I've been feeling more like the dude from the big Lebowski than a player. I know cash is just a component of value and without charisma and confidence pulling still wouldn't work.

Am I coming up with excuses not to approach or is there a time to focus more on my self than put myself out there?

I dated this girl from online dating and she seems really into me and points out how i can hold conversation way better than an average guy.

Trying to be honest with myself here but could use some input. Am i just being scared or is having legit reasonable cash income more important sometimes. I should be able to do both at once right?