Do you think smaller/shorter guys have to be more aggressive when approaching, or that they can get away with being more aggressive than most guys?

Isunova · 2014-03-30T05:10:11+00:00

Height is only an issue if you make it one. It's a variable you cannot change, so there's no point getting hung up about it.

I'm 5'5" myself, and I have no problem in meeting new people, whether they're 4 feet tall or 7.

brisrunner · 2014-03-30T07:11:09+00:00

dont overdo the agressiveness your best off being the cool confident guy, if your short and skiny and act like a 6'6 bodybuilder "brah" people are just gonna think your plain odd. Its less "agressive" more "forward". height is only an issue if you make it

Cpains · 2014-03-30T08:35:10+00:00

I'm 5'3, stocky, slightly muscular and in the past have had no luck whatsoever. Now part of that is due to the fact that I have been veery passive and conservative in my approaches in the past but still I can't help but wonder if my height has anything to do with it. I feel as though I have to be more aggressive because girls just aren't going to be naturally attracted to me.

Matt1441 · 2014-03-30T10:35:15+00:00

Polar opposite insecurity. It's where you focus on not being something AKA not being Tall and therefor not being aggressive so instead you start acting totally Aggressive and it highlights your insecurity

RagaTanha · 2014-03-30T23:36:20+00:00

Yes definitely. I'm 5'6" and I can get away with being a LOT more aggressive than big guys because girls are less intimidated.

treefidy · 2014-03-30T06:45:36+00:00

Nah, you can tell if its an issue for them off the bat. If it is, then move on.

I have a few superficial deal breakers, so it's only expected that other people have them.

2014-03-30T11:25:29+00:00

It's a good question.

I'm 5'3. I have a fairly slight build (~150lbs). I have a mild expression, speak softly, am not at all aggressive, and generally have a very low-key behaviour. I don't have any issues with self-assertion or or with attracting female interest, although I certainly did when I was younger. This is probably related to the fact that I have almost 20 years of practice of various martial arts, including a black belt in karate.

For any man, physical confidence is essential. For a shorter man, I would say a regular practice of martial arts can make all the difference - paradoxically, after you get to a certain level, you don't need any overt displays of aggressiveness, ever. Yoga is also a big plus in terms of accepting your body type, whatever it may be. And meditation makes you all-around comfortable and happy with who you are.

I used to think women were not attracted to my body type, but as I've aged I found this was only a problem if I made it one. Of course girls idealize a taller man, but it's only one factor among many, and they will ignore it completely if you do. My current girlfriend is much younger and a full head taller than me.

Cpains · 2014-03-30T17:42:13+00:00

I feel ya man. I've never been directly told my height was an issue, but I'm almost certain it has been the majority of the time.

masterrod · 2014-03-31T00:41:17+00:00

Better to go case by case. It's unlikely that height has anything to do with your overall success. Besides it's not useful to focus on factors that you can not change. Rather it's better to focus on sorting your targets.

DNZ_not_DMZ · 2014-03-30T10:31:25+00:00

If you're short and aggressive, you'll make a fool out of yourself.

AliceA · 2014-03-30T11:58:19+00:00

I hate aggressive! Nothing will turn me away faster than someone who is "determined"!

jbonola · 2014-03-30T11:08:01+00:00

Heights not an issue, granted in a social setting with guys who are 6+ feet you have to understand how to control the crowd and be Alpha. Its body language, its control, it's what you say it. The only barrier is what you place on yourself. Socially even the shortest people can have the strongest stage presence- they just have to carry themselves. For some women (in my experience 5'4-5'8 girls) height may be a hangup, but that is why you approach them and present yourself as the alpha. You can win these girls over as long as you follow any other set. A lot of taller girls (6 feet tall) don't get hit on because they are tall and were awkward at one point. Height doesn't matter to them, but the moxi you have to approach them is very powerful. Tl;dr Every roadblock is in your mind, trample over it and learn alpha behavior

MarsayMarsac · 2014-03-30T10:45:16+00:00

You cannot be more aggressive than you naturally are. If you try to act more aggressive people will notice that. I'm sure you yourself have noticed some people who act like that and seem really fake.

If by aggressivness you mean being more direct and honest than most of the people then in my opinion this can help. It can feel like a breeze of fresh air in the midst of smog that other guys are spreading around her.

CatStringTheory · 2014-03-30T11:36:47+00:00

I dunno, everyone is different. I'm 5 5 and about 155 lbs , and I tend to try to just worry about being witty and interesting. I have always noticed people tend to focus on the same flaws I do, so I try to make it a Mon issue for myself and people follow suite.

Dantilli · 2014-03-30T12:25:15+00:00

In terms of pickup is generally doesn't make much difference. No matter what your height, relatively calm but assertive is the best way to go most of the time.

I would say, though, that taller guys are much more intimidating if they try to be agressive. I'm not necessarily sure a short guy can get away with more, aggressive is aggressive after all, but a tall guy will usually get a stronger response.

2014-03-30T12:56:22+00:00

No to both questions

2014-03-30T13:46:05+00:00

Hmm. That's a good question. I think it's a fine line to walk. Be too passive and you'll probably be thought of as the little guy who's a bitch and be too aggressive and you have height issues.

I'm 6'1" myself. I'd be lying if I said girls don't flat out tell me they like my height but I don't think it's as important as many assume it is. Confidence and social skills will trump height 9/10 times.

Title	Do you think smaller/shorter guys have to be more aggressive when approaching, or that they can get away with being more aggressive than most guys?
Author	Sedditor829
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Date	March 30, 2014 3:27 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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