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[–]TheMailmanic 36 points37 points38 points 5 years ago (29 children) | Copy Link
For men it's easier. Way easier. As long as you're in shape and have a direction in life you'll have no trouble getting laid or finding a girlfriend.
I got laid far more in my 30s than my 20s
[–]shanuv12 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes same here, girls specially younger ones find me more attractive now than in my 20s. Maturity and emotional control plays the key role. Also i m very driven and exactly know what i want.
[–]omeed88865 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Wdym easier for men?
[–]FluffyCanary 15 points16 points17 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
For the perspective of a late 20s dude: I like hot girls. Now, I've recently considered this, and realized that my definition of "hot girl" has expanded somewhat since college. When I was 20, the hot girls were basically models. Nowadays, the hot girls are generally either (a) taking care of themselves, or (b) young enough that their bad decisions have not yet caught up to their metabolism.
In other words, I can count on one hand the number of hot women over 30 I've seen in the last year.
[–]kayatiger 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Men have it 100x better in their 30's than women. Spend your 20's having your fun with girls but focus most of your time building your wealth & keeping fit. By the time you're in your 30's, you'll be peaking. Women's looks fade in their mid-late 20's & by the time they approach their 30's want to settle down with a safe guy before their looks go totally downhill. Most single women in their 30's have a lot of problems (emotional, party girls, bitter feminists, mental health) that make them not even worth dating considering how many hot young women in their 20's are out there. "Men age like wine, women age like milk." -kind of a harsh saying but a lot of truth it in
[–]TheMailmanic 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You're gonna get banned for these harsh truths
[–]DaNk_HaZe2345 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lucky you
[–]CH705-807 -4 points-3 points-2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes, it undermines their ability to 'get' a bunch of guys, making it better for us
[–]pilipinonguci11 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
What do you mean by "direction in life"? A high paying job?
[–]TheMailmanic 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Money helps but that's not what I'm talking about. It's more about having goals and a purpose in life and knowing what you want. You should not be playing video games 12 h a day and smoking weed everyday
[–]pilipinonguci11 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Fair enough. I think the big struggle for me is finding a job that I really like. I'm doing sales right now because I feel like it's a really transferable skill and sales is important in any industry, but I worry about my future career a lot. I'm only 21 so I guess I still have like 9 years to figure things out lol.
[–]TheMailmanic 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You're very young and at the perfect age to try a bunch of different things to find out what you like. Don't worry about it you'll be fine
[–]pilipinonguci11 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Thanks, I think I'm just worried because I've tried a few different things that didn't really work out. I have a lot of interesting stories from those situations, though, so I'm sure that's something women would love
[–]TheMailmanic 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Try a few more things then... there a thousands of things you can do in life
Sales can be a great career for sure
[–]neisbsudnei9191 -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
This is entirely false lmfao you going to the gym doesn’t make you attractive to women. No gym exercise will ever fix your face and 2 the older you are and the less experience you have you’re a freak to women.
[–]TheMailmanic 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Ok bud keep that negative attitude and see how far it gets you in life
[–]neisbsudnei9191 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Making over 6 figures and have my dream home, car, and traveled the world..... yeah it didn’t get me far lmfaoo your attitude doesn’t affect your life. Go ahead try to buy a lottery ticket with positivity and see if you magically win it. I’ll wait. : D
[–]TheMailmanic 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You think women like a shitty attitude like yours? I think I see what the problem is now
[–]DaNk_HaZe2345 -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
False I’m a great example I’m not getting laid and have a lot going for me and been single for years
[–]NDex101 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
You're exactly the kind of guy I like to help. Some guys don't know how to pick up women. Even some of the most attractive males have trouble. Look, there are some sweet girls who make things easier for men. Men get in these relationships and think they did something. Really, their girlfriend is the one that made it happen. Cheers to those women. Yet, those women aside. Men, we all know that a woman can tear a man down in seconds if you are not on your game. After breakups, some men don't know how to get back in the game. Well, you just never were. In the game, that is. The circumstances of were never a clean slate. Some have never had to build from scratch. I've been there, but I'm no longer in that realm. I've learned how to pickup women without cheese ball pickup lines and just winging it. I learned how to be smooth and precise. I now live this lifestyle. If I breakup with a woman, there's no dreading having to get back on the saddle. I'm going to have someone there and soon. The thing is even the woman that I let go or who I had differences with knows it. I'm offering this to whoever needs this. Let me help you. I'm a pickup coach. Maybe you know someone who is going through this or maybe you just want to see if I'm blowing smoke up your ass. Ask me any question you may have. If you don't like the answer we never have to speak again. If you do like it, we can swap business info. So, dm me if you'd like to learn pickup.
