Too much theory, not enough practice.

PeteAndsomeHandsome · 2018-03-28T14:08:06+00:00

(Not a PUA just a regular guy) Regarding the anxiety, I used to and am mostly like that. What is helping me now is embracing the anxiety and doing a “drive by convo”. Pretty much go up to whoever it is and aim for 1-2 back and forth (a joke, a comment about the bus being late, pointing out something that leads to a small chuckle or smile) then move on. The point of this isn’t to seduce her, it’s to demystify her. This has helped me with anxiety and maybe will help you too.

milehighblonde · 2018-03-28T13:59:56+00:00

It sounds like you know who you are. Owning that is confidence. Don't try to be something you're not. People will pick up on it, and you won't be happy. Understand that someone out there is looking for someone like you. Seduction is overrated, be human. Good luck✌️

TruthSFree · 2018-03-28T17:15:55+00:00

Hi, check this out, let me know if it helps. https://www.truthrelationshipmanagement.com/new-blog/2018/3/24/you-are-so-money-and-you-dont-even-know-it https://www.truthrelationshipmanagement.com/new-blog/2018/3/28/calm-down-or-calm-the-fdown

Kenic_In_MD · 2018-03-28T13:54:49+00:00

MOST of the time I am too anxious to act

I was like this a few years back, and still fall for it every now and then. You are psyching yourself out. Act before you have time to think on it. This usually works for me.

ALPHA-ULTRA-CHAD

Take everything you read here with a grain of salt, people posting responses have the time to analyse your situation or what you said and come up with the "perfect" response. Obviously being in the moment things were completely different.

I'm just a shy, introverted, sensitive, skinny dude with low self-esteem

So you know your flaws, work on them. Nothing with being who you are, but get into a situation that it works for you. Shy, talk to more people. Introverted, go out more. Skinny, hit the gym this will also help with self-esteem. Sensitive, learn to let things go.

It really feels like I should take a break from Seddit and just go with the flow

Nothing wrong with that.

tab13092 · 2018-03-28T17:32:55+00:00

I honestly just skim through and take advice with a grain of salt on here, because no one person is alike.

I don't work out, I have a high metabolism that helps keep me at a decent weight and it's just not the type of dude I am. I spend that time working on other things.

My advice, because I'm generally anxious around people I don't know in general, is to just learn to make small talk. Something with more depth then talking about the weather or whatnot, but you don't have to delve in to their life story either.

Upon learning that, I have managed to be able to just strike up conversations with people I don't know and it not feel weird or uncomfortable. Try it next time you're in the store (with the cashier or customers looking at the same stuff as you) I'm the manager of a mom and pop auto parts store/garage, so I have to deal with the general public, distributors and various other people so that has really helped me out a lot.

With that, rather then just focusing on women/pick up, just try to get comfortable with talking to strangers in general.

theXcepshin · 2018-03-28T21:48:21+00:00

For me, the way around anxiety is straight through it. It's the thought of "Man, I am probably going to royally fuck this up. OK! Here I go!". At some point, you need to be able to say "Yes. This is probably going to go really wrong. I am going to do it anyway.".

TorDZeus · 2018-03-29T03:47:18+00:00

It really feels like I should take a break from Seddit and just go with the flow. In the long run, sticking to it might do more harm than good for me.

Yes. It's called being a keyboard jockey and circle-jerking.

What you are stubbled upon is one of the most important realizations in life. If you fill your brain with negative thoughts (even if they are true), then it will cause fear, uncertainty and doubt which will ultimately stop you from preforming. You need to purge your mind of these concepts and focus on reality, on your present situation and what is required to accomplish your goal.

ALPHA-ULTRA-CHAD every 2nd post

This is the same trope pushed out by Hollywood and the media.

rohan417 · 2018-04-01T14:57:39+00:00

I have the same problem as you. Last summer I was in awesome state and could talk to any girl . This year, after few months of winter I could barely say hi to a girl last night. I have to build the confidence again from the scratch. In the meantime I'm building some muscle in the gym and got in my cities sports team. :)

mronson · 2018-03-29T00:24:11+00:00

I've worked through crippling anxiety as well.

I got over it by starting small.

1 conversation with a stranger per day
2 conversations with a stranger per day
...
5 conversations with a stranger per day
1 conversation with a cute girl per day
...
5 conversations with a cute girl per day
1 approach with intent to set up a date
...
5

Incrementally expose yourself to riskier endeavors that show you how much more potent a single success is than a dozen failures.

Title	Too much theory, not enough practice.
Author	GoodMorningWanka
Upvotes	12
Comments	12
Date	March 28, 2018 1:48 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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