In general it's not a huge issue, but from time to time, I have huge spikes of insecurity. They usually last anywhere from a night to a week. I'm wondering how other people cope with those situations.

Last night was an example. It was a day that started off on the wrong foot and got worse. I went apartment hunting all day, and I was totally exhausted from it. (I'm also really worried about not being able to find a place, as I am desperate to move out so I can resume my could-be sex life).

Afterwards, I went out to try and improve my mood. I was talking to a girl I like while I was out, and I could feel every bit of my nervousness seep out. At the end of the night, I asked for her phone number (which was totally spontaneous -- almost unconscious -- and I'm happy about that much).... but I got a deer in headlights look, and she pushed to give me her Facebook instead.

I got home, and I talk to a few friends online who I haven't talked to in forever. One of my friends is talking about some girl who's asking him about bondage or some shit, and the other is apparently starting to going out with one of his friends. I'm feeling jealous and unworthy. I know better than to draw this out, so after the conversations stall, I log out and head to bed.

They are all totally isolated events, but all of them worked together with my fatigue to put me into a totally defeated mood the whole night.

Shit like that's going to happen from time to time, and I'm not taking it as a problem I have and need to fix, but I was curious how seddit copes with situations like this. In all the tough fronts people put up to appear "alpha" and cool and in control, what do you do when you clearly let that control slip for a while? Not even in front of others -- just in the quiet of your home. How do you frame your thoughts when circumstances have left you feeling totally defeated and worthless?