My life has gone downhill. I'm 24 and seriously considering suicide. Help?

TofuTofu · 2012-10-05T18:12:24+00:00

Hey man... Everyone goes through down times. You're 24, most of your peers are struggling to find work. Don't let all these superficial, circumstantial, and external factors define who you are.

They are emotionally abusive to me and have been since forever.

Yeah, you definitely need to work to get out of that situation. Even if you have to live in a shoebox shit-hole and work temp gigs to pay the rent... Try and work on a plan to get away from the emotional abuse. It is not helping your situation.

but still managed to make connections in the world in an 8 month period

See? You did it before and you can do it again.

My question to you is, what steps are you taking to meet people? To improve your outlook? How often are you going out? Are you joining clubs, offline meetups, playing a sport, taking up a social hobby, etc.? Tell me more about you.

puntingbaxter · 2012-10-05T20:08:47+00:00

You want some real advice?

Stop giving up so easily.

All I have read is that you hit some adversity and give up. You know all the answers but are too afraid to go through with them.

Hate living at home = move out

Can't move out because you don't have money = get a job or 2 jobs whatever it takes

You need to talk to a therapist = go and see one there are plenty of free ones, hell even help lines, use this thing called the internet.

Hell, if there was some PUA company that hired me I would run there and work my ass off to improve my life. Or any company for that matter

The only thing stopping you is yourself. Wishing is for losers. Doing is for winners.

I used to be a big loser. Was the hardest thing I had to admit to myself.

You need to accept that right now you are a loser, but it's never to late to change that.

I told myself everyday in the mirror "You are a loser, do something today that will help you become a winner"

Stop looking at the big picture. You are only 24, there are so many steps you can take TODAY to become a better man.

Make a list of things you can do to change yourself for the better. Start with the easiest one. Then break that down into even easier steps. Take the first step, then the second, and down the line.

Let's help with one goal: find a therapist

Step 1: Look online for free therapists/help lines

Step 2: Contact those leads

Step 3: Set up an appointment

Step 4: Go to that appointment

Now, it's up to you to take the first step. Use google or bing, whatever. Take the first step NOW.

Neutr4lNumb3r · 2012-10-05T19:08:12+00:00

r/SuicideWatch

JodumScrodum · 2012-10-05T18:33:08+00:00

This is a quote I heard on political animals.

“Most of life is hell. It’s filled with failure and loss. People disappoint you, dreams don’t work out, hearts get broken, innocent journalists die, and the best moments of life, when everything comes together, are few and fleeting, but you will never get to the next great moment if you don’t keep going. So that’s what I do, I keep going.”

You just have to get out there, work hard, and keep going. Vague advice maybe, but its just that simple. The hard part is just that initial push of working to improve your life.

throwaway50999 · 2012-10-05T20:17:28+00:00

I have Ulcerative Colitis and can't work the career I spent 4 years going to university for. I am 26 and living at home and working a dead end job and I didn't kill myself. I do think of ending it all sometimes but those are just thoughts. Let me leave you with this quote from Al Swearengen on Deadwood.

Al Swearengen: Pain or damage don't end the world. Or despair, or fucking beatings. The world ends when you're dead. Until then, you got more punishment in store. Stand it like a man... and give some back.

nottraceable · 2012-10-05T22:22:10+00:00

Just telling you this... Imagine that life is like a movie.

What you see from other people is their biggest moments, their highlights. You're comparing your bad scenes against their biggest moments...

Everyone has their own problems. Nobody is flaunting them however. I was in the same boat as yours, basically feeling so bad I just embraced death. However, time has passed and I learned to appreciate life more. (I also played a video game which made me realize everyone has his own personal dark side, we need to have the courage to face them and acknowledge them though)

This is coming from a 23 yo guy, living at his parents house, never dated before. Most people would say I'm a loser. I'd say I don't care what others say. (it's all about inner game) What matters is that you're willing to improve.

guessillmakeoneagain · 2012-10-05T20:13:21+00:00

Dude. Best advice I can give you: get teh fuck to Austin, TX. Doesn't matter how you get there, just do it. Great looking girls, liberal social mind set, lots of people with zero money, lots of free fun events to go be social at (and no one gives a fuck if you're by yourself), and one of the most sexually satisfied cities in the US. Trust me, you will start loving life if you live there (and maybe smoke a ton of weed in the process, but that too costs money so it's out of the picture for now). For transport, all you need is a bike. The city is fully routed with tons of bike/running paths EVERYWHERE with tons of cute chicks on them. Plus, getting housing there is dirt cheap if you know how to look (aka craigslist sublet until you get on your feet with a job). Look around CL for some temp jobs or apply for a standard gig you worked in HS or whatever. Trust me, man, you'll thank me.

