Hi everyone, I'm new to Seddit but I just had an experience dating a 9-10 and would like to share my experience here with you all :) If you have had similar experiences, please share.

A little bit of background first. I am a confident and good looking guy who has never had a problem getting girls, and love to have fun with everyone I meet. Two months ago, I met a beautiful girl (she is 20, I'm 25). I was completely indifferent at the time I met her and didn't really give her much thought. I knew she was beautiful, but I was dating 2 other girls at the time so my mentality was in a state of plenty.

Over the course of 2 months, this girl started putting herself into my orbit, to which point she added me on Facebook and messaged me saying she saw me in a local bar with my friends (this is a strong sign she had high interest).

I asked her out and everything was great. Two weeks in, red flags started to show up. First and foremost, I am not the guy who treats women I just met like a princess, I treat all women the same even if they are a 6 or a 10. I treat them with love and respect and always humour them. This indifference I showed her made her pursue me... to the point of being needy and BITCHY. This was within two weeks and this is where the power started shifting.

She complained that I didn't text her enough and that she felt I didn't really care (even though I courted her like any other women). The fact that I didn't treat her like all the other beta guys did made her highly frustrated. I could tell at this point that this woman wanted a relationship straight away (if a girl acts like that, it's a strong sign she's very insecure). Over the next couple of weeks, she tested me a LOT, such as walking out if I didn't do a certain thing for her. I passed all her tests and always stayed centered and in my masculine (women WANT men to stand up to them when they jerk you around like that).

However the testing got too much for me, and slowly I became uncentered, fearful and started to pursue her more. The moment that happened was the time she gave me the silent treatment for an entire week. When I asked her what was up, she complained that I was the one that caused it (passive-aggressiveness in a nutshell) even though she asked for time to finish her school project to which I respected and gave her space.

At this point, the power dynamic had shifted to where I was more feminine and she was more masculine. She was indifferent and I was chasing. In the end she went completely cold and had probably another guy lined up as backup. In the end I gave her an ultimatum and walked and have been in No Contact since (been 1 month ago). I have analysed the situation and have some advice for anyone who is in/has been in a situation similar to this. Please add your thoughts :)

THE BAD

  • Inflated egos. I have noticed a lot of beautiful women have been conditioned to have inflated egos since their teenage years. This makes Alpha males highly frustrating for them to date, because of our indifference to their beauty.

  • If she has little to no girl friends and lot of guy friends (all beta males who kiss her ass), it's a sign she's insecure and uses the attention she gets from them to boost her self-esteem. I should state that not all girls are like this, but I have noticed it more and more with women.

  • These type of women will CONSTANTLY test you (try to make you jealous, walk out when you don't submit to their wants, etc.).

  • They will give you the silent treatment (passive-aggressiveness)

  • High maintenance all the way.

  • They are terrible communicators.

THE GOOD

  • Amazing sex.

  • They are good people deep down and have great personalities, but trying to uncover it is so much fucking work.

  • They have a guy's sense of humour.

THINGS I DID WRONG

  • I never opened her up properly and communicated with her to the point of breaking down her barriers. It takes a lot of work and effort with women like this and your relationship will never be effortless or easy.

  • I became fearful, insecure and uncentered at the end of our time together (women can smell this behavior like a blood hound)

Hope this was a good post, feel free to ask me specific questions :)