How to be the guy the girl comes back to at the club

harassing-ford · 2012-11-09T13:52:04+00:00

You're problem is that you are worrying too much about one girl. Instead of having a nice conversation with one girl and then waiting/hoping for her to come back, you should go look for more girls and try to have conversations with them.

Girls are observant about things, so if you had a nice convo with a girl before then she sees you talking/dancing with another girl, it will either motivate her to come back to you or her wanting you to talk to her. Plus, the more girls you talk to, the higher chances for one of them go back to you.

Don't go clubbing solely for the girls, go out to bars and clubs to have fun. If you're having fun then people, especially girls will notice this and want to meet you because they want to have fun as well.

So to summarize, don't be the guy waiting around for something to happen. Be the guy girls are waiting for you to approach them. Don't waste time waiting.

legendofpasta · 2012-11-09T16:04:45+00:00

Trick is to leave on a high note. Make her laugh gregariously. Kino her. Make the convo playful/sexual. When she's having a great time, LEAVE.

Go get a drink, walk around, go outside. Open a few little sets. Later, go back to her and ask her to dance, and recap on the fun you've had without her.

You can't make a set last for like 2 hours. You gotta break it up. I usually ask girls for their number on the second set. It reinforces the idea that 'I liked you enough the first time to come back to you. I like you enough now to see you again'.

Unless you're really on fire, I'd just leave on a high note and come back later. Also: Game her friends with her present

circa7 · 2012-11-09T17:03:02+00:00

This may sound bad, but what's worked for me is that if I notice the conversation will be coming to an end within the next few minutes, ill leave early. I'll be genuinely smiling and end the convo, and walk away. It "feels" like I left before we were "done", and I'll make a point to be in her peripheral within the next 30 minutes or so. Extra points if I'm talking to or with another girl or 2, but every so often make direct eye contact with the originally mentioned girl, and smile. Flirt with the eyes. Almost always, I'll intentionally find myself alone somewhere in her field of vision and once she sees me it's like a magnet.

I don't know, I could be making this stuff up, but I've done it dozens of times with success. Always be "on the go" and don't talk for too long at the club. Have fun at the club and talk to her at length after she's 100% committed.

rmbarnes · 2012-11-09T14:44:13+00:00

You should be isolating the girl very early on. This decreases the chances of this happening, plus seems to generate a very powerful "we're together now" couple feeling.

2012-11-09T22:50:14+00:00

Hold on to her car keys.

IceBlue · 2012-11-09T19:45:01+00:00

Your thread title is misleading. Add a question mark next time and put it in r/askseddit.

TheGameGenie · 2012-11-10T05:32:08+00:00

I think that it is more likely if you create an emotional hook or give her a nick name. I have done this, and when I see her again, I give her a mischevious and then get back to having fun. Unless someone she knows shows up or a rare dude with powerful game hits her up, she's likely to try to get my attention again.

smartgig · 2012-11-09T14:44:19+00:00

I think you must ask her to dance instead of waiting for her to ask you ! dude you're a man not a woman ! If a girl asks you you'll probably feel trapped and dump her, my word .

Title	How to be the guy the girl comes back to at the club
Author	textinggame
Upvotes	87
Comments	34
Date	November 9, 2012 1:18 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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