I can ask a girl for directions but I Can't seem to tell her she's cute.

nivar · 2013-02-01T01:29:25+00:00

What stops you from saying "you are cute", is the conversation that happens in your head while you are talking to the girl, and the beliefs that you have to say it in the proper time and proper moment in a proper way; well you want it to be perfect. There is nothing perfect in the world, nothing. You can say cute anywhere in the conversation in anyway you want, as long as you feel that what you want to do.

I felt the same way when I started in this journey, I got over it by brute force by just starting interaction just with "hey you know what, you are really cute." If they don't blush or say thank you, I just walk away.

time_and_again · 2013-02-01T01:28:52+00:00

Don't tell her she's cute, just small-talk. You're psyching yourself out because you're jumping the gun and thinking you have to go straight for a compliment+number close.

eddkov · 2013-02-01T02:38:22+00:00

you dont need to tell her shes cute, in fact many times it will be hurt you more than help you. If this girl is cute, then she knows that she is cute, she sees it when she wakes up in the morning and goes to bed at night, her friends all tell her that shes "omg so pretty", and whenever shes at a party some guy will inevitably hit on her. Calling her cute doesnt help you because it doesnt make you any different from any other guy out there, and it doesnt feel like a compliment to her because you are a random guy on the street, she doesnt value your opinion.

Instead of trying to compliment her, just ask her to walk with you to building x and talk to her, try to get to know her, make jokes, be fun, and then ask for her number, or if you are vibing it, you could go on a date right there and then

2013-02-01T15:04:50+00:00

Well, actually you shouldn't!

For one seduction is not about lies nor about manipulation. If you need directions say so, if you want to talk to her and get to know her, say so. It's a problem when people say one thing and they mean something else.

And then there's the cardinal rule that you should never pay a compliment to a woman for something she has not earned, and You're cute/pretty/beautiful etc. are classic no-no's.

I see that you are fairly new to Reddit, the sidebar is a good place to start. Good read.

AfroHoe · 2013-02-01T16:22:37+00:00

The asking for directions question sucks. It is a straight forward answer that will not usually lead to a "connection conversation", which is a conversation where you and her feel that you have moved on to the point where you know her enough to ask for a number or maybe ask to continue the conversation at a later time. Try approaching her about the specific class ask her what classes she is in and a few interests then slid in the (I want to see your face on my cock line) "I think your cute" and get her number.

I am a 20 year old girl its easy to approach us. Its hard to make some of us like you.

uberafc · 2013-01-31T23:28:12+00:00

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stormtide311 · 2013-02-01T05:20:29+00:00

Fear of rejection, you can't keep that mind set if you tell a girl shes cute. Honestly girls love the fact your showing confident in tell them in public. Now when you say "your cute" do it with a slight smile. The girl should thank you if she doesnt shes creeped out and move on.

readonlyuser · 2013-02-01T22:09:08+00:00

If you're doing what I think you're doing, you're hovering and talking yourself up before the approach. As long as you're not in plain sight, do something that interrupts your physiological and mental pattern of fear, posture, breathing, etc. My recommendation? Lightly punch yourself in the nuts. Not enough to hurt or injure yourself, but a reminder you've got balls, and it prevents you from thinking about garbage. As you experience this change in physiology, turn it into momentum, immediately start walking directly towards the girl and get straight to the part where you tell her you wanted to meet her.

I know they say to do it step-wise, i.e. first learn eye contact, then ask simple questions, etc. But for a while, to get over the fear, just roll up and tell her you wanted to meet her. Telling her she's cute is kind of weird without any context. Tell her she's cute, and as a result you wanted to meet her. Then make a cold read, or a situational observation. From there, it's your set to fuck up or succeed with as much as you please.

It sounds kind of crazy, but it's extremely effective at reversing your shitty conditioning of [see girl -> go inside your head -> don't approach or approach hesitantly -> oh god, she sees right through me!].

HandsomeAsButter · 2013-02-01T22:11:47+00:00

"You're cute." -says 99% of the male population to her that probably talks to her.

Girls who are done up invest time in making themselves look good. Be creative and compliment her boots, watch, necklace, earrings, ect!

Compliment her for her taste in music, movies, ect.

Let a girl compliment you all day on your looks but don't go out and simply tell every girl you think is cute that she is cute! They hear it more often than any other compliment. She wore that watch for a reason, that necklace is her favorite, she loves those boots, ect. The more unique your compliment the better off you are.

mr_ent · 2013-02-01T02:55:21+00:00

It is just as inappropriate to as for directions as it is to tell a girl that she is attractive.

Just say, "Thanks. Before I go, I just want you to let you know that I think you are very cute. I'll give you my number so that we can grab coffee some time."

Very direct. The worst case scenario is that she declines. It's like a blind kid trying to find the black smelly marker by sniffing them. The more often you try, the more you pick up on the little things that aren't so obvious. Like the fact that the kid's black marker has an indentation below the cap.

Title	I can ask a girl for directions but I Can't seem to tell her she's cute.
Author	mj2390
Upvotes	29
Comments	18
Date	January 31, 2013 11:18 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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