A girl who was going to come over tonight just flaked hard on me. But I know some people going to a bar for ladies night and I'm about to head there.

But we all know no man should go out meeting women cold...

So guys, what do you do to get pumped up? Also, what are your pre-going out rituals?

I try to:

1) Put on some badass looking clothes and I won't leave until I look into the mirror and KNOW I look great

2) Remind myself that women WANT to be approached, and they DEFINITELY want to be approached by awesome guys like me because they're sick of weirdo chodes who put her on a pedestal and just buy her drinks. I am a fucking breath of fresh air to them.

3) Remind myself that I'll probably get rejected by some girls. Big fucking whoop.

4) This is one I've slacked on lately, but it's been good when I've done it: Write down 3 things I need to work on in my notepad in my phone. For example...

  • Ask good, interesting questions... avoid interview-like questions
  • Approach within 3 seconds of seeing a girl worth approaching. DO NOT OVERTHINK SHIT!
  • Take a girl to sit down somewhere else within 5 minutes of talking to her. Because if she won't come with me, I likely won't get much else out of her

...and at the end of the night (or the next day if I end up with some action), review the list and see if I followed through

5) Listen to some music that'll pump myself up. Drink a beer to loosen up as well. SMILE.

6) If the circumstances allow it, I try to go to a low key bar to do some approaching just for the sake of approaching, to warm up a bit.

and that's my process! I really want to hear what other people do as well. What's worked well for you?