The Actual Rules of Alpha-Male.

flyguy4321 · 2012-12-23T16:04:45+00:00

Thought this was a lot better than the 55 rules one.

bl1y · 2012-12-23T05:44:11+00:00

Reputation should fall under the broader heading of social proof. You can try to rely on your wingman to talk you up, but it's better just to have everyone you've met say nice things about you.

Pazians · 2012-12-23T09:55:39+00:00

but my interest and passion is nutrition and fitness.

2012-12-23T05:07:15+00:00

The part about observation, and reputation are definitely true. Good post.

P15Raindrop · 2012-12-23T05:13:01+00:00

You pick up with physics? really?

ajpearmanNine · 2012-12-24T01:36:52+00:00

A story to explain where "4. PASSION" can go wrong...

My ex (we dated for 3 years) knew me when I was totally obsessed with World of Warcraft (to a point where I initially ignored her for it). But when we started dating she pushed me to grow up, and I did. I stopped playing and focused on the important things. I've always put important things before games since, but I still remain very passionate.

Throughout the whole of our 3 year relationship, if I got really interested in a game or an idea for one, my ex would ignore my passionate explanations and thoughts and proceed to become distant and annoyed. She saw it as some foolishly stupid waste of breath/thought/time, despite her loving video games; The Sims, Skyrim, Red Dead, and Zelda (to name just a few).

Meanwhile, she had a great love for graphic design and slight interests in music and the arts. Despite me never being really interested in those things, I'd always look through her work and see how much she really loved it. I even attempted to try and get into an online text-based roleplaying forum where she came up with characters and wrote about their experiences while interacting with other characters made by other writers.

I guess the strong point of sharing passions lies in whether or not they personally think your passion is worthwhile and at least somewhat interesting. It's pretty clear my ex had no care for what I love, and didn't make any attempts to try and see from my PoV. Even if we had stayed together, I believe it would have become a deal-breaker when I graduated from college and started to pursue my own dream without any real support from her.

The fucked up thing is that the way she treated me about it all has caused me to doubt myself and feel like maybe she was right. But fuck that, I'll do what I love and if I change what I love, it'll be my own personal choice outside of her (and other's) influence.

P15Raindrop · 2012-12-26T04:59:25+00:00

Honest question:

how is this being "alpha"? Doesn't being "alpha" necessarily involve appeasing betas and picking on omegas to preserve your dominance/freedom?

This just looks like a list of things girls may find appealing...

gerusz · 2012-12-23T08:39:12+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7OFXDRIXh5M

Wiggin_Andrew · 2012-12-23T16:16:10+00:00

The confidence explanation kinda sucks balls because it's assumptive on the fact that if you do X Y and Z, you'll be confident. While that may be true, some need it broken down that having self confidence is actually and honestly not giving a single fuck of what any one or group of people may think about you. This is your social armor. If you cannot care they cannot hurt you.

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2012-12-23T18:09:50+00:00

Www solve my girl problems. Thanks me later

2012-12-23T22:03:40+00:00

I miss presence in there but entertaining read.

6PoolPwnage · 2012-12-24T04:27:57+00:00

I'll preach this shit all day. Way better guide my friend, fucking way better.

Rreptillian · 2012-12-24T16:23:16+00:00

I have a hard time shutting up about my physique because I fucking love working out so much. It is awesome. It's like an RPG but with yourself as the character.

Afeni02 · 2012-12-25T03:13:36+00:00

PHYSIQUE: This one is dead simple. Get fit, stay fit, shut the fuck up about it. Nobody wants to hear about your routine anymore than they want reminding that they don't have one. Unless you are talking to an aerobics instructor or some shit, just keep quiet about your fitness and relax in the confidence that when you get to fuck her, she will be impressed. BOOM!!!

wahahay · 2012-12-27T19:20:34+00:00

I would like to share a little experience in this (I'm really beta as a way to avoid my natural alpha self, which is pretty arrogant)

Fake personalities and social tricks that people pull are incredibly weird to the neutral. They naturally avoid acknowledgement of you until they're no longer in the same room when they sense you're pulling a trick of some sort. It's really really obvious and gives you a bad reputation. Little tip, everyone says they know some psychological trick, especially those who watch Derren Brown. Don't act like you know them, don't even think of them.
If people in your circle of friends have a low or negative opinion of you (or you're low in the pecking order), this again is sensed by people and naturally you aren't involved in drama or situations or events. You aren't important to the group and therefore needn't bother with those people unless you're willing to bring high value to them. Then they'll start talking about you in a positive way.
This is more about understanding yourself, but I would elaborate that it's always good to remember your image. If you keep a mental note on how people perceive you, you know if you're doing something good or not and whether those people are worth your time. Another important thing is for you to be happy with what you like doing. No pretending, be yourself for the reason that it makes you happy!
Pick hobbies, tasks goals, focus on your career/dream/whatever. This helps in your character and personality developing into a solid story of a man that all women respect and admire. Not all of them will like or love you, but they will RESPECT you.
Now, being a mature person and having a good reputation is great. You know yourself and you know people enjoy being with you. You may even call the shots....There are other people in the world too. They are just as good as you. I'll say that again. They are just as good as you and you should treat them how you want to be treated. Give them the respect and help you want back from them and build on the connections you make (if you really want to engage with that person). As OP said, "pay close attention to your peers", as this shows your experience in social skills.
This really depends on your financial situation. Spending a little to elevate the mood can come in handy, but it's only a gesture. I would expand it to favours/listening/whatever you can do for the people you want to keep in your life.
Muscles, fashion knowledge and a positive attitude lure vaginae. Again, it just makes things easier.
My best tactic with dealing with other guys is smile at them because you know they're going to fail. If you aren't in that crowd, nothing to do with you. If you are in that crowd, treat them like your buddy.
Knowledge is power. Simple.
You're looking for a girl that wants you. Be you, like you, treat you with respect.

This is quite a long post so feel free to ask for any clarification.

annuncirith · 2012-12-23T18:51:22+00:00

One of the coolest professors I had in college always said, "Fake it 'til you make it" in response to our lamentations that we wouldn't do so well, or know enough about our field. While it's helped me in some situations, you can't fake Alpha. Either you've got it or you don't.

goetz_von_cyborg · 2012-12-23T16:17:59+00:00

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