Taking out the "hot girl" of my friend group. How do I not screw this up?

ThrowawayPUA · 2012-11-24T22:44:34+00:00

Dude she is telling you how to seduce her. I suggest you listen more closely. She said that "second base" (oh god do people still talk like that?!?) was not a mistake, and that she doesn't want a serious relationship. She is almost begging you to show her a good time, make out some more, and seduce her without becoming all serious and a boyfriend. She is ready for it, waiting for it, she will do half the work of the seduction, if you just step up and go forward with it.

dking168 · 2012-11-25T00:33:40+00:00

She wants the D. Make it happen, she is already attracted.

gladeus · 2012-11-25T00:57:33+00:00

Have fun with her, and show her a good time. Trust me, she'll want to be in a relationship if you're a good fuck and you're cool. It does take a bit of time getting used to hot girls being attracted to you, but they are generally not by a farce.

But really I wouldn't read at all too much into what she's saying. If you hang out with her, have a good time, fuck, have a good time fucking, and this continues on, it may turn into a relationship if thats what it was meant to be.

Think about this, why do YOU really want this to become a relationship? Probably because its one of the most attractive girls you've hooked up with and you like her and would want to keep that. That's fine, but remember you really don't exactly know her too well in THAT context yet, honestly hanging out with a "non-serious" vibe is just as much good for YOU as it is for HER. You need to see whats up with you guys too just like she does. Don't worry about it, hang out with her, have a sexual vibe, and have fun. If you're a cool guy she'll dig you and it'll continue

xiko · 2012-11-24T22:58:39+00:00

What do you want to happen?

2012-11-25T00:59:30+00:00

From recent personal experience my advice is this: stay alpha. Keep sedditing and be interesting and outcome independent. Don't assume she's never going to leave. Put in the effort necessary to keep her around. Stay the same guy that she became attracted to in the first place.

februaryrich · 2012-11-25T09:10:32+00:00

She's hot, but you don't need her

AMerrickanGirl · 2012-11-25T19:48:59+00:00

Just because she's hot doesn't make her a better potential girlfriend, and actually may make her less valuable because she's used to guys licking her feet and treating her like a queen.

Is she nice? Is she honest? Is she reliable? Is she fiscally responsible? Looks fade, but character is what makes someone a good partner.

Budman17r · 2012-11-25T21:28:52+00:00

I've not read all of the comments, but I will go with this.

Go on as normal, A relationship MAY or MAY not happen, but YOU already HAVE SOME type of relationship. Invite her out, Invite her to dinner, Make out with her, go to 2nd base sober, offer to do more. Don't bring up a relationship except after a few months. No need to rush it.

Let me put it this way, You get the opportunity to hang out with, her do stuff you never thought you could do with her, be physical with her, and intimate with her. So what if its not labelled. Enjoy it buddy.

2012-11-25T04:42:20+00:00

be cool. what else is there to say? be high status, your happiness is independent of her. Become newly passionate in your life about things OTHER than her. You'll be attractive. And it shows you dont see anything life-changing or shocking about a super hot girl being interested in you. You should seem like you expect this, not just of her but of all girls. Entitlement.

destinys_parent · 2012-11-25T06:14:29+00:00

I hate you. I wish I were in your place. No seriously, congrats! I think you are overthinking it.

2012-11-25T12:36:35+00:00

start by not asking negative questions.

Heavisome · 2012-11-25T12:43:03+00:00

DrSpacetime, according to the internet urban dictionary, "putting out" can often be used as follows: "It was already the second week they were going out and Chris was starting to lose interest in Ashley because she wasn't putting out."

It seems in your case that we have a situation where "Ashley" (hot girl) may lose interest in "Chris" (DrSpacetime) because "he" is not "putting out". The age-old problem of girls wondering why on earth the campus stud may be interested in them seems to have been reversed, with you, the male, becoming nervous and full of misgivings. If you had pigtails, I can almost see you twiddling them nervously while considering if you really should just throw caution to the wind and take it to the next step. This may be a trend.

But let us remember one other thing, she is not asking you to the prom, nor even better suggesting that she wants to date you, because unfortunately, she said she doesn't want anything serious and this small, painful fact should be assessed and appreciated for being a clear indicator for you now of what she does want, which has been popularly suggested as being seduced by one poster, and "given the D" by another.

You can justify that she is shy and trying to protect herself, and you can reason that these are the games that we must play in order to succeed but you have to return to yourself in the end and wonder if these are the things that you really do want. If you want to have sex with a beautiful girl, then you may well be on the brink of achieving that. Yet, I know that you will not be satisfied with that. You want to have a relationship with her, don't you? Then let me first advise you to work on building one of those and also let me me ask you a question that I want you to ponder while you are busy building a relationship: Do you want your relationship to be based upon playing parts and tricks that feel uncomfortable? I don't think you do and I'm pretty sure that if you have any misgivings they will become threads of interference in your happy heart.

Or if you are willing to gamble, I think you should keep the hard results that come from losing firmly in your mind. She may be hot indeed, but perhaps that will only magnify your feelings of pain and regret if she is yet just a slut and you are tossed aside in the end.

:-) But then again, she might really like you and just be shy and nice girl and trying to protect herself. Therefore, be kind and honest and manly.

Trontotsio · 2012-11-25T16:25:58+00:00

Take her to bed and see where you can go from there. I suggest you take the attitude, "if it doesn't work out, then so what?"

edit: I have a 1st date with a 9.5 on Friday and some things I'm working might be relevant to you includes: (1) Don't be visibly, emotionally affected be her looks. (2) Keep the conversation light and playful and try to get the conversation to a place where you could potentially talk about anything. (3) Keep your eyelids relaxed so you don't look overly-interested in her personally.
(4) Make physical contact early and often if possible. (5) Visibly glance at her lips when she talks (6) Ask her for a favor

Initiate the chase by being attractive and flashy(make her feel emotions)--like a fish and a lure.

2012-11-25T15:08:07+00:00

just make sure you nut on her face soon in the "nothing serious," relationship, incase you do something and she decides to tell your friends...this way you have something on her, no pun intended....and try and take a pic, just incase..

Title	Taking out the "hot girl" of my friend group. How do I not screw this up?
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Date	November 24, 2012 10:15 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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