Giving her plausible deniability for going back to your place i.e. "Come meet my dog", "I want to show you something!" etc... But what happens on the taxi back to her place or yours?

Mcdz · 2016-10-23T08:00:06+00:00

Depends on the situation, if you guys have already physically escalated ie kissed, you can just put your hand on her lap and be comfortable with the silence if there's nothing to say. If you haven't, you should probably continue talking and building rapport. You could also strike up a convo with the driver too if you really have nothing to talk about.

But honestly, this question is just too tactical and thus extremely situational and ultimately not that important. If she's agreed to come back to your place, it's a pretty good sign she's attracted to you. All you have to do is continue to do what you've been doing all night/day with her--which is be yourself. And also escalate physically if you haven't already.

You need to learn to be comfortable with yourself, confident in yourself, and just do what's most natural to you. Continue to improve yourself to be the man you want to be and the rest should follow.

puaCurveBall · 2016-10-23T08:45:02+00:00

You're mixing up plausible deniability with actual ignorance.

She knows what's up when coming back to your place, the plausible deniability is in addition to the desire / expectation that there might be sex happening.

Just chill in the uber back. You can make out if you want to, or just chill holding her in silence, or talk (either sexual or comfort). All calibrated based on the girl. None is "right" or "wrong".

PUA_Mobius · 2016-10-23T07:47:04+00:00

If more comfort building is needed, build comfort (talking, laughing, etc) If you've already determined she's ready to be physically escalated, you can escalate but I'd try to keep a conversation going just for last minute comfort and for the sake of your uber driver not having to look back and seeing you two making out

dtjkk · 2016-10-23T09:36:32+00:00

Depends on your level, and how well your night has been up to that point. By your level, I mean how far have you gotten already, and how good is your demonstration of intent? If you've built up a lot of sexual energy and already kissed or made out with her, feel free to continue. But if you haven't, save that for your place. Either she needs to see whether you're worth a damn, she just needs to warm up in a more intimate setting, she doesn't know what she wants and can go either way with you, or she's not comfortable doing anything until you go on a few more dates. All are valid.

Basically, if she's coming back to your place, congratulations!!! She's into you. But at this point you should be able to know exactly how much that is and what she wants so you can adjust accordingly. So ask yourself, have you made any moves? Was she receptive? Did she reciprocate with moves of her own? The amount of physical groundwork you laid earlier on in the night will always tell you exactly how much left you have to do. Hopefully, you two have already gotten comfortable with lots of touch; otherwise, initiating sex will be awkward without a lot of buildup. The worst mistake guys make is completely ignoring this fact until it's too late. She already writes you off as a sex partner because you want to go from A to C but never even got to B---physical contact!

If you didn't get from A to B before the ride home, don't try it until you get there! And if she wasn't receptive to your attempts at touch earlier, this is especially true. Don't be the creep that doesn't take "no" for an answer or doesn't understand cold body language. Non-receptivity doesn't mean she isn't into you, just that she isn't comfortable. So make her comfortable and ask her what she wants. If she'd rather take it slow, respect that and continue to have a great time getting to know each other.

Girls who don't know what they want, or who want to test you, or otherwise seem hard to figure out (maybe because they're socially awkward), expect you to make ALL the first moves. They don't initiate anything but wait for you to act. Only then will they decide what they want from you. But just because they're hard to read that doesn't mean they're impossible---they will simply challenge your ability to calibrate yourself to the situation and be assertive. If you haven't gotten physical with a girl like this and are in a car, don't push your luck. Save your best game for when you're at your own place and can play on your own terms.

What this all boils down to is.... chill and let things happen naturally! Don't force something that doesn't naturally arise from the situation you're currently in. In the back of the car you just want to maintain momentum, wherever it's at. And the most successful guys are simply better at transitioning from A to B to C.

tramplemestilsken · 2016-10-23T17:37:07+00:00

Keep escalating in the cab. Hand on her leg etc.. Pretend like it's your couch at home.

Also, plausible deniability is for 18 y/os. Let go of it. They're friends know what they're doing, you both know what you're doing. Just ask if she wants to come to your place for a drink. Then take it one step further and ask her if she wants to check in with her friends before she leaves. That's confidence man. Not "lets go do something where it doesn't look like I want sex, but we both know I actually do." IMO, just makes you look less confident. Like you don't think she will come back for you, but will because of something at your place.

IntrovertedBadass · 2016-10-23T14:48:39+00:00

No need to over analyze this or make it complex. Should I build comfort, attraction or kiss her or not? All irrelevant once she is in the taxi with you on your way home. The only thing that’s relevant and important is to distract her mind. Just talk to her about whatever comes up and “DISTRACT” her mind. She’ll probably ask some question like: why are we going to your place actually? Even if you said to her you were going there to see your cat, it’s possible she asks you why you are going to your place again in the taxi. Just have a funny answer ready and talk about something else. The key here is just distract her mind, nothing more. Nothing less. Hope this helps.

monkeyman114 · 2016-10-23T15:26:04+00:00

No don't sprout arms in the taxi, all that stuff is for later at your place, just keep the tension up with closeness and eye gazes, maybe a wink and a smile to give her an indication that you will be doing a lot with her later on.

pointmanzero · 2016-10-24T01:44:25+00:00

Make out

yallapapi · 2016-10-23T17:37:56+00:00

If a girl agrees to come back to your place to see your dog or whatever, she already knows there's a 99% chance you're going to fuck. Girls won't put themselves in a situation to be alone with a guy in his house because they know they're probably horny and will end up having sex with them.

Just play it cool during the cab and act like you've been acting the entire night.

Don't get too handsy too quick. Play it cool and keep talking. She'll admire your self control and begin to wonder, "Does he actually want to show me his fucking dog or are am I going to get some tonight?"

Good luck!

eyesopen1111 · 2016-10-23T11:43:36+00:00

What to do during the ride to the pull location (your place or hers) depends on how much heat there has been in the interaction so far and why there's not more heat. But here's what can work well in almost any situation:

Use some arousal level touching. Touching her sensitive areas that are not her boobs or crotch can either keep things hot or continue to heat things up. Justify the touch only if you need to do so to smooth things out, because silent physical escalation with just eye contact is hotter if you can get away with it. Stroking areas like her neck (”I love your necklace”) or wrist (”Look how thin your wrists are”) , or brushing her hair out of her face (”Hold on, your hair is attacking your eyes”), or putting a hand on her knee can work wonders. Holding hands can also work wonders from both a comfort and an escalation standpoint.

Whispering in her ear is a great move. First, give her eye contact and a half smile. Say, “I need to tell you something” and then lean in or pull her towards you and whisper something in her ear. It can be a little joke (”this driver looks like a pimped out Santa Claus”) , tease (”Your fly is open. Haha, made you look”), or a compliment, but the warmth of your breath should tickle her ear. This is a great set up for hand on knee, too, because the whisper will be her focus so she likely won’t notice the hand.

mad-n-fla · 2016-10-23T17:29:14+00:00

This is sounding more like a "free candy" van.

/if you need to suggest that you are going home for something other than sex, you may want a mature woman.

Andreas-Lubitz · 2016-10-23T08:50:27+00:00

This is how you get rape charges the next day.

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