I discovered something that makes me feel incredibly less tense and nervous in social situations

poonishapines · 2017-07-03T23:26:45+00:00

Sounds like you leveled up. Good for you man!

Cinnamon_Boots · 2017-07-04T02:52:29+00:00

Yeah I've noticed that if I just focus on being genuine and having fun, my social interactions go really well. But when I start thinking about an end goal, say sex, it all falls apart

dontbeadouchelord · 2017-07-04T18:14:36+00:00

I pretend she has AIDS. The problem is.. i start to believe it. Then next thing you know I say something aloud like "so how is it like to have AIDS?" and then the date is over.

El_Kamina · 2017-07-04T08:57:01+00:00

You seem to have mastered the subtle art of not giving a fuck.

Aeon199 · 2017-07-04T04:39:08+00:00

The problem is how do you have this mindset if you're in your 30s and awkward as a general rule. Would dropping "need" from the equation lead to enhanced likelihood of success with women?

Woujo · 2017-07-04T03:31:08+00:00

You don't need ANYBODY

Mowljobk · 2017-07-04T09:12:39+00:00

"The subtile art of not giving a fuck"

Mark Manson

Its the right book for you :)

marthdotsk · 2017-07-04T14:28:27+00:00

Outcome dependance has been defeated.

upandup123 gained a level!

savagesteve_13 · 2017-07-04T18:03:47+00:00

Don't go in with lofty expectations. This is what people mean when they say "just be yourself".

xJe33x · 2017-07-04T03:47:22+00:00

you are my new hero

B5hipley · 2017-07-04T04:17:15+00:00

love it

Nofu68 · 2017-07-04T08:56:27+00:00

"And if it doesn't work, make sure you actually build a life that can lead you to look at anyone and say "I don't need you.""

This. You want to do this anyway.

mothybot1 · 2017-07-05T23:02:00+00:00

I'm trying to get into this mindset now. I have a dope ass apartment in a tower in Miami, a job, and a credit score that will make you hard...

Still insecure

CharlesDarwin59 · 2017-07-04T05:48:15+00:00

So true, my sister told me once after my mom told me she canceled plans to go back home after my wife and I did because she thought that we canceled because they were going.

"I know you dint care if people like or agree with you, hell sometimes I think you prefer it"

I thought some about it and realized to a person who is very driven by pleasing others my attitude probably does come across as being someone who prefers people arguing with me.

I really don't but as a super liberal in a small town of trump never will bes, and someone who has called 30 or more farmers leaches to their faces after they started calling people on welfare leaches, I probably seem like that.

Thing is, events happened early in my life that forced me to choose between what I knew, from careful, thoughtful, deliberate internal debate, to be true and what everyone I knew said was true. I thank the stars every day that at 8 years old I had that much courage and conviction in myself.

That strength has served me well my entire life.

Title	I discovered something that makes me feel incredibly less tense and nervous in social situations
Author	upandup123
Upvotes	146
Comments	35
Date	July 3, 2017 9:12 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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