Honestly, do you have better luck with the women you approach with a desire to sleep with? With women who you don't care about at all? Or with playing the numbers game and going until you get one that sticks regardless of if she is who you'd normally go for or not?

ImJustSo · 2018-05-09T11:36:23+00:00

I think seduction is kind of about going through various thresholds. This is just a theory of mine, but I think there's a natural progression involved. At first it's about succeeding through numbers, then it's about succeeding with the ones you don't care about, and finally it's about succeeding with the ones you actually like.

I remember when I started, I would just talk to tons of girls and deal with their shitty personalities or my lack