GF is drunk, I'm out of town, and there is another guy I know trying to hit on her. I think I handled the situation/her shit test poorly

EDIT: Whoa.... Looks like the apocalypse in here. I can see things escalated very quickly. Note: If anyone wants a follow up, this morning I got the response, "I don't remember anything last night. I completely blacked out. Did we talk?"

Which 1) Obviously we talked, I sent her a text after she turned her phone off last night. So she got it this morning. 2) In my experience chicks tend only to black out when they do stupid shit the night before. It's very convenient. Either way. I'm suspect and only been dating for 2 months. So the ball is in her field at this point. I'm not even mad.

EDIT 2: Sorry for the drama guys, but I'm looking for feedback more on the handling of the situation. I'd bring this to r/ralationshipadvice if it wasn't filled with so many tweens. She seems like honestly nothing happened. However, she was an idiot about it. I explained how while it's okay to get a ride home when you've been drinking too much, it's never okay to let someone into your house after you've been drinking all night when that guy has clearly been hitting on you. I'm sure nothing happened, but she still is making terrible decisions. She then flipped it around on me and got pissed because she misses me and I'm upset about something she had already apologized for. I have a meeting in 30 minutes so I told her I'd call her back. Which pissed her off more. I'm just going to let it ride itself out.

Final Edit: I explained my expectations and what is appropriate and inappropriate. I know she's drunk, but she's not dumb either. She most likely was calling me for 2 reasons. The first being, she wanted advice. However, it's kind of weak here. I understand she wants to talk to me and help her out, but she's a big girl and needs to handle her own situations. The second, is I think she gets jealous that I do hang out with girls when she's not around. It's never sexual, it's just life. I can't not hang out with an entire sex. Sometimes these girls flirt with me but I reject their moves. Maybe in her drunk stupor, she wanted to remind me that men still demand her as well. Just my theory. Either way. I'm not going to get my jimmies rustled over it.

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Maybe I'm completely in the wrong here, but my logic is that this would display an extreme level of confidence - that you are so secure and confident that it doesn't threaten you in any way that some other guy is in your girlfriend's house - and you'll even go as far as talking to the guy.

IMO just up and threatening someone you've never met - I believe that's alpha behavior with beta undertones/motivations - kind of like when an animal puffs up to look bigger when it's frightened. Threatening someone on the phone is as effective as threatening someone on the internet - there's no real danger so it ends up becoming a virtual pissing match. How does this not motivate the guy to try and bang your girlfriend after he hangs up on you?

Anyway, going by the downvotes it seems like I may be in the wrong, but what is /r/seduction if not a place to experiment and see what works?

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