Personality is fluid.

One of the key fundamental concepts of becoming an attractive man is that you is a fluid concept. This is one of the first lessons in the movie "Hitch". You are not shackled to who you think you are. You have no responsibility to be the person that you were yesterday or even the person that you were 5 minutes ago. You can become whoever you want at any point in time. Just because you're not good with women or people does not mean that you can't become a sociable ladies man.

Kill the boy, become the man.

The process to change who you are can be painful. When you change a fundamental part of yourself you are literally killing your old self. Your body is in conflict with who you are and who you are becoming.

When I began day game it literally caused me pain. I felt like my mind was tearing itself apart overwhelmed with the new stimuli. I would go out and gradually expose myself to new stressors. I used a program to overcome approach anxiety that looked like this: ask 5 strangers for the time, ask 5 attractive girls for the time, ask 5 strangers for the location of a coffee shop, ask 5 attractive girls for the location of a coffeeshop, compliment 5 attractive girls, compliment 5 attractive girls and stay in the conversation. I then continued to approach girls until I felt comfortable.

Each step I felt like I was tearing away a mental barrier. When I went home at night after a day of approaching girls I literally felt like my mind was at war with itself. This lasted up until I approached roughly 30 girls.

With every knew stressor you expose yourself to you will experience pain. Your mind will tell you "this is not who you are". It doesn't want to change. It wants to keep you nice and safe. Eventually though the battle will be won and your mind will accept who you have become as the new you.