I’m so fucking tired of dealing with girls’ stupid games; I’m going to put my own goals and interests in front of chasing girls for a while.

CigarFrog · 2019-12-24T03:28:54+00:00

My Roommate/Wingman and I had a general rule: No matter what happens we're going to have fun! Getting laid was ALWAYS secondary and because of that, we had a blast and we pretty much always got laid! It's a cliche, but it's true. When you don't look for it, is when it happens! I suspect it's because 1) you're having a good time and people tend to gravitate to "The Party" and 2) you don't look needy. Don't talk about the adventure, make it happen!

Give yourself some downtime to discover yourself, go on an adventure, get laid. Tell the story, then repeat! - ZenMachine

GiraffePuncher69 · 2019-12-24T01:49:13+00:00

I say, this is the way. I have adopted this mindset for about 3 years. It's working. Focusing on your own path and believing in your own goals creates confidence. Confidence in what you do and what/who you are. Others will be inspired, or intrigued by it, or whatever you want to call it. If your goal is winning over girls, and they start to understand that "that's it", they'll lose interest because they know you're only in it for "the game". Always put yourself, your goals and interest first, everything else comes second.

midnight7777 · 2019-12-24T04:58:48+00:00

Ironically if you ignore the girls and focus on your own success that will attract girls and solve your problem. Women are attracted to ambition.

MUhholen · 2019-12-24T02:16:44+00:00

Yeah girls aren't worth the chase, ever. You will be a happier man pursuing your goals without worrying about some pair of tits. It's great you are realizing it, now go reach your goals tiger.

user20180620 · 2019-12-24T04:01:24+00:00

Feel the same way. I'm a 23F and have been in and out of relationships/flings for the past 3 years. The last dude I was seeing was narcisistic and manipulated me into bieng his little toy.

After realizing this, and terminating the fling, I reflected on all my past relationships with men and realized it wasn't worth my time. I am young, and have a lot to work towards and a lot to learn. Why waste so much headspace and peace on someone that won't be worth it in the end?

Why not instead use this time to create your future, work towards your goals, and build a happy life independent of anyone else. Honesty learning to be happy alone was one of the best things I could have ever done for myself. I know myself, love myself, and I'm more confident than I've ever been. Great decision man, enjoy this new opportunity to grow!

Bekemoth · 2019-12-24T04:59:43+00:00

Yeah man, let the girls chase you. Tend to the garden and the butterflies will come!

GiraffePuncher69 · 2019-12-24T05:08:54+00:00

That's good!

Don't chase girls. You will just look stupid!

Give more time on self improvement and you'll surprise how many girls will come to you.

ProfessorSlurmp · 2019-12-24T19:45:45+00:00

I’ve recently adopted that mindset. It works. There’s some weird unexplainable thing with girls that is neither conscious nor subconscious. If they see a confident man, who is working towards his goals and is proud of himself and all that, they want to be with him. They are drawn to it in some supernatural way. They can’t resist. Wether that attraction leads to something or not is up to you. But still, it will happen. Period. So yeah, your “Fuck It i’m done i’m working on myself!” mindset will actually give you what you want. Girls coming to you with no games

goodfellas816 · 2019-12-24T04:12:54+00:00

Crazy part about it is that's when they'll come

dprxdread · 2019-12-24T05:55:33+00:00

Bro I feel your pain, I lost a girl recently who I have been giving up everything for and perusing my entire life over and you gotta accomplish things and be happy with yourself before you give it your all for another potential woman to spend your life with

nofapApollo · 2019-12-24T05:59:53+00:00

... ~~for a while~~ from now on.

kevinisleet · 2019-12-24T08:35:30+00:00

Ignore their games. Make it like you know they are playing a game so show a smirk then dismiss it and be yourself. You instantly put yourself on a different level than them and if the girl is just shit testing lower guys for immaturity sake, she will strive to get on your level but never will. If she’s shit testing guys to weed them out and is actually mature, she will instantly get on your level.

lilstrippertipher · 2019-12-24T11:20:07+00:00

Ironically, putting your goals ahead of women is significantly more attractive to women lol

TomHopeless · 2019-12-24T11:51:54+00:00

If she feels the same way, she won’t make you chase them.

