Overcoming Approach Anxiety – (Not a “Hack” or “Trick”, but rather a Lifestyle)

This is obviously a long post - but it's worth it. I promise.

I am going to teach you how to effortelssly attract women by the boatloads. As I said, this is not a “hack”, “trick”, or “technique” that will only become outdated. What I’m about to teach here is a lifestyle that’s the complete opposite of deceptive. You can use this for women, and you can apply this to any other aspect of your life.

These steps are extremely powerful, and if you truly wrap your mind about everything that I’m going to say and apply it to EVERY aspect of your life, you’ll see an abundance of women after you. I HAVE NO DOUBTS ABOUT THIS. YOU WILL ATTRACT AN ABUNDANCE OF WOMEN IF YOU FOLLOW THESE STEPS. They are very powerful, I have witnessed personal transformation and the transformation of others that use these.

My hopes, is, at this point, you realize how easy it is to get any woman, find a good one, and move on to bigger and better goals in life with the woman of your dreams.

Three Things to Address##:

1.) Why you are experiencing the problems you are

2.) Most fatal flaws in men when they are going about attracting women

3.) 3 steps to effortlessly attract women (these aren’t “hacks” or “gimmicks”)

I will say this: The PRIMARY reason why most guys don’t attract women is because they view beautiful women and “attraction” as some superhuman accomplishment that’s outside the realm of their existence. That they have to tap into an alternate world where super mysterious attraction powers can hypnotize women into doing their bidding.

In fact, it’s a very easy, very doable task that requires no work or effort. Attracting a woman is actually more natural than any task that we do from day to day:

• Driving a car
• Operating a smartphone (especially androids, those phones have like a million menus)
• Playing games

We can do these things easily as men, but when it comes to women, we stumble upon ourselves. This is essentially insane because it’s literally in our DNA to approach and attract women without thinking.
If you think that there’s something wrong with your DNA, then I’ll have a fake doctor diagnose you with stage 4 cancer and give you a month to live – I guarantee you that you’ll get laid before you “die”.

In order to solve any problem, you have to fully understand your problem. Your anxiety is literally the only thing holding you back from approaching women. Once you overcome this, you’ll witness your success rates go up.
This is why you’re experiencing anxiety:

• You’re worried about the future
• Your emotions are energizing past thoughts of failures and making them “true” in your mind.
• You’re emotionally tied to the results, and your self-worth is determined on whether she says “yes or no”

What Time Period Do You Live?

What I’m about to tell you is basically a fundamental key to success with women. All guys who effortlessly attract women do these techniques whether they know it or not.

• Stop continuously living in the future
• Stop continuously living in the past
• Always Be Present

Most common objections I hear:

• “We’re supposed to learn from the past! If not, I’m doomed to repeat the same mistakes with women!”
• “How can I achieve success if I don’t picture successful future outcomes with women and aim at improving myself for a better future?”

Here’s my rebuttal:

• When you touch a hot iron as a kid, instantly know that you should never do it again. You don’t have to live in that moment before you iron your clothes – It’s instantly engraved in your mind and body. Be present, when talking to a girl, don’t dwell on past mistakes or let the past (which doesn’t even exist), affect who you are.
• Picturing a goal is not only a good idea, it’s a great one! The key is this: you have to visualize your goals now! Not in the future when you one day become a multi-billionaire play-boy philanthropist. You, as you are now, have to picture yourself becoming successful, right now. Otherwise, you’ll be demotivated and will never want to approach women, always waiting for a “better moment in the future”.

You ever seen a guy talk to a girl, and you’re thinking: “This fucker is trying way too hard to get into her panties”. This guy usually doesn’t get into her panties. Not because he’s incapable – but it’s because he’s actually “trying too hard”. In fact, the only way to achieve success with women is through effortless attraction.

3 Steps to Effortlessly Attract Women

Step 1 – Visualization, THIS IS CRITICAL! People hear visualization and say (I already do this), and they dismiss it from their minds! Visualization to your subconscious mind is like writing a program for a computer software! Press start on the program and you'll get your desired calculation/result on auto-pilot! Do this 30 minutes right when you go to sleep, or just before you wake up. Visualize yourself successfully attracting women now “not in the future”. Do this for 21 days. Imagine the scene, the visuals, scents, hearing, etc. The mind cannot tell the difference between a synthetic and actual experience. This basic technique can work miracles in your life.

Visualize something that is true to you. If you’re an introvert, then do not visualize being an outspoken, charismatic extrovert, and vice versa. Visualize approaching the most difficult, stuck-up, girls – you overcoming their wall of defense- and the end result (sex, relationship, or whatever your goal with women is).

