how do you become fun in day to day life?

breadrising · 2012-03-22T17:18:00+00:00

It sounds like you're the one living a more fun life. Seriously, if you're passionate about sailing and different martial arts, women are going to be so much more impressed by you than the average "I can do a kegstand, and can quote Family Guy" dudes that crowd the bars and fight for attention. Honestly, just enjoy being yourself; people appreciate someone who has interesting passions.

But if you do want to stand out more in a day to day environment; smile. Smile all the fucking time. Not in a creepy way, but when talking to others, when listening, it doesn't matter. Just smile. People feel so much more comfortable and you'll come off as a happy individual who will be perceived as a fun guy.

Marsupian · 2012-03-22T13:54:16+00:00

You don't necessarily need to be high energy or be an entertainer to pick up girls. Just be congruent and more calm, confident and laid back and do things you enjoy doing. Also you don't need to be the life of the entire party, just be the life of your party.

When I'm out I get most of my enjoyment and energy from doing stupid ass shit or just enjoying the music/vibe. When I'm out with a friend we like to approach girls and try to weird them out by saying random shit or asking very weird/personal questions ("are you more of a boobies person or an ass person?"). It's always fun to see the amount of shit some girls put up with. I also like to ask girls for advice on hitting on a guy or talk to them about how fucking handsome Ryan Gosling is and how I would totally give him a BJ followed by saying "no homo ofc". It's also fun to ask a girl for advice on how to hit on one of your friends and then ask her to show it to you (pretty baller wingman move if you pull it off).

In general being lighthearted, trying stupid shit and being nonsensical in general makes me enjoy myself. Also doing little challenges with your friends (like opening a girl by saying "my friend over there bet me I wouldn't be able to grab your ass in under a minute, would you let me have a handful just to fuck with him?" now she either straight up slaps you which is still pretty hilarious in my opinion or she just walks away or she declines in which case you have still opened her or she lets you grab her ass in which case you both won a challenge and grabbed a girls ass within seconds of opening her. Just playing games with the girls without necessarily trying to score or close them is just a ton of fun imo. Even more so if you are doing it with a friend. When your flirting with a girl and have your friend come in and try to cockblock the girl and start flirting with you as well it's pretty hilarious. When I go out with one of my good friends it's not unusual to see us both laughing our asses off in front of a confused girl who doesn't understand what the fuck is going on.

Also trying to fuck up your pull as hard as you can (or making challenges of things you have to say to or ask the girl when picking her up) is a lot of fun as well. Especially when you are standing there stone-faced and your friend who is standing around is laughing his ass off and the girl doesn't know what the fuck she should be doing just makes my night. Even more so when you manage to close her.

tl;dr be lighthearted and do whatever you want.

btw. Sailing is fucking awesome, wish I was better at it.

2012-03-22T13:30:19+00:00

The fun part should be the interaction with the other person, not the content of the conversation.

I have a ton of hobbies I'm really passionate about also, and I don't much care to talk about work or random life shit, but I tolerate it when I'm out because I enjoy the social exchange with strangers, what's actually being said is kind of irrelevant. I wouldn't talk about this sort of meaningless shit with my friends, but with strangers it's more interesting.

wvwvwvwvwvwvwvwvwvwv · 2012-03-22T15:33:50+00:00

Try and find some common ground and then suck them into what you love by telling them why you love it in the most colourful way.

For example you could say "Don't you love days like today when the Sun's out." [blah blah] "Last time it was as nice as today I took out the sailboat, the spray of the ocean on your skin truly relaxes you and you forget about all your stresses."

I know nothing of sailboating but make others love your loves. Also jokes, jokes are always fun.

Danny-Dreams · 2012-03-22T13:41:44+00:00

I am the same. I too find it hard to find the energy and get excited about things that just arent...exciting. Also maintaining small talk and avoiding serious talk too much. People say i am too deep a lot.