[–]TheMailmanic 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Do you lift?
Can't tell what's not working for you without more info
[–]DaNk_HaZe2345 -2 points-1 points0 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I work out mma but i don’t see what lifting has to do with it! So you’re saying you need muscles to get girls ? I had no idea
[–]TheMailmanic 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Physical attractiveness always matters. There are other factors too. Without more info I can't tell what your situation is
Are you just here to bitch and moan?
[–]cacad00d00 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
it do be like that sometimes XD
[–]DaNk_HaZe2345 -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I appreciate the negatively man greatly good day.
[–]YoungGucci66 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Well tbh he wasn't that negative and you were the one who brought negativity into this with your bitching and complaining
[–]DaNk_HaZe2345 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Like I said man I appreciate the negativity that’s all you know how to show
[–]YoungGucci66 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And it's nice seeing your straight up negative energy which you were showing in the first place (BTW I was just watching from the sidelines, I wasn't the first guy who replied to you).... Though how about you start putting some effort into your looks (aka lifting) rather than trying to earn pity from strangers on the internet? You just want everyone to treat you like a baby or something and feed you lies? "don't worry king, it's gonna be all right", no. Stop being a pussy and just work out ffs.
[–]InternationalBorder9 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
It's fine (30) or id even say it was great before covid. I don't get any pressure/expectations from friends or family and it wouldn't really mean much too me of they did. It's my life I've got to do what's best for me not what other people think I should.
A lot of freedom and low stress. If I 'settle down' it'll happen when it happens and that's cool too. Never been a person to think 'where will my life be in x' I just go with the flow.
Parents divorced when I was around 8 but they are both nice, gentle people (never yelled too much or got aggressive with each other) so I never saw their relationship as 'bad' even though it obviously wasn't working. On the flip side I don't remember them being overly affectionate towards each other so I'm sure that had an effect on me too.
[–]letsgetrandy 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
What does your family think about your choices? What about your friends?
No matter what you choose to do with your life, there will always be people who think you've made the wrong choice. Just remember, it's YOUR life, not theirs. They get to choose for them, you get to choose for you.
Were you always thinking that you wanted your life to be this way?
Ever since I was a kid, watching Sam Malone on Cheers and Dan Fielding on Night Court, I always knew my future was to be that of a womanizer. With the exception of a handful of fleeting moments, I've never wanted to be married or "grow old together" with one person, and I've only even though about the desire to have a kid now that I'm in my 40s.
My 30s were really the awakening for me. Guys in their 20s are still learning how the world works, in many ways insecure, and they're inexperienced with women, and not settled into a career. But in your 30s, you're more mature, more confident, earning good money, living in a nice home, and carrying with you the experience of all those awkward relationships from your 20s.
Set a goal for yourself that by age 35 you will have a nice Jeep, a motorcycle, a leather jacket, a dog, and a few well-chosen tattoos... and your life will be amazing.
[–]Dannnnnnyyy2 points 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Thanks for the answer. I just enjoy life as it is. It is nice not being committed and being ready for any encounter you have where you live or other cities when visiting. I had a jeep once and it took a shit on me but I’ll get another one some day
[–]aaw9573 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
I’m single in my late 40s, and it’s awesome! If you focus on taking care of yourself first (physically, mentally, and financially) everything else with women falls into place. You learn which women to avoid, which women are there for short term adventure, and which women have long term potential (if that’s something you still want). Mainly though you learn how to balance your priorities, avoid a scarcity mindset and enjoy all life has to offer.
[–]alec5280 5 years ago* [recovered] (11 children) | Copy Link
Do you have kids? And do you date women who have kids?
[–]aaw9573 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
I do, they’re both grown and in college, both doing very well.
With women and kids, I’m not completely adverse to dating single moms but I tread very carefully. You have to analyze the situation and trust your instincts. One thing I learned the hard way from my ex-wife (and a few others), when it comes to relationships you must set high standards! They have to be attractive, mature, smart and most important EMOTIONALLY STABLE. If they don’t meet my relationship standards then I determine if they’ll be fun to date for a while. Most of the single moms I come across are fun to date, but not suitable for a relationship.
