How many of you went from getting no girls to getting girls?

satuza · 2018-02-23T21:42:59+00:00

I have. It really all comes down to confidence and persistence. But what got me started was a book called “the 3% man” by Corey Wayne. It’s a free ebook online and it taught me tons even though it took me a year and a half to really get it all to click. I am still learning but I went from having no game to always having something going on with a girl. Good luck!

RAMzuiv · 2018-02-23T22:05:21+00:00

It totally happens. When I was younger, I never talked to girls, and when I did, it rarely went well. I've been on and off with working on myself for a few years now, and a few months ago I really challenged myself to just always be going out and trying to talk to girls, and there have been more than a few times I've been shocked at what I managed to accomplish.

If you haven't read Models yet, I highly advise reading it.

What really helped me out recently, I would go to a cafe, get a hot chocolate, and I wouldn't leave until I talked to at least one girl. It was nerve wracking, and many times I would just sit there staring at a cute girl until I worked up the nerve to say hey. Not ideal, but it helped build my confidence the next time once I finally did say hey. Even if there was no one I was really feeling, I would just go up to whoever was at least mildly cute, just to keep my momentum, and honestly, that's where some of my best confidence boosts ultimately came from.

You've got this, you can become the person you want to become. I am 100% positive of that.

Raikkonen716 · 2018-02-23T23:00:23+00:00

Here i am. During my high scool years i was shy as fuck, always anxious, absolutely not in shape and coudn't attract any girl.

Then a big breakup with my school crush gave me a lot of motivation to improve myself. I ended up attracting many girls in a relatively short period of time. There were many things that worked for me (lifting, playing guitar, having ambition, and other things), but i would say the one thing that got me ahead in attracting girls was stop worring what they would think of me.

I know that i've been having the "zero fucks" attitude for the wrong reasons (becase i was hurt after that breakdown with my crush, so after that i got tired to chase girls and to treat them like princesses), but i must admit that made all the difference.

SanFran5lammer · 2018-02-24T14:33:56+00:00

I've never had anything diagnosed, but at the beginning of college I could barely meet new guys, let alone talk to girls, without becomming super nervous.

Recently I've had some luck, 2 girls in 1 week, something that has never happened to me before.

The biggest change I had was just talking to girls. Look for a moment to start a conversation, like after eye contact, and just go for it. Even if the conversation doesn't go super well, she's not going to think poorly of you, she'll just think it was a bad conversation. If it goes well you can try to het her number or just talk to her again the next time you see her.

I know that sounds super simple, but it has 100% worked, conversation is all it takes to get with a girl in the end.

Finding friends that encourage you to talk to girls and give you confidence instead of make jokes of it also was a huge key for me. They can help you realize that you can talk to whoever you want and make something happen.

Gothic90 · 2018-02-23T22:36:16+00:00

I have, but no thanks to any PUA materials. Actually it helped me one bit: some PUA material taught me to look at a woman's face in a triangle: one eye, other eye, then lips.

Since I got used to gazing this way I want to fuck anyone who has decent body. So probably a bad habit.

Mostly improvements on Logistics helped me the most. Joined dance classes, outdoor travel groups and meetups.

simpleafk · 2018-02-24T00:00:36+00:00

A related advice for you is that you should not dwell on whether you have improved or not. I understand you have social anxiety and over analyzing every situation/interaction is a common habit. You have to realize that over analyzing every situation will hinder your self improvement. Have you ever been in class and wanted school to be over? You constantly looked at the clock, wishing the hour hand would move but it felt like your perception of time slowed down? Over analyzing each situation is equivalent to this. You will take every situation and make it to be more than it really is. This will cause you to feel like a failure and make you want to give up. You should let everything take its course and allow the smaller details to help you realize that you are improving. For example, you talked to the cute girl at the library. You walk away and may realize that a month ago you couldn't look a girl in the eye without stumbling over your words. Take that tiny detail as confirmation to your ever improving success.

furacaotropical · 2018-02-24T02:53:26+00:00

hey man, i have improved alot after reading models by mark manson, definitely worth checking out

MagicStar77 · 2018-02-23T22:41:31+00:00

Lol I did nothing and I would get women attracted. Fast forward and now I have to do the work, lol.

2018-02-24T00:06:32+00:00

I have drastically changed after learning game and practicing (4 times a week for a year, in a big city). but I must say, I was already decent with girls before learning about game. I was able to meet women through dating apps, throughout college and got laid twice over my college career.

I think you just need dedication and a friend to push you, you need to go out (this is super key). go to bars clubs, night venues, whatever, and just talk to women. take notes and learn.

also work on yourself, travel, take classes, read, go hiking, hit the gym. Self improve

My wingman, who was completely helpless has gotten a couple make outs after going out with me and doing game. there is no magic pill, like any skill, you need to take massive action.

LimitedContributor · 2018-02-24T00:17:24+00:00

I'm still in the process. I feel like I should start driving first. I'm still experimenting though. I'm depressed and I need something.

EZ-Pizza · 2018-02-24T00:53:00+00:00

It is certainly possible my dude. When I was your age I don’t think I had even made out with a girl yet. By the time I was 21, I had gone on about 5 dates, had sex with 2 of them, and ended up dating 1 of those 2 for about 4 years.

I’m not sure how we compare in terms of social anxiety (I’m sure I have some amount of it but I’ve never been formally diagnosed) but I have definitely been labeled as “awkward” by multiple people. My ex said she thought I was awkward when we first met, but she thought it was cute, so I mean as long as you’re not absolutely hideous, being awkward isn’t the end of the world. And just like anything in life, the more you do it, the less awkward it will be over time.

Before I give any more advice, let me ask you this: how bad is your social anxiety? How many people in your life can you talk to without getting any anxiety?

