Hey guys,

So since starting pickup, I've become a whole lot better at being social. There are plenty of times when I've felt like the life of the party, been at the center of attention, found myself in awesome conversations with awesome people. My energy level has skyrocketed (especially when I dose myself with caffeine...)

Problem is, I'm pretty sure I've become too much of a jerk. I find myself saying mean things (first things I learned about the community were some awful notions about negs which built some habits that have been very hard to break). I'm loud, really high energy, and crass. I've stopped giving a fuck about what I say to the point where I say some really out there things, and I've noticed it impacting what my friends and coworkers say (and probably think) about me. Women also are often turned off by it (although my current GF doesn't mind--she has a sense of humor as sharp and cutting as mine).

How do I transition out of the "asshole zone" (the term inspired by someone else's post today) while still being social, friendly, pretty high energy, and the life of the party? Oh, and obviously while being attractive to women.

Oh, and please don't tell me that this is just the old AFC me talking, and a real alpha dude wouldn't be worried about shit like this. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be a decent human being, and wanting to be perceived as a decent human being, in addition to being confident and fun.