Tinder. It’s all the rage nowadays. I’m sure you all have your own opinions on it, and that’s fine with me.

For some context, I’m 18, just graduated, and taking a gap year before college. Above average intelligence, looks, fit. Introverted and intellectual. In high school I really never knew what I was doing, was not very social. Basically, I had loads of acquaintances, but very few real friends. As far as girls were concerned, I was very prone to becoming over invested and oneitisy.

Anyways, here’s what I've gotten out of a few days on Tinder.

1. Abundance mindset

First of all, Tinder made me realize how many attractive, seemingly quality women there are out there. This might sound pathetic, but for the first time EVER, I’m now in an abundance mindset. Historically, I haven’t gotten much female attention, so when I did, fucking one way ticket to oneitis and over investment. Although, I’ve worked a lot on myself, it’s probably not evident over Tinder. Still, with matches coming in, and more receptive girls by the day, I am now coming to better understand abundance and why it fucking rocks. Oh and also, my level of investment is really low, like rock bottom low. Just that alone is huge for me.

2. Realizing and calibrating towards differences

One thing that definitely stood out to me is the variety of rhythms, tones, and patterns. Some girls have approached things differently, some faster or slower than others, some flirtier, some more intellectual etc. This has been informative, but more importantly, has allowed me to better understand how to calibrate and respond accordingly. For instance, I could definitely tell one of my matches was interested, acted accordingly, and now I’m going to be visiting her at her campus over the weekend.

3. Practicing game

For me, most of the girls I knew or talked to were girls I was friends with, either deliberately or as a result of me getting friendzoned in the past. Therefore, I really had no business trying to game them. Even though it’s all been through Tinder or text, it’s still given me opportunities to practice and try new approaches, many of which have been things I’ve gotten from you guys.

Well anyways, that’s all for now. I now have plans to meet two of my tinder girls in the near future. In a way thought, that's secondary to what I learned from the experience. As for the girls, one is definitely more flirty than the other, but the main thing I’m wondering is how to determine what they’re down for–I mean, despite Tinder being associated with hookups, some people are just there to meet people. Should I straight up ask? Suggestions here?

Thanks guys!