With relationships, never settle for less than what you want (and deserve) and no matter how hot she is (or how great the sex might), never ignore her red flags! You have to respect yourself enough to walk away from bad situation (but it’s okay to have a little fun first 😉).
[–]alec5280 5 years ago* [recovered] (9 children) | Copy Link
I’m a little younger than you (early 40s), but I never had kids or married. Because of this I prefer not to seriously date women with children. What sucks is so many women over 35 have kids. Lol
[–]aaw9573 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, it’s tough at our age. They either have kids (and a bunch of drama) or are in a hurry to have kids (and a bunch of drama). But, up until the point they start to act crazy, it’s a lot of fun.
[–]alec5280 5 years ago* [recovered] (7 children) | Copy Link
Have you tried dating younger women?
[–]aaw9573 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I have. Great thing about where I am now is that I can look across the age spectrum. It’s always interesting seeing women at different phases in life. Pros and cons with each group. Women in their early 20s are a lot fun, but can be annoying and (no surprise) very immature. Late 20s they’re still out and having fun, but are looking for something serious before they hit 30. Early 30s looking for a husband or looking to rebound from a failed marriage (usually with kids in tow). Women in this phase are fun, they still look good (in general) and have gained some maturity. Women in their late 30s/early 40s, as discussed, are a mixed bag. I pay very close attention to their stories. A warning to ANY man reading this; be very wary of women who do not/or can’t hold themselves accountable. If everything that has gone wrong in their life is someone else’s fault, have fun but don’t get wrapped into anything serious. It is IMPOSSIBLE to have a long and lasting relationship with a woman who has no personal accountability! (Read that last sentence again!)
[–]MakeSail 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
What questions would you ask the woman to find out she has no accountability?
[–]aaw9573 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Two things:
(1) When you meet her and as you get to know her, pay attention to the stories she tells. Women tend to set patterns in their lives that you can pick up on if you pay attention. The girl that always dates jerks, the girl that never sticks around for long, the girl who is a systemic train wreck but can’t figure out why, etc. Pay attention to her stories, and whether or not she takes responsibility for those patterns/repeated mistakes.
(2) Pay attention when there is friction in the relationship that is clearly her fault. Does she admit when she’s wrong (when things cool off), does she accept responsibility and apologize? Or does she justify her actions because of how she “felt”, and therefore absolve herself of her actions?
If the answer to the last question is yes, you’ve got problems! Remember whatever red flags she waves while you’re dating, become your life when you get married. You CAN NOT build a life with a woman that has no personal accountability. Period!
[–]MakeSail 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Thank you for the detailed description. I am not really looking to get married, just trying to understand how to vet potential partners.
[–]aaw95732 points 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Marriage is a hard road. Don’t do it unless you absolutely, positively, find the right woman. Until then (if then) have fun and stay single.
[–]MakeSail2 points 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Would you mind if I PM you with further questions? I have some experience that you may find interesting.
[–]aaw95731 point 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Don’t mind at all.
[–]neisbsudnei9191 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Your confusion is from the definition of what single is, being single and attractive and stuffing your dick in 100 women a week probably is the best life you’ll ever live. Except that’s not what the majority gets, the majority is just plain ass lonely. They try to go on dates and get rejected.... as you can see this is two very different lives.
[–]DaNk_HaZe2345 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It’s the worst thing ever and mind you I have everything going good in my life but yet I cant get a girlfriend... by far the hardest thing Ive had to deal with and i wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy
[–]GoldSmith64 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don’t give up. If you’ve done what you need to do for yourself, your chances are that much higher
[–]Xombie0991 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Depends how you spend your 20s.
[–]MakeSail 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How exactly does society push you into getting married?
[–]civilsavage69 -4 points-3 points-2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I wish I had found a naive young girl when I was younger who would have stuck with me because she didnt know she could sleep around instead of actually being a quality girl to me. Now I just find women I already know I wont keep.
[–]Dauntless11911 -4 points-3 points-2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Propaganda for paradigms of certain type of "people" is propaganda for certain types of people. When u die, you'll all meet the Lord and He will dig your graves because y'all are vile.
There is a beautiful innate wiring of what's acceptable and what's not, what's perverse and what's not, what's beautiful and what's not not. And we all know right from wrong. Lucifer's dogmas and bondage replaces that. As he forces his will unto u. Retribution will have its say. Let the sway of the world sway to the beat of his perverse guileful malicious heart.
[–]randathrowaway1211 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh go molest an alter boy padre.
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