Side note: All of my experience is with Tinder, I can’t speak to cold approaches and the like because I haven’t attempted that yet.

tony18215 · 2018-02-24T09:09:22+00:00

In high school I was shy and very polite. ALways tried to be a gentleman and never wanted sex. Had a gf but didnt attract many girls. In college I started dressing good,started to tease girls,and got a fuck boi hair cut. There was a point that I was banging 2 different chicks a week for a good 2 month my senior year in college. I started going to music festivals,clubs,social events just to get pussy and did alot.I started to get a lot of girls noticing me and hooking up with me easily because I showed confidence in the way I dressed and acted.I also checked girls out infront of them and made them know I was interested and wanted them.

Voyaller · 2018-02-24T09:35:48+00:00

What a great post. Now i can talk about my narcissistic self. Amazing.

I was the guy who wouldn't taking care of himself, appearance, mind set, playing video games all day etc.

Thanks to my best friend he got me involved with pick up. We started grinding every Saturday on nightclubs a bit of street game. I took better pictures of my self. I also tried to step up my SM appearance.

I started lifting 2 years ago. Taking better sleep, eating better. I focused on my self. To things that giving me confidence.

I realized the more you taking care of YOU, the more confident you are.

I ended up being the funny kinda pretty guy. The only thing left for me to improve is the trolling. Oh my god i love trolling other people even in real life, though it looks like they don't really appreciate the glory of sarcasm.

Anyway that's not necessarily bad thing. Just a need to tone it down a bit since it pushes people and women away.

EDIT: I also stopped giving fucks about things that do me no good. That's the reason why my sarcasm thing got worst. Anyway it's about balance in everything of your life.

DeathRebirth · 2018-02-24T10:27:49+00:00

Of course dude but it really comes down to you. No amount of material or advice will cause you to want to change. Because at the end of the day that's what it's about... You wanting something different for yourself and then acting on it. Not just whining and wondering what if.

Naramie · 2018-02-24T17:06:33+00:00

I did. The major driver of the change was that I put myself out there. Over time I learned how to listen and have a conversation. Through those conversations I picked up on subtle signs of interest which helped me get more comfortable with progressing more into the physical stuff. Success or fail you gain experience, learn somethings, and build upon that over time.

Reading content on the subject can help but it won't replace the actual experience of going out there and doing the thing.

volcanolairbadguy · 2018-02-26T06:19:18+00:00

More like getting girls to getting even more girls but, its basically all relative. More approaching, more rejections, more reflecting, experience, knowing when to push/pull or even next a girl.

2018-02-24T00:45:30+00:00

I did. I actually got a girl to drive me home, and another girl to come to my house. Both events fucked with my self image, meaning I gained huge confidence when I did it. It's important to remember your wins, for self image.

Being persistent is key too, both micro and macro momentum.

I don't like to acknowledge it, or identify with it. But SA was a big problem for me until I took action. Massive action. The first few girls I talked to went so bad, but I'm so thankful for these events, because they changed me. They made me feel such deep pain.

Now I wish the first girls I experimented with (game/social) saw me now.

I bought the natural by rsdmax, some meditation program from Julien, read countless books on psychology and science, related to game mostly.

John-lovestosposh · 2018-02-24T04:40:47+00:00

19m In my senior year , I kinda stopped trying . I was able to get a gf but it didn't feel forced , it felt natural . And I lost my v card as well as had sex with other girl after .

But when I was "trying" I half assed everything.

Went from no girls un until I turned 18 to sex with two within 2 months .

But guess what , I'm in a dry spell :/ now

I need to try more and get out there !

2018-02-24T13:53:01+00:00

Yup! 0-28 year. 3 drunk hook ups. I would cock block myself because I knew I’d only let them down.

Age 29 - 30. Fucked 8-10 women. 2 I fucked over several months while dating. Currently fuck my FWB, and currently dating a fucking knockout. Tall, gorgeous with an amazing ass. I can’t believe I’m living the life I dreamed about. My life is dope.

jasonism1 · 2018-02-24T16:56:13+00:00

99% of us.

matt99me · 2018-02-24T17:21:04+00:00

Swingcatt worked for me. Before this I was nobody, but eye contact practise, conversational escalation, when to say hi etc. he explains everything. I will also recommend going through s*x symbols by leil lowndes(3 hrs audio book). You will be an expert in knowing if a girl wants to talk to you or no. On an average I get 3-4 comeon effects per day if i am on street, mall etc. If you still cant approach girls then try this (remove spaces) https://www. youtube. com/results?search_query=eye+contact+practise. Approach with eye contact https://www. youtube. com/results?search_query=approach+girl+with+eye+contact

2018-02-28T14:27:55+00:00

I've always been somewhat attractive, but I used to be overweight, dressed badly and lacked any confidence in myself. When I first got into seduction four years ago I improved alot of parts of my life and starting approaching alot more. Nowaday I have a gorgeous girlfriend. It gets better if you put the effort in

orgnohpxf · 2018-02-23T21:42:33+00:00

This will sound insane, but sugar dating made me go from zero to hero. A lot of girls are on sugar daddy sites to explore and have casual fun anyway, and already receptive, as well as sexually liberated. Younger guys have a huge advantage, and it's a great way to get experience. Yes, you have to spend a little bit of money, but if they are even a little bit attracted to you, that puts you head and shoulders above the competition. I have been thinking of creating a post totally based on it. Nobody wants to hear that you should pay to play, but If you're a sub 8 male with social anxiety, it will get you straight into the fast lane. I went from being a cucked deadbedroom dad to a divorced guy getting laid 20+ times a month. in less than 3 months.

Title	How many of you went from getting no girls to getting girls?
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Date	February 23, 2018 8:36 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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