The reason why this doesn’t work for some people is because they simply do not do it for 21 days. Either that, or they do not really tap into their senses to visualize success. This technique is better than pure willpower – because you’ll eventually burn out, willpower isn’t an infinite asset – it’s like a muscle and can be depleted when used too much.

Step 2 – Effortless Action There’s a rider and an elephant. The rider controls where to go and the elephant actually does the work. The rider and elephant must have excellent chemistry so the ride can go smooth. If the elephant stops listening to the rider, there’s no end goal achieved. If the rider tries to micro manage the elephant’s movements, it will become frustrated, confused, or unruly.

• The rider is self 1 – or your conscious mind.
  
• The elephant symbolizes self 2 - your subconscious mind and all of your intricate bodily functions.
• The subconscious mind is 30,000 times more powerful than your conscious mind. So it should be trusted to take care of your tasks.
  

The role of your self – 1

You should be a non - judgemental observer of your self-2. Being clear of mind and completely in the present. Whatever event happens, whether she’s disgusted or happy, no event is good or bad. It’s simply a learning experience. Your “self-2” will learn from the experience whether you get her number or not. By being a non-judging observer, you’ll prevent yourself from being inhibited by the natural learning process of self-2.

The role of self-2

Self-2 is simply the vehicle for you to achieve your destination. It follows the lead of self-1,but like an elephant, can do it with a lot more power, grace, and ease.

Step 3 – Apply, Apply, Apply Talking to women should be like going to a bowling alley and throwing the ball down the lane. It should be fun. Whether you throw a gutter ball or a strike, you should just view it as a natural learning experience. It becomes un-fun when you start aiming to get a perfect game every time you bowl.

• If you talk to a girl and she's rejects you, don't judge this as a "bad event"
• If you approach a woman and she's flattered by your good looks and personality and is interested in going on a date TONIGHT - don't judge this as a "good event"
• The end result just is. Accept it without bias. Just focus on the process.e

Why?

• If you judge rejection as a bad event, you'll inhibit the natural learning process of your "self-2". Therefore, you'll come off awkward and forced. Leading to even worse results. Your subconscious mind learns effortless action by trial and error - ask anybody who's achieved any significant success, there is no other way around it - just accept the event as it is - a learning experience.

• Do not judge an event as good. If you hook up with the most beautiful girl in the world, do not judge this as "good". Why? Because your subconscious mind is always learning, tweaking, and improving. The learning process is so complex that our conscious mind cannot understand it. So if we judge an event as good, then we'll try to replicate it the same way, which means that we'll be inhibiting our self-2 from adjusting to a multitude of situations. Just because it worked with one girl, doesn't mean the same thing will work with another. We will begin worrying, increasing mental chatter, and ultimately start becoming tied to the results.

• By accepting the end result just as it is, your subconscious mind will instantly adjust towards your visualized goal appropriately, without being micro-managed by self-1.

In order to avoid these pitfalls, just do this:

• When you see a woman that you desire, or are speaking with one, conventional thinking is: "Do not be nervous, just act normal like you're talking to one of your friends". This usually doesn't help. If you feel fear, observe the nervousness/fear/anxiety/doubt - accept it and and be constantly aware of it. Do not try to analyze the source or attempt to "cure" yourself of the emotion. It is not good or bad, the emotion just is - and ultimately does not define your self-worth.

• Simply be a non-judgemental observer of the process. Focus on the flow of the conversation. Be aware of each other's body movements, gestures, tone of voice, silence between sentences. Just be aware, accepting, and immersed - do not try to change anything. Just observe without judgement.

What Should Happen

Eventually, by practicing "mindfulness" in the art of attraction, you'll notice conversations flowing more smoothly. The longer the conversation goes, the higher she'll be interested in you. Overtime, you'll notice that you'll get good at talking to women - almost to a point where hooking up isn't a challenge anymore. You'll start to get bored by it and will want to find the woman of your dreams (which is my goal, I want people to focus more on attracting their soul-mate and achieving bigger, better things once they find out that hooking up with hot girls isn't necessarily the path to happiness).

Self-2 is learning and adjusting real-time to the woman's wants, needs, and desires. It does this instantly, effortlessly, and all you have to do is to sit there and observe. This is because, what you are essentially doing is unleashing your natural learning process. A baby learning to walk is just as infinitely complex as a man talking to a woman. Don't believe me? Take a bio-mechanics class.

If you feel self-2 getting off track from the goal, just gently remind it by communicating a brief yet detailed visual experience of what you want to achieve, and then let go, and allow it to adjust course.

Attracting a woman is not good or bad - it just is. There are different ways to skin a cat, but what I just revealed was more of a "Zen" approach to attracting women. Apply it to your life and see results accordingly.