I lived there for about 4 months (without a college degree, and with like maybe $1k to my name when I moved down) and had the time of my life. Kinda wondering why I left. PM me if you have more specific questions about living there (how to get there, places to live, jobs, chicks, etc)

kurtgodelisdead · 2012-10-05T23:53:49+00:00

AKA, I can't just go homeless and run away without somewhere to go.

I used to live on the streets & knew a lot of people who probably should have been on meds. You can learn a lot about yourself when you have nothing left to lose. If you really feel you have nothing left, try the streets for a month and see where it takes you. I bet you just need a change of scenery more than you need some advice from a random person on the internet.

throwaway50999 · 2012-10-05T20:23:04+00:00

BTW, If you're in remission move to a big city. Stay in a shelter. Find a job. Make enough to move out of the shelter. If Peter Parker can do it then so can you!

vulture47 · 2012-10-05T20:54:31+00:00

Go running ! I went through a similar experience and it was the only thing keeping me alive at moments ...

throwaway50999 · 2012-10-07T02:20:05+00:00

Listen man, we all hit low points. It's unfortunately a part of life... ups and downs. However you have to TRUDGE through the shit, and it'll make you stronger. Move out immediately if the treat you like shit. Find a cheap place, work a shitty job for the time being.

Also, if you are seriously considering suicide, realize this. You are actually free to do ANYTHING you want. You don't need suicide as an escape, because you can do ANYTHING. If you are willing to end your life, you have the strength to go anywhere, be anything, do whatever. Instead of killing yourself, how about just try going to a new city, meet some people there (you can do it. you did it before) and just check it out.

There is LITERALLY nothing stopping you from moving. Once you have hit rock bottom, realize that you are truly free. You can only go up from here, you just need to make the steps.

Don't end your life. It's not worth it. Mid 20s are a tough spot to be, trust me. Just push through the shit, and you'll look back one day and be like "yeah, it was tough, but you know what? I fucking did it anyway".

Count your blessing daily. No, I'm not a religious person, shit... I'm an atheist. But you are so much luckier than many people. You have access to the internet, you can read, you have moving fingers able to type, I'm going to assume a healthy body besides the ulcerative colitis, which in the scheme of things... sure it sucks, but it can always be worse (Aids, cancer, etc). Always be grateful.

If you have free time, donate some time to a charity or nonprofit. They can always use the help, and one of the best ways to feel better about yourself is altruism.

You hit a bit of a speed bump, a little detour... but your trip isn't over. Sometimes a little detour can help you discover places you never would have if you stayed on your path. Think of it as an opportunity. Only you can change it. We can't force you to make the changes in your life... YOU have to do it.

Stay strong. Make those changes, and stop with the self-pity. I know you can do it, because all of us are capable of doing it. The fact I'm not dead 14 years ago proves this fact.

chip812 · 2012-10-05T18:17:22+00:00

You've got a BS in Psychology... What do you think is the problem and how should you go about fixing it?

2012-10-05T21:02:48+00:00

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2012-10-05T19:52:31+00:00

Go for a run. I was in a similar spot after I finished my degree. I was pretty low. It all seemed to change once I started running. Confidence has a way of picking up momentum, of snowballing into success.

2012-10-06T01:03:52+00:00

Committing suicide is selfish and does nothing to solve the problem. I'm sorry you are going through stuff but it will get better. You just have to stick in there.

LordInternet · 2012-10-05T18:51:57+00:00

Go hitching around the world/country. If your family is abusive - get away from them. You will deffinetly meet some new, interesting people, and definitely make some friends.

Title	My life has gone downhill. I'm 24 and seriously considering suicide. Help?
Author	throwaway50999
Upvotes	15
Comments	51
Date	October 5, 2012 6:06 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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