How much helpful is being in shape?

2012-04-07T19:25:41+00:00

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carpeDeezNuts · 2012-04-07T22:59:59+00:00

jw255 · 2012-04-07T19:26:31+00:00

A lot of women definitely give a fuck about whether or not you take care of yourself. Staying in shape qualifies as taking care of yourself. I stopped working out for about 2 years and because of my high metabolism, became a scrawny fucker. EVERY girl I know commented on it, and not in a good way. Lots of my male friends also told me I look skinny as shit. A few months ago, I got back into workin out, except this time, instead of going to the gym with my buddies and "ego-lifting", I went by myself and did exercises properly to actually build muscle and get back in shape. It's made a HUUUUUUGE difference. I had a very attractive girl (technically "out of my league") ask me to go dancing with her, although she already has a dance partner. I had another girl ask me out to lunch. Are you catching this? THEY asked me out! I had an ex comment that I "looked good". Let me be clear, I'm not ugly, but I'm not particularly attractive either. I think what working out has done for me is 2 fold, 1) It's made me more physically appealing and 2) it's given me a boost of confidence that women pick up on.

TL;DR It will help you look and feel better, boosting your confidence, which will definitely improve your chances of success with women. Do it.

3Dima · 2012-04-07T20:14:30+00:00

Being muscular gets you noticed much quickly because of the "alpha" stereotype. Women are just as shallow as men are in this department. Your confidence will also rise as a result of being bigger, but getting muscular will take a couple of years. People gain 5-15 pounds a year of muscle, and that's with a perfect diet.

If you're going to workout, do it for yourself. Don't do it for your exes.

Theyus · 2012-04-07T19:12:53+00:00

Getting in shape may help you be more confident and may get you opened on occasion, but it's no magic bullet.

Stop trying to get your exes back. As soon as you need advice to get a specific person back, you've lost them forever.

I'm assuming you meant to say you've been friendzoned. You want to break out of the friendzone? Make a move. A sexual move. Otherwise, enjoy your bff.

FEMINISTS · 2012-04-07T20:01:34+00:00

While being in shape isn't a magic remedy that will make you a pimp, I still recommend doing it. It's good for your health, it gives you some confidence, and you don't lose anything by doing it. I've been working out since the beginning of this year and I can safely say that I just feel better about myself than I was a couple of months ago!

dablac · 2012-04-07T22:14:28+00:00

Multiple benefits:

Increased confidence due to better self-image.
Increased (though subjective) physical attractiveness due to being in shape (duh).
Increased energy efficiency, somewhat useful for spending longer amounts of time at the clubs and etc.
Increased physical efficacy, being fit will always be better if you are invited to go hiking/dancing/roller disco or whatever else.

And that's just what I can think of now.

2012-04-08T01:16:26+00:00

this is all very interesting but how much can you squat? let's quantify the progress in terms we can all understand, like pounds on the bar full ROM.

LucaTurilli · 2012-04-08T17:31:34+00:00

Listen bud, being in shape brings about many more things than just looking good. Looking better OBVIOUSLY will help you attract more females - but it's the confidence and success that training hard brings.

You build character when you train. You've set a goal towards something. No one is making you do it, you are doing it yourself. You are building the quality of persistence. This quality carries over into ALL aspects of your life: work, school, girls, goals, etc. When you hone your qualities of persistence and perseverance, every aspect of your life is likely to improve. Your confidence grows as a result. As your confidence grows, you realize how trivial all of the bullshit you used to worry about is.

long story short, getting in shape carries over into your life. Every improvement in your life shows through in social situations. Women pick up on this - women love when men are confident and comfortable with their lives and themselves. I'd say getting in shape could be the first link the chain of building some important qualities that you apparently don't have. The first being self respect (referring to your comment about getting exes back).

ADVICE: go here and buy this: http://www.amazon.com/Starting-Strength-3rd-Mark-Rippetoe/dp/0982522738/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1333906091&sr=8-1 FOLLOW IT TO THE LETTER AND DON'T QUESTION ANYTHING IN IT.

Being out of shape is not your problem, being a man is your problem. Become a man and things become clearer. Becoming strong is a very logical step in this process.

drumdance · 2012-04-07T19:25:05+00:00

If you're skinny, you will attract a certain type of girl who goes for that (especially the skinny rocker type or hipster), and there are others who don't like it. Don't worry about those.

I'm very fit and more on the muscular side, and a lot of women dig it, but I nonetheless get rejected all the time. It did help my confidence, however.

Agree with Theyus that you shouldn't waste your time chasing exes and friendzoners. There are over three billion other women on the planet. Focus on those.

2012-04-07T20:58:59+00:00

Skinny is better than fat, just get clothes that fit. loose clothing over a skinny frame makes you look like a concentration camp prisoner.

2012-04-07T22:08:54+00:00

A. in shape is helpful, plus you feel better. B. I wouldn't try, just go for something new. C. maybe.

thirdmanin · 2012-04-07T22:23:49+00:00

It's helpful in all facets of life in my opinion. You feel better and look better...how are either of those bad? It won't magically get you every girl but it can help some...just keep your ego in check. Plus it gives you a new hobby and that's never a bad thing in the quest of becoming a better, more well rounded person.

xpictoc114 · 2012-04-07T22:41:46+00:00

One major benefit is being able to lift up girls with ease. One girl at a party was being a massive tease that was constantly push/pulling (almost kissing, then pushing me away). At one point I had enough of this, walked up behind her - she was talking to a few friends with her back to me - put my arm around her shoulder, said her friends I'd be right back with her and picked her up around her waist, carried her to a quiet corner of the house and caveman-kissed her. This girl was getting so turned on by me being dominant, panties were soaking and I'm not even kidding.

dakru · 2012-04-07T23:44:28+00:00

It's not going to magically make everything perfect, not at all. But it should help a lot, both in making you more attractive and making you more confident. That is at least if you do it right. Ask /r/fitness if you ever need anything. Do a beginner program like Starting Strength (with pullups added), Stronglifts or this but with reps at 5-6 instead.

Leelluu · 2012-04-07T23:44:57+00:00

Several much.

2012-04-08T01:35:51+00:00

For girls it is more important how you feel. But that doesn't say you can be slim.

Some guys, even though you tell them 1000 times, wont feel totally fine with themself unless they feel some core, some muscles around there core.

So being in shape is more important for your own feeling, then for the girl to find you attractive... Therefor, i do exercies myself, to feel better. Not because i feel girls like me more with 0.1 inch more muscle..

starkistuna · 2012-04-08T01:40:00+00:00

If you like girls hitting on you , its a plus.

nycprowl · 2012-04-08T02:14:14+00:00

/r/askseddit in the future dude.

But being in shape is healthy just all around, and will make you feel better (releases chemicals in your brain, true story). That alone should be enough motivation.

Title	How much helpful is being in shape?
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Date	April 7, 2012 6:55 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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