To start off, I believe that the main reason many men find this community is due to social isolation from women in everyday life. A year ago I was essentially a virgin, out of shape, feeling hopeless about meeting women. I had recently graduated from a tech school with very few women, I didn't have any female friends. I was working at a new job in a new city, in a completely male dominated atmosphere. I read up on this site, I got started improving myself and got into shape, tried to build up confidence, was making great money...hell I was 22 and owned a house. But I was still not meeting women and was obviously not having any sex. I'd sit at home and look at friends from high school on Facebook surrounded by their girlfriends and just feel sick to my stomach.

I kept wondering why my lame overweight friends going nowhere at art school were dating 2 or 3 girls at a time. It took months for me to realize the difference...In their everyday routine they encountered numerous attractive women with similar interests. By their natural routine, they were being introduced to hundreds of women with shared interest, some of which were compatible matches.

I realized that my problem (and likely yours too) was I didn't meet any attractive women during my normal routine. I would go from work to home, usually only hung out with my established friends. I knew I needed to change something.

I spent time trying to learn "cold approach" and did have some success with it. However, it has some crucial problems. Dating is a numbers game, however...Not all numbers are created equal. A single number through your social circle, or through mutual interests is worth 10 from the street. With cold approach, you have a lot of things stacked up against you, it's like building the pyramids, you have to really work at it to be successful. Am I just harassing her? Is she even single? Is she even from here? Is she a jesus freak? ect. Also don't forget that in most of these situations, the girl is going to be just as nervous as you if not more. If you barely had the guts to give her your phone number in the park and you think shes going to have the guts/interest/attraction to call you, think again.

I tried online dating. If you are trying it while still under 30, just delete that shit now. It is a meat market...for the women. Do you really think any decent girls are using it? Most top notch women have multiple suitors at any given time, if you had 5 girls lined up to date you, you wouldn't be online dating either. Additionally, the whole experience is like the read-and-respond-to bullshit from high school English class. But fundamentally, you are not improving yourself and adding to your SMV by online dating. Women are attracted to confident men who are out their living life, by approaching women from behind your Toshiba on your couch at 2 A.M. You are only resigning yourself to the most desperate women, because you are among the most desperate men. And even then, even the desperate fatties are getting 50 messages a night. Log off that shit and don't settle or give them the satisfaction.

As simple as it sounds, women are usually attracted to men who surround them, have mutual interests and are confident. So you ask How do I put myself in the position to meet women and drastically raise my SMV??? DEVELOP COMMON INTERESTS WITH WOMEN.

I constantly see people here whining about how they went to meetup or, kiwanis or whatever and didn't meet any women. No shit! You went to the bow hunting meetup and didn't meet women!??

Here is a list of things that fit young attractive women do: -Running -Paint -Draw -Sculpt -Sing -Play instruments -Tennis -Volleyball -Bicycling -Swimming -Yoga -Spinning -Pilates -Fitness Boot camps -Soccer -Photography -Skiing -Pottery -Film-making -cultural events -volunteering (more on this below) -A hundred others I can't even think of now

Lets break this down and learn how to use this information to meet cool women who have similar interests

Sports/Fitness Your not meeting anyone going to your beefcake power lifting gym? No shit!?? Go to Goupon and find fitness boot camps. These are social events and usually are at least 50% attractive women. Why jog down the street alone when every city has multiple running clubs and almost every running club is 50% attractive women? You've been going to your bowling club and not meeting women?? Not shit! Go to your local community college and enroll in a tennis or yoga class. You will find yourself enjoying these activities, getting in shape, and meeting women.

Volunteering You've been volunteering at the local library and your not meeting women? No shit! I've found that many of the best opportunities to meet women are through volunteering. Best results are in event based volunteerism, street fairs, film festivals, charity events, ect. Your going to meet women and have time to get to know them over a common interest while having fun in a no pressure environment. Do you run? Play a sport? Why are you not volunteering at marathons and sporting events? You will make friends and meet great women with shared interests.

Hobbies So there are no attractive women in your Linux meetup? Why not try taking a photography class or getting involved with a film club? Do you have any artistic capability? Why are you not hanging out at art studios? Hell, I don't like art either but art shows/openings are just basically excuses to drink and meet women.

Once you start going to these events, you also will have great excuses to create relationships with these women. "Hey, Cindy..we could use another person for doubles...come join us." ect.

In conclusion, you can get in shape, have fun and meet great compatible women at the same time by putting yourself in situations to do so. If you are trying to sell cars, you don't just sit in the fucking office all day and mope, you don't go the the boat basin either, you don't just go up to random people on the street and sell. You go to the places where people are interested in buying the car you are selling. Dating is selling yourself, numbers are leads, dates are test drives, relationships are sales.

You are the only common denominator in your life. If things are not the way you like them, you will have to change them yourself. No one is going to just come out of the woodwork and solve your problems for you. Things won't change next month, next year, when you finish x, you need to act now.

I can honestly say in the last year since developing these ideas, I've had more dates, more sex and more love in my life and had my first "relationship". I've developed new skills and interests and have found it easy to stay in shape.

TLDR To meet women go where women are.