I'm honestly still confused about it and I've known of it for like a decade. At this point it feels like something people use to justify shitty behavior (side note, while I've seen it acknowledged both men and women may inadvertently support the patriarchy, usually only guys get flak) and or take away urgency or importance from any non-feminist issues

Yes, in the US I believe most of Congress is male (but to be fair, a bunch of those guys are way too old to be in there), but I would say Western society is certainly gynocentric. But I feel blamed for the failures of the upper class, and that feminism takes all the credit for any help in men's issues, which again is really just the upper class

Also, what happens when the patriarchy IS dismantled?

A bit of a rant but an actual discussion as well, very bitter about modern society