How to get girls from the club to go home with you?

ForeignInUsA · 2017-04-30T21:30:13+00:00

To get a girl to go home with you you need: Comfort Attraction Make her chase Make it seem spontaneous First of all the more time you spend the more likely you will pull. If you spend 3 hours with a girl she will most likely ask you to go home with her. Second she needs to be attracted. Third you need to make her chase by giving her positive and negative spikes, stepping away, not seeming too available, this is the least necessary factor but helps a ton. Last but not least, make it seem spontaneous and out of the blue. Be like hey let's grab pizza at... and you drive to a place that just happened to be close to your apartment and is closed. Also you have to lead her around the club first, start with baby steps. First move to a table closer to the entrance, then another and finally leave. This way she gets used to you leading. After that you are like oh I happen to have pizza/yogurt in my place. Btw before you pull from the club and to your place say something like: "I will take you with me only if you promise to be nice". The girl will know what's up and that you want to fuck her if you were clear during the night, but it will make it seem like it just happened and make her feel like less of a slut.

LLIV3 · 2017-05-01T00:20:09+00:00

Say you have weed in the car and offer to smoke her out. Trust me.

ohRyZze · 2017-04-30T22:39:02+00:00

I never take a girl home from the club, but I do invite her to 4am breakfast at the local 24 hour restaurant after the club. That way you both sober up and recognize if you really like each other at all. Then you both go home and connect later.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-05-01T10:57:20+00:00

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Here comes the problem. I dance with the girl, kiss for like 30min and everything but as soon as I ask her if she wanna go home with me (not my exact wording) they always deny.

The problem is that you're kind of blowing your wad early by going for the hot make out session in public and starting too much blatant escalation before you've gotten somewhere that it could go all the way to sex.

What you want is for the girl to be working with you, instead of falling into the role of The One Who Has To Hit The Brakes. If you're always the one who's going full speed ahead once it starts heating up, it's more likely that she'll be the one slowing it down: you have to show your desire, but also give her the space to express hers. You have to flip the script a little and then she'll work with you.

Dance with her, yes. Make out, maybe not. Tease it. Maybe even withhold it if she tries to go for a kiss. Showing restraint but making it clear that it takes some effort to hold back, is a good way to go. But only if you can do this in a real way.
Then experiment with asking the girl to leave with you after you've reached a point where the tension is building up. Either straight to your place or to a secondary public place that's closer to your home or hers, for food or something.
If you suggest going back to your place, it helps to have an excuse, even a really obvious, lame, or ridiculous one. Watching YouTube videos on a flatscreen, asking her to help you finish a nice bottle of something, etc. Doesn't take much. Just give her SOMETHING as an excuse.
If you suggest hopping to another place between the club and your place/her place, it's good to frame it in terms of some sort of hunger or desire. Like, express hunger for some sort of food. Tell her she should come with you. Etc.

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You see, last time I was out I had 6 girls in one evening because every time they said no to going home with me, I just went to another one lol.

Fun, sure. But if what you actually want is to go home with any of those girls, you're shooting yourself in the foot by going about it this way.

Most or all of those girls saw you with the other girls, getting shot down. Your stock goes down every time.
By going hard for the make-out session, you presented yourself as kind of desperate, whether you wanted to or not. Especially when you kept going from one girl to the next, in a way that was so obvious.

legodmanjames · 2017-05-01T08:50:08+00:00

The advice is you cant. 99% of the time what happens in the club is that.

You can get a number and calltext down the road but thats already pretty good fortune. But the same night? It doesnt happen, not in the suburbs atleast. I know people have success stories, i've had exactly one but it was in Rome.

Woujo · 2017-04-30T22:02:42+00:00

I dance with the girl, kiss for like 30min and everything but as soon as I ask her if she wanna go home with me (not my exact wording) they always deny.

dude 30 minutes is not long enough to build up enough of a connection for her to want to come home with you. You usually need to talk to them for at least a few hours.

w3rm4 · 2017-04-30T22:14:08+00:00

Another thing is you really have to address her excuses like, "I can't leave my friends, I'm not hungry, it's cold outside". You can literally say anything! the important thing is that you have an answer for her concerns example: I can't leave my friends ( they're ok, just text them where you're going) I'm not hungry ( k just watch me eat) and so on.

tony18215 · 2017-05-01T07:44:21+00:00

I deal with this alot.One concert I humped 3 girls and made out with all of them and had one call me daddy,but took none home.Its cuz I suck at closing the deal and suck at finding openings to ask to fuck.I was raised kinda conservative and its hard for me to say lets go fuck to there face.I only succeed when they I say can I have ur snapchat and then ask that way..or sometimes they tell me they r horny but thats rare

mattybilberg · 2017-05-01T11:52:49+00:00

You should make sure that you seed the pull. So its in her mind beforehand. That way its less of a big deal when you go for the pull.

luaudesign · 2017-04-30T23:22:58+00:00

Seem like you're in an area where most women like discretion rather than something explicit and exposed, yet you're being explicit on why you're calling them home, and you're doing it in front of people they know.

Your age and place it's best to just make out, get them horny and leave with their number so you can invite them later, when they're don't have their friends gossiping about, to watch a movie or check your sound system or the cool puff you ordered, or try some spicy recipe you learned... Ya know.

StarwarsITALY · 2017-05-01T03:17:54+00:00

Remember to qualify them…it's a lot easier for you and congruent and smoother to them to make an SOI off a qualfier, like "what? You can cook?? I LOVE girls who can cook (pull in for a hug)" VS just out of the blue like "that's a nice necklace (awkward makeout attempt)" lol It can be retarded like "Are you from City? You ARE? I LOVE girls from City (hug)" and "Are you from City? You AREN'T? Oh thank god I HATE girls from City (hug)" lol But I find I'm more congruent if I qualify them on shit I ACTUALLY care about, like sexual topics or attitude related things (positivity and being outgoing and shit). It's very easy for me to congruently show interest when the girl is actually passing qualifiers I give a shit about.

Title	How to get girls from the club to go home with you?
Author	ohRyZze
Upvotes	30
Comments	31
Date	April 30, 2017 9:13 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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