I decided to start writing a field report once in a while. Mostly for my own sake, as a way to reflect on what I'm doing right, what I need to work on, etc. This particular night was not very good, hopefully I'll be able to see some progression through these reports.

The night started around 23:30, I went out to a bar slash club with a good friend of mine and a japanese girl he invited along. This is the time people start going out in my country, and the entry line started to build up right after we got there. After a little while there I walked over to two girls ("One" and "Two") who sat at a table talking, and asked if I could join them. They said we could sit there until their friends arrived. We did and I tried to sound friendly and start a conversation, but they appeared to have very little interest in us. My first attempt was "So, who are you waiting for?" to which One replied "Two girlfriends of ours, they're on their way." then immediately turned to Two and started talking with her. They left without saying anything after about 10 minutes, and never came back. This has happened to me a lot lately. Need to work on openers. Also need to be less creepy I think. (I was just sitting there awkwardly without talking to anyone for a while.)

At about 00:00 a couple of girls ("Three" and "Four") walked by our table, clearly looking for somewhere to sit. Without getting up I told them that they could sit at our table if they wanted to, and they did. I managed to do this relatively smoothly I think. I introduced myself and my friends and started talking. These girls were much more friendly. A couple of their friends came over (a guy and a girl ("Five")), and introduced themselves to us. There were no more chairs, so I said "there are more chairs over there if you wanna sit down!" to Five. She told me that a real gentleman would go get the chairs for them, and I replied that "well, I'm not like most guys." I love when girls say stuff like this to me, because it gives you something to work with and allowed me to establish a more playful mood. She got the chairs herself and sat down. (Out of all the girls I talked with this night, Five was the one I managed to attract the most. She gave me a nice hug when she left with her boyfriend 20 minutes later and told me she had fun. I probably should have tried to ask for her number even though she had a boyfriend.) We all talked for a while and they were all nice people. I talked to everyone in the group but focused on Three, as she was the one I liked the best.

I remember running out of things to talk about a lot, next time I'll try to use threading. At one point I was standing alone with Three and talked to her about something boring. I did some minor kino with her arm (commenting on her bracelet) and was standing pretty close to her and playing with eye contact, but other than that I didn't really do much. I wasn't thinking enough. Eventually she told me she was going over to her friends to talk to them. I should have moved her somewhere else and then started with lots of kino. I also should have talked slower with more passion.

At around 02:00, I realized that I had been drinking too much. I wasn't thinking clearly. Note to self: drink less beer and more soda and water. I decided to go over to Three again and try to talk to her again, but after a little while her friends were leaving and she decided to go with them. My friend and I and the japanese girl went out to the smoking patio, which was really crowded. I tried to hit on a couple of girls but didn't really know what to say. I was probably acting really drunk. Then I realized that essentially all the guys there were just as drunk as me and hitting on random girls just like I was doing. The japanese girl was getting lots of guys approaching her too, and this hadn't happened at all earlier. I'm not sure what to make of this observation, but falling into this crowd of horny guys who need tons of alcohol to talk to girls is definitely not good. Next time I'm in this situation I'll try to think of something clever that makes me stand out. It's probably easier to just meet someone earlier in the evening though.