I know I need to focus on myself and build confidence. I’m a short dude 5’4 and it’s hard to talk to strangers by approaching them.

My issue though is I want to improve socially, meet beautiful women and even just make more friends who are both men and women, mostly women. But when I focus on it I have a hard time having fun or focusing on my hobbies.

When I keep myself busy or do my hobbies like rockclimbing or yoga there’s plenty of cute women who do that too so then I automatically go back to just wanting to talk to women. I’m not sure how to get rid of this mindset, i want to be able to walk up to a girl I think is cute and not think she’s better value than me, or shit I even think some men are higher value.

When I solely focus on myself I appear too disinterested in women(I’ve been told by people I don’t seem interested in them) OR I’ll seem TOO interested. That middle ground is insanely hard to get