Getting "In State"

sillymallard · 2011-09-18T05:47:52+00:00

Some of my steps:

For me, the most important one is to resolve any undone work or other things (e.g. personal conflicts) stressing me out. I try to get everything done and resolved, but often this isn't possible. So I come up with a detailed plan and timeline for how I will finish my work and resolve anything else stressing myself out in life. I also plan my night out: where/when I'm going to go, how many places, whether or not I'm going to drink, and how many sets I want to open.
After that, the wheels whizzing in my brain start slowing down. A cold shower was mentioned here once. It really frees my mind from thinking about anything but the present. I shower till I start shivering/hyperventilating.
I make myself look pretty: clothes, cologne, shave, hair, shoes.
After that, vigorously jumping up and down, slapping myself, and screaming to myself that I'm awesome, and that everybody wants to be your friend like a crazy retarded neanderthal can sometimes help. You may want to do this in the car (not while driving )if you have roommates.
Then I think about how funny animals are, mallards in particular, and then think about how similar and funny humans can be behind the veneer of clothes and speech. I grow a warm invincible grin of amusement inside myself akin to the childlike desire of poking random things with a stick to see what will happen. I then try to go out and bring happiness to people like the kid who said, "Dad! There's new friends up there c'mon!".
I do my best not forget that I'm not just some fun kid, but a man that likes women and want to have sex.
As soon as I am out, I've tried to interact with the first group of people I see. Some nights it was just a bunch of guys to whom I would say "What's up guys!" It's better to try and make people laugh. Keep doing this and build up some momentum. Then just ride the wave of cruising around and talking to random people.
One note: I promise to myself that if I still feel down despite resolving my work issues, cold shower, jumping up and down, getting myself all decked out, etc, that I don't have to go out. I promise myself to at least go through all the steps for going out, not promise myself to actually go out. After going through all my state steps, I usually find it much easier to decide to go out.
Second note/disclaimer: I am an AFC.

turtle_thunder · 2011-09-18T05:35:48+00:00

The first few times, you can't make it happen. you just need to be in that mood. Once you figure out what makes you feel like that it is easy to get back in that state of mind. For me its always different. Once I stared into the sky and just imagined all the fun, exciting expierences I have waiting in my future, I breathed the night air and it made me feel so good I was on top of the world. A common way to get in state to work out and dress well, and after some time you realize how good you really look after the changes, and man that shit feels goooood.

2011-09-18T15:26:52+00:00

Pre-game

Get good sleep, take a nap if you must
Eat a lot, eat healthy, stop drinking things that dehydrate you, like coffee
Exercise, esp cardiovascular, releases endorphins which reduce stress
Stop masturbating, it kills drive and makes you bored of girls

Game

Open 10 sets on the street before you get to the club
Get rejected. The worse the rejection, the faster you hit the point of indifference aka "i don't give a damn" land. So go to the hottest girls and get rejected really badly
Once you no longer give a damn, your night gets better

2011-09-19T00:15:22+00:00

One of my favorite concepts from the RSD blueprint decoded is the idea that you have an emotion called "resistance". Basically it's a feeling that keeps you from doing something. It's the emotion you get when you get AA, the emotion you get when you don't want to try something new, when you're in your head, etc. The easiest way for me to get in state is to overcome that emotion.

When you want to do something and feel that lump in your stomach, make yourself go do it. Each time you overcome that personal barrier, you feel better and get more into state. I'm not even talking about opening girls. You want to sing? Do it. You want to dance but are worried about how well you dance? Go do it. I've gotten in state from fucking around with the whiteboards that the people on my dorm's floor put on their doors. Even if you do fail and face consequences, own it. Never be afraid of rejection or judgement, they're just more obstacles to overcome.

tl;dr: If you want to do something and are afraid, go do it. The feeling of success will get you hugely in state.

throwme212345 · 2011-09-19T00:50:14+00:00

Two rum and cokes. Liberal on the rum will do it.

Hormander · 2011-09-18T09:33:05+00:00

Listen to entertaining music.

GuoKaiFeng · 2011-09-18T12:37:43+00:00

I'd second the working out a bit. You're gonna feel a lot better with the endorphin release alone, and with that comes the added boost in confidence.

fragglemook · 2011-09-18T14:36:42+00:00

Keep it simple, stupid. Just move. Two hours before you're due to go out, take a brisk walk for half an hour to clear your mind. Then get home, get on the phone to friends or whatever and keep moving, talking and doing.

idomiralin · 2011-09-18T15:33:56+00:00

Think about how many girls you can lose if you don't get in state. If I wanna get in good mood, I begin to socialize, to speak to many people, all ages, men or women, even at the phone. You have to warm up and after that you're ready for some action.;) Other ways to get in state would be to do something you really like, maybe to listen to some music,... . If you want to read some motivating articles, then visit http://seduceandattract.blogspot.com/ and there are big chances to get in state.

Wonderman09 · 2011-09-18T22:27:30+00:00

Just go mental to high energy songs, works for me :) Stuff like this; http://youtu.be/dxFIQSZpqcY

Mike81890 · 2011-09-19T22:53:05+00:00

I've only been playing this game for a little while, but the weather is huge for me. If its not a crisp cool autumn night its just harder for me to get in state.

I love driving and I love music so I make sure I have some banging music to drive with.

The perfect storm for me is driving with the windows down, blasting LCD Soundsystem, in some nice clothes."I'm already having this much fun. I can't wait to see the rest of the awesomeness still to come in my evening". I get out of the car totally in state at the bar. Smoke a cigarette and go.

harmreductionist · 2011-09-18T08:23:19+00:00

Drink

iznou · 2011-09-18T05:43:38+00:00

Fuck getting in state. You're not a robot, you have moods. Deal with it.

Title	Getting "In State"
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Date	September 18, 2011 4:53 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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