I think it is just down to personality, and unfortunately that is not something easily changed. But there must be easier ways to 'find' that energy we want, that others are drawn too.

mtg4l · 2012-03-22T23:00:58+00:00

You're a sailor, you do BJJ, and you race cars (or something)? You sound like you're pretty fucking fun. Find ways to incorporate that shit in conversations (don't force it). Girls love guys with skills that they're passionate about, especially unique/badass ones like yours.

Eric862 · 2012-03-23T02:25:06+00:00

Weed and coffee.

I'm similar, and that's what works for me.

shenanigins · 2012-03-23T09:10:31+00:00

I also sail, and it became the main thing I did throughout HS. Lived and breathed it. You know how many people have never really been sailing? I'm not talking about a silly day sail to just chill, although it can definitely tie in. I'm talking about getting the rail wet and flying through the water. Honestly, I love the reaction people give when the boat heels over. While we're completely comfortable and confident their panicking. I'm assuming you have access to a boat. It's a great thing to talk to a girl about and segway into similar topics.

You: "I love the adrenaline rush I get when I drop the rail in the water and I'm flying across the bay, it's amazing."

Her: "I don't understand/that sounds kind of scary, won't you capsize?"

You: quick explanation followed by an invite. "I'll take you sometime, it's my favorite thing in the world. Is there anything that gives you a rush like that?"

Something like that, I'm sure you can think of something a little better, haha. For me, when I'm talking about something I'm really interested in I get really energetic, I actually hold my self back a little so I don't make an ass of my self. Making something sound awesome, is awesome. I remember, from my public speaking class, we were talking about how there is no boring topic. My group ended up giving a speech on ice cubes, and it was awesome. Even if you're not jumping off the walls talking about something proper word choice can make it sound really cool, make them think about it, whatever. Like what has been said in the past, practice a lot. It gets easier to be positive and talk to people smoothly with time.

You could always meet someone through sailing or through jiu jitsu as well, you aren't restricted to bars and clubs. Go to some regattas, go to the bar at a yacht club and meet some people. Network bro!

Edit: I forgot something, this has worked in the past. If you do end up taking a girl out on a boat, assuming it's just you and it's not too nasty of a day. Cruise around with some drinks, not too heavy you don't want a bui, and anchor somewhere. Just relax, that's what sailing is about. Then the two of you are alone and you can go from there. My buddy did this with a friend of his, both on their colleges sailing team. They sailed around a bit, anchored, went below deck, and proceeded to get it on. Granted, that one only works if you have a cabin, don't do it on a Catalina 14 or something like that, haha. Then if she enjoys it, invite her to come out with some friends who know what they are doing and show here real sailing like only us real sailors know.

WerkinAndDerpin · 2012-03-22T18:06:02+00:00

Do you workout? I identify with alot of your post - my life has been rather sedentary but I know when I go to the gym regularly I have noticeably more energy.

Ragas · 2012-03-22T20:51:02+00:00

When you need adrenalin rushes then you maybe should talk about something like that and get the group to do something in that direction. But usually you should try to keep the conversation about the other person. People love talking about themselves.

Otherwise, if usual convo is to boring for you, use your imagination and say something crazy.

I'm still not good at this either but I start getting my laughs and even other emotional reactions out of people.

gpua · 2012-03-22T22:48:15+00:00

Just take every opportunity presented to you, and don't fall into a stagnant life devoid of novelty.

2012-03-22T15:02:47+00:00

Who says you have to "fun"

and working out and sailing aboat beats hanging with idiots in a bar.

get new friends

LiterallyAlphaLion · 2012-03-22T19:53:20+00:00

I understand completely. Indeed, submission and adrenaline rushes are the purpose of my waking hours.

As for fools seeking counsel; I know. I know how these fools trifle and waste a king's time when he awakens. And they will say, why are you a king and not a fool? Pay them no heed. You must roar at their impudence; they will tremble as they scatter. And then the females will come, for they will know the king by his gravitas.

Title	how do you become fun in day to day life?
Author	demodulated
Upvotes	37
Comments	20
Date	March 22, 2012 1:13 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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