My sexual preferences make me incompatible with most women who are attracted to me

themardyage · 2021-07-06T15:29:43+00:00

From my experience most women want to be dominated but I have no doubt in my mind there is a girl who’s dominant out there for you. I would be straight up about it. I mean next time you’re with a girl and you’re talking about what you like just tell her. You won’t be happy faking it, it might take you longer to find someone but I say just be true to you and keep trying. Good luck!

Agreable_Actuator84 · 2021-07-06T15:28:37+00:00

What exactly makes you think you are submissive? That you liked to be tied up? Or you just want to lie there while partner does all the work? You want to be pegged? You want your partner to decide when where and how and how long to have sex? What exactly do you envision?

If you just want to please your partner, and your partner says I want a dominant man who roughs me up, wouldn’t it be submissive to give her what she wants?

maplemario · 2021-07-06T20:36:06+00:00

Move to San Francisco. The pool of girls there who like/want submissive guys is massive because of the social dynamics of having a gigantic competing population of dudes in tech.

anezqadir · 2021-07-06T16:00:58+00:00

I would suggest you to be extremely straightforward and brutally honest

ObviousUsual · 2021-07-07T22:21:17+00:00

The guy I dated had the same preference. HAD I KNOWN I would've completely taken advantage of the situation because I love that dynamic. Except he didn't tell me and expected me to read his mind. So while he thought that I wasn't into it - I was simply incredibly confused about his behaviour. Don't make his mistake.

Whenever i'd actually make the dominant move he'd try to win back that dominance, and I couldn't tell if it was in the context of playing, or in the context of him legitimately being uncomfortable with the idea of being submissive. And I didn't want to push him too much because I didn't want to feel like I was crossing some boundary and making him do something he didn't want to do in the first place.

So that's my other element of advice. Being submissive has a performance quality to it - you really need to lean into it and tailor your reactions to reassure the dominant one, especially if you're just starting out. In a sense, you have to let them feel comfortable and encouraged in the dominant role by playing into it. If you just lay there and expect for her to read your mind and push your buttons, or keep trying to assert your dominance directly (without making it clear that it's a form of play), then you're never going to find a compatible partner.

UrFavPlayerIsBack · 2021-07-06T15:10:11+00:00

Most of woman are submissive

Those that are dominant, work only on sex. On interaction n stuff u gotta always dominate n lead. Otherwise goodbye

pokemonpokemonmario · 2021-07-06T16:56:53+00:00

The only way to screen for women looking for subs, which are very very rare as there is an abundance of male subs whith mommy issues out there, is online dating and say you're submissive in your profile.

Lucky-Floor-2264 · 2021-07-06T17:34:12+00:00

Can you please define dominated? Do you mean like if she walks over and straddles you on your lap or something or demands sex? Or do you mean something more “full on” where you actually want her to...um...yeah I don’t know how to say that. The first is pretty easy to mention but if you mean that you actually want her to kick you in the groin or some demeaning like this then it will be harder of course to find a gf like this. Personally I would not do it.

ucchiha · 2021-07-06T18:09:47+00:00

be upfront about it whenever sex comes up because chances are they may want to try it because it’s new and like it

Geaux_Gators · 2021-07-06T18:33:10+00:00

Your odds of finding a Dominant Woman as a submissive male are better IRL than online. Is there a nearby BDSM/kink-oriented group?

Peachmuffin91 · 2021-07-06T19:16:06+00:00

The paradox made me laugh lol

Papa_Musk · 2021-07-07T03:56:56+00:00

I wouldn't stress it honestly, I think most women are bad in bed and we do all the effort anyways. So really what's the fucking difference between you and me? Not much. If you want to do special sex shit then get in a relationship.

cuddle_tyrant · 2021-07-17T14:03:30+00:00

I highly suggest you hang around the gentle femdom or femdom dating subreddits or just their subreddits in general to look for what you might be interested in. There are dominant girls out there I promise, it just may be a bit hard to find them.

Title	My sexual preferences make me incompatible with most women who are attracted to me
Author	Blackmetalpenguin90
Upvotes	20
Comments	36
Date	July 6, 2021 3:05 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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