Ur_X · 2019-12-24T19:16:35+00:00

But brother, that's what you should have been doing from the start. Indifference, purpose and mystery is the formula of attraction.

WooMaster823 · 2019-12-25T01:09:57+00:00

Doing the same. My 2020 will be defined as the year I firmly put fitness, career, and passions above women. I'll report back in 2021 on the results.

darkopal23 · 2019-12-25T12:29:18+00:00

Never chase girls. Girls are like cats, if you chase them around they just try to escape. Just let your presence be known and they’ll come to you.

2019-12-25T21:37:13+00:00

Been there, done that, it ends up with you getting laid to a girl you dont like that much and then thinking it’s gonna be a stepstone to upgrade, and then you end up with other girls you don’t like that much, and then you end up in a dark place where you are confronted by your demons. Now I’ve been there the whole year and don’t know how it goes on

hspace8 · 2019-12-24T04:29:37+00:00

You're playing games with the girls too right? You're trying to lure them into bed. What do you want from girls? To show them a good time while having fun? Or to bribe them to fuck you?

MikepGrey · 2019-12-24T04:59:48+00:00

I strongly recommend this, own your house and car and then go pick up girl in the 18-25 age range - young enough not to be ruined, and if they are on the older side of that they don't need as much raising but... that also has benefits

2019-12-24T07:11:55+00:00

It’s honestly what game is all about, putting your own interest and goals first and becoming a better you!

bearstrippercarboat · 2019-12-24T15:41:08+00:00

Lol youre not seducing them

TheRealChrisMurphy · 2019-12-24T17:01:40+00:00

May I recommend a wing-girl?

I always had my greatest success when I went out to bars with a friend who was a girl. It instantly makes you look normal. And it puts you in the mindset that you’re not sleeping with this person, so you end up treating them totally different. Many times, the wing-girl ends up a little jealous and might make a move on you anyway.

harryhoudini66 · 2019-12-24T17:13:05+00:00

Good. Keep these two quotes in mind.

A man who fails with woman is a man who seeks out relationships to give his life meaning.
Women would rather share a high value man than be saddled with a faithful loser.

You should be working on yourself development. Becoming the best version of yourself. Find your life's purpose. When going out, enjoy yourself above all. Hang out with friends, family, put yourself out of your comfort zone. It is through this growth that you will attract woman and they chase you.

BrexFlexx · 2019-12-24T18:05:03+00:00

That’s what real men do an you will eventually get the chicks

bdubbs09 · 2019-12-24T18:07:21+00:00

Women are like buses. Never chase one because theres another 15mins later.

2019-12-24T20:14:25+00:00

Literally me since 2017 (I’m currently 19). Let me tell you this. You’re not going to get any girls doing this. Most people love to say that iT HaPpEnS wHeN YoUrE nOt LoOkInG fOr iT, but it’s such a lie.

Go get that money!

JulioMaxmimus · 2019-12-24T22:42:24+00:00

The most important advice is stop trying. Some of the advice here still encourages you to chase pussy but not directly like "Just go out to have fun". Even then you're probably going out acting like you're having fun so girls will see you having fun so you'll get laid. Don't try at all. Don't try and have a good time. Just do you and it will work out.

mochalatteicecream · 2019-12-24T17:12:06+00:00

I started chasing sex at 13 and I feel like I wasted some of my best years. I spent so much time courting vapid and uninteresting mud-ducks that I didn’t focus on things like building honest friendships or developing a career path. If I could live another life I’d focus on what’s really important.

Happyhotel · 2019-12-24T16:56:54+00:00

Yikes

Title	I’m so fucking tired of dealing with girls’ stupid games; I’m going to put my own goals and interests in front of chasing girls for a while.
Author	GiraffePuncher69
Upvotes	153
Comments	54
Date	December 24, 2019 1:41 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/eeu5yr/im_so_fucking_tired_of_dealing_with_girls_stupid/
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