Hi everyone,

I believe confidence, frame, and mindset, with no motives and the whole IDGAF attitude is the key to success, but in a positive sincere method.

First and foremost, there is not one form of hyperbole in this post. This is honest, real, and actually aggrivating, but a sure, 100% truth (to me anyway) that confidence is the key.

I rolled into a fairly white, suburban club on Saturday. I am of brown decent, and I come from an more urban area. I dress very urban. This night I wore high top air force ones, a sick decal gray shirt, a gray Boston hat (no bend in brim), and khaki shorts.

I stuck out like a sore thumb, but I didn't care. I had a secret weapon, which at first I was scared to admit about, but in retrospect it changed my life, forever. My secret weapon was my friend molly.

Molly made me feel euphoric, and I was, there was no front. I smiled and walked with my chest out because I felt that way.

I walked right up to the dance floor, (there was a 90's cover band playing), and just jammed out. Right up front and center. At first people were looking at me weird, but Molly helped me not care, soon the attention came.

I went to go get a drink and just smiled at every person I saw, every person I made contact with, not just girls, guys, the bouncer. I felt so connected to everyone.

Three different girls on different occasions, asked me if I was in line for a drink, (I was in the ordering station, waiting for one). I took all of them as IOI's. I danced with all of them.

I go back to dancefloor, out of drink, and repeat. This time a girl comes up to me and she's kinda a bitch, HB9.

"MOVE"

So I move. Later I see her smoking a cig and I wanted a cig.

I saw her, I asked her, she gave me one. IOI

I said "Wow I really thought you were mean and a bitch after what you said to me in there"

"Ya I am kinda bitch sometimes"

She pulls out some lipgloss. IOI

With a big smile, (remember molly), wow that's some cool lip gloss

she replies with some shit about keeping her lips fresh, once again, I see it as an IOI

can i try some?

Sure, how do ...

Put some on your lips

as I said that I walked right up to her and looked her dead in the eye.

She was down. It took 30 seconds. Thirty fucking seconds to bag an HB9, like wtf is going on?

The rest of the night I started to ehhhemm, roll a little more, but it was fantastic.

My goal is to achive this feeling without the help of a substance, althought I feel alchol is always a good choice.

But the next day I thought about all of it, and I found a really cool method in which to connect to people, which I think is of huge value. Please read on if interested.

Key one is having no motives. You're not there to fuck, you're not there to kiss, you're not there to get a girl. Your'e there to have a good time and that's it, but you have to be SINCERE. Anyone can appear to not have motives, but sincerety is the defining key. The hardest person to convince of this is yourself. Seriously. Might sound like some pseudo bullshit, but if you convince yourself of that.....

Rule two is the control by giving control method. This is all my own thoughts, and I guess, studies.

I've found a real cool way to connect with people, especially females is this theory I called the proxy-control.

Essentially, when you're talking with someone, you subtly let them know they are in control of the convsersation, BUT because you gave it to them. It's very hard to explain in words, but I guess to connect it with some former PUA strategy, you're saying I am the prize, and I am interested in you enough that I would like for you to show me a good time, or stimulate me through conversation. But again, the key is SINCERITY.

BUT ABOVE ALL, SERIOUSLY ABOVE ALL SINCERITY IS THE KEY, and this is why I think my friend molly helps me, because she really genuinely makes me so sincerely interested in people.

Thanks for reading.