A few months back I went through an online dating phase and exchanged contact info with an Asian HB9 flight attendant. We had a few entertaining conversations via text, but it eventually died out. A week ago, she texted me saying that she'll be in my city for 30 hours on a layover and asked if I wanted to meet up. I said yes and then ceased texting until the day before our date to work out logistics (AFC me probably would've sent unnecessary texts in the meantime and come across as needy, killing attraction prematurely).

Date night: I waited for her in the hotel lobby, gave her a hug and complimented her outfit when she came down, and continued the kino with a hand on her back as we walked to a restaurant nearby. Dinner was light-hearted, pretty effortless conversation. I played the Neil Strauss "Five Lies" game, teased her for losing and told her to buy me a drink later.

While we were eating I suggested going out to a salsa club afterwards and she agreed, on the condition that I wouldn't make her dance (shit test?) ... When we got there I sat down and rested my leg against hers as we watched the other dancers. After a few minutes I grabbed her hand and told her to come with me so I could "show her something," and we went to a more private area where I could teach her some basic dance steps -- a kino goldmine. She begged me not to make her dance in front of other people but I kept it playful and didn't push too hard.

We left to check out a quiet, classy bar where she bought my drink, and I started the "questions" game (ask any question, answer honestly, and every question must be unique). This allowed me to turn things a little more sexual, ask about her turn-ons and whatnot. I put my arm around her shoulder, caressed her lightly, leaned in and told her how good her hair smelled, and took the chance to get closer to her. The five hours we had spent together flew by, and we took a taxi back to her hotel. I asked to use her bathroom (ha) and we watched some HBO before making out until sunrise. Serious LMR put the brakes on anything too sexual but it did not matter to me at all; she's the most attractive girl I've ever dated and it sounds like we will continue seeing each other whenever she's in town.

This FR might seem pointless to those more experienced, but after all my years of failing with women I am sometimes taken aback at how simple this seduction process can be: confidence, kino, escalation, and having some balls is 90% of the game.