dr Strange, they’ll blast your astral out of your body - that’s anxiety.

Get back in your body, get back in the fight. Fight or Flight, Spiderman! Now CHOOSE!

2022-01-28T05:43:37+00:00

Drink some carbonated Water.

burncushlikewood · 2022-01-28T08:52:18+00:00

AA never goes away man, it happens to all of us, but its the only way to get better, there is no magic trick to get around it, but when you have success you won't be as scared. At my time in university I did over a 100 dancefloor approaches and got really good at game

socialanimal_us · 2022-01-28T10:33:10+00:00

Checkout www.YouTube.com/socialanimal - you ll find some inspiration :) and if you want to dive deeper, check this video: https://youtu.be/0lKRM76uFeI

thelambofdeth · 2022-01-28T12:11:13+00:00

I wish I got choosing signals...

Sensitive-Permit-877 · 2022-01-28T15:06:51+00:00

I started equating it to stand up. You need to get booed until you can read the crowd and play off of what they do and say

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