Keeping plates feels like a chore. Am I missing something?

BusterVadge · 2018-08-24T18:24:22+00:00

I wouldn’t say I’m 100% sold on everything.

Good for you man... That's what it's all about, take what works for you and leave the rest.

It just takes time and energy I could otherwise spend on building my life and meeting new girls who might pass the 3rd date barrier. So what’s the point?

What am I missing?

Have you considered open long term relationships? Or MLTR? Seems like they could be ideal for you. Of course you would have to fixyour first problem of not finding any women to your standards.

cenie · 2018-08-24T18:08:53+00:00

You're not missing anything. Some guys like a harem, some don't. I think a common misconception of TRP is that every guy HAS to be rotating multiple plates. You do you, but be the best you you can be.

CalvinRichland · 2018-08-24T17:36:58+00:00

Yeah, no argument from me.

Zanford · 2018-08-25T01:23:11+00:00

If you lose interest, you lose interest, feel free to let her go. It shouldn't feel like a job.

If you're reluctant to let a girl go b/c of 'scarcity mentality' ('what if I hit a dry spell and have no one else/better to fuck for awhile')...gotta spend more time gaming and self-improving 'til that goes away.

And/or think of ways to make a plate more interesting. See how much you can get out of the relationship, try different kinky sexual itself and see how deep into BDSM etc. you can go with her. (You'll be surprised - almost every girl will turn out to be SUPER into it.)

Or pick two places and pitch a threeway with both fo them. Worst case scenario is they spaz out over it and break...well, you were gonna drop 'em anyway, so no loss.

purplefidgetmidget · 2018-08-24T18:16:58+00:00

Well, what's the point of just banging girls a couple of times and moving on? It's quite similar to the solipsistic nature of women that is criticised so much, just acting in the moment based on your feelings and needs.

I don't think you're missing anything, as long as you have your mission and you're improving your life steadily.

I have tried plates and I did not enjoy it. I am not particularly sex-driven though, once you understand the game and the minds of women it kinda loses its appeal.

At some point I will try to vet for an LTR but I doubt there will be any results.

CainPrice · 2018-08-24T18:59:37+00:00

Generally, a consistent partner is supposed to be easier than arranging a new one.

Swiping on Tinder, matching someone, sending messages, setting up a date, meeting a girl for drinks for an hour, and escalating, for maybe a 70% chance at getting laid is a lot to have to do every time you're horny.

Sending a text to a previous sex partner at 8:30, she arrives at 8:45, minimal kissing or chit chat, sex is over by 9:45, minimal cuddling, she's gone by 10:00, you shower, and you're good for the gym and work the next day is a lot easier. And if she's busy or sick of being a booty call, you hit up the next one on your list. That's why you have half a dozen other girls in your phone just like her.

Pulling new casual partners is something you do in your spare time, or if your main list gets low.

If you're working really, really hard to maintain a casual sex partner, you're putting too much into her.

BeeBopJoe · 2018-08-24T21:50:10+00:00

Its normal, I am the same way. I rather just be putting attention on my own hobbies and things instead of trying to pursue plates. No matter how attractive a girl is, if I see no long term potential in her I won't even bother trying to pursue her in any way shape or form, friend zone her at best.

I only really invest time on girls who are clearly good LTR candidates.

WestRoxbury · 2018-08-25T02:25:52+00:00

low effort booty calls on short notice, like text at 12 bang at 1230 sleep at 130
if you build chemistry with people the sex is better
not repeating ALL the same boring shit when you're talking before/after banging
you can train her to be your ideal partner
you can fuck her better over time if you pay attention, this also lowers your effort

At the end of the day it's all about the effort:quality ratio, plates are a way to lower the effort and boost the sex quality

Something to think about is why you don't stay interested. Are your biddies just not that exciting or attractive to begin with? (Not how they look but how attracted your dick is to them on day 1). Some just aren't that great and you can practice catch n release. Are you just stagnating in the relationship and not doing anything new at all? As a man that one's all on you. Idk stick it in her butt, wipe your poopyduck on her pillow and see if that brings you back the spark

always_sad12 · 2018-08-25T03:33:16+00:00

This sounds like a brag post

Ricklogical · 2018-08-24T19:46:56+00:00

Cool bro, then don't

Title	Keeping plates feels like a chore. Am I missing something?
Author	__uwotm8__
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Comments	17
Date	August 24, 2018 5:13 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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