Okay, so this is a follow-up to a few other posts ive made. Ive been talking to this girl from OkCupid for about three weeks now. I am 27, she is 24. Her statements from the very beginning have been that she wants to 'start slow' and 'be friends before being lovers'.

1st date: Started off good, lots of kino/communication, devolved into shit-tests, did not even get a kiss, but she followed-up with a phone call that lasted for hours.

2nd date: One week after first date, went pretty well. Tons of kino/escalation, made out, got into bed, got her shirt/bra off, but too much ASD to overcome and claims she was on her period. The making out had zero resistance, but it took a lot of pressure to her any further. This very long second date went from from 7 pm to 5 am. I feel like I overstayed my welcome at her house after the date, I should have bailed sooner but things kept escalating.

It's been a few days since date 2, and we have talked about a date #3. She has told me where she wants to go. Our communication only occurs if I tell her to call me, or if I text her. She always reciprocates but rarely proactively makes communication efforts. For example, if I say, "I expect you to call me tonight", she will 100% call me and we will talk for a good while. If I don't call/text her, she will not call/text me.

What are some signals outside of the date that I can look for? We literally have almost no communication unless im the one to press for it. What sort of things can I ask/say to keep the interest flowing? We both have busy schedules and can only date on the weekends at the moment, so how can I fuel the fire for a full week? I expect an f-close if I can continue to escalate and reach the third date.

So in conclusion:

  1. What are ways to gauge a woman's interest between dates (1 week timespan)?

  2. What are ways to fuel the fire through text/phone after we've been talking for 3 weeks and have had two dates?

Thank you to everyone. I wouldn't have had this opportunity with her without everyone's guidance.