How can I ask a girl out who is at her job without making it weird?

magnetradio · 2019-10-15T10:10:42+00:00

If you frequent that place, talk to her before getting her number. If you don't frequent the place, go ahead and get her number. Don't you think women like when men they're attracted to ask them out... even if it's at their job. The only reason why it would get weird is if make it weird.

Let's say that her favorite celebrity asked her out for a cup of coffee, do you think she would feel weird about it while she's at her job? Who knows, maybe she's attracted to you and HOPE you ask her out. Speaking from experience.

I frequented a gas station/convenience store and I got the attendant's number. She told me that she was checking me out for a while and wished I asked her sooner (she got into a relationship, but we still hung out. No sex though).

Lesson: Don't worry about it being weird... just see what happens. You may be surprised by her response.

2019-10-15T15:41:53+00:00

Bruh, it’s only weird in your head. Get over the “weirdness” and just do it. If she wants to go on a date she won’t say no.

The0rangeKind · 2019-10-15T14:41:31+00:00

you develop a connection. you have to make her familiar to you- even if it's just the first time you're seeing her, you gotta let her relax while also at the same time making it clear that you're interesting and into talking to people. she will eventually figure out that you're not just there for business because you will be making her laugh and getting her to see a side of you that she wouldn't necessarily with a regular old customer.

but BUT this is huge. don't waste her time, if you want to get her number don't dwell on talking and never asking for it. go for some comfort get her to laugh and learn a few things about each other and then get the number quick and leave.

she's busy and working

The0rangeKind · 2019-10-15T08:29:59+00:00

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CryptoFelon · 2019-10-15T08:59:05+00:00

Could write your number down and give it to her

well_imaguy_sooo_ · 2019-10-15T17:20:00+00:00

I wouldn't worry about it being "weird" as much as I would just make sure it is respectful, honest, and friendly.

You are worried about her saying no, or feeling like she can't say no, and then your presence in her workplace gets awkward. That's normal, we've all dealt with that. The fact that you acknowledge that is already a big step in respecting the whole situation.

Just speak and carry yourself in a way that allows her to be comfortable making an honest reply of yes or no. An honest and comfortable conversation is the solution for awkwardness.

Keep in mind this will mean constantly giving her the out option. Make it easy for her to say no. If she's attracted she won't. If she's not interested, she''ll at least respect your approach and still feel comfortable in your presence, thus what little awkwardness the conversation created will be gone soon.

I often say "It's no big deal, no pressure if you can't." Smile a lot. Don't look desperate. Don't push. Just let her make her decision. It would also help for your suggestion to be very small. A "date" feels too strong. "Grabbing coffee" or simply getting a number is small and low-risk for all parties.

BurghMeatEater · 2019-10-15T22:57:01+00:00

Have business cards? Easy way to give her your contact info

TeatothewhY · 2019-10-15T15:52:42+00:00

If it’s any type of convenience store, casually ask her what her favorite candy/snack is through passive conversation. Then another visit, purchase the favorite item but only after writing your number on it in sharpie, check out and walk away with a flirty (but not creepy) smile and leave it there for her. It leaves the choice up to her, but still shows more thought and effort than just your number on a note. Or, if you want to go a step up (or she doesn’t work at a convenience store) bring her flowers with your number on the card.

9/10 if anyone left their number on a kitkat for me I’d definitely call them.

punkbenRN · 2019-10-15T09:22:49+00:00

The few times i did, i wrote a note with my number and very discreetly gave it to them. No awkwardness, although it seems passive it doesn't put her on the spot and entirely gives the choice to her if she wants to follow up. Make sure in your note you write some distinguishing characteristic so she knows who left the note. It doesnt work often - you dont know if shes straight, or already seeing someone, or isnt feeling it, or that she even read the note - don't expect anything. If it works, cool. If it doesn't, don't go back and follow up, just let it go. Shes at work. Dont make it weird for her.

Its worked twice for me, out of a billion times. Unless you have instant chemistry, girls dont usually go for random dudes numbers, especially when they know where they work.

RudyRoo2017 · 2019-10-15T15:16:39+00:00

I would just give her your name and number on a piece of paper. If you ask for her number or pressure her it could become uncomfortable.

How can I ask a girl out who is at her job without making it weird?

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