When I go out clubbing/ socially unless I'm fully enjoying the music or situation my default setting is blank expression / slightly depressed look.

This is partly because I've been out a lot and it's boring now but also because I've been over looked by women a lot and feel slightly bitter.

I feel women detect sad energy so before I even approach they reject me based off it. It's like feeling low is offensive to them but they don't care for the cause they just want a guy that's upbeat and happy automatically (slightly makes sense).

So it's been a snowball effect and I can imagine guys who have had positive reinforcement their whole life it's been the opposite (the rich get richer).

I know I'm not just a social reject as I have a lot of male friends and they kind of see me as a leader because I'm above average height and stern but it's had the opposite effect with women.

I've been told to smile on numerous occasions and loosen up.

I will also mention I'm slightly an introvert.

How do I feel positive in a situation that hasn't been good so far?

I'm tired of going out with the guys all the time and would rather spend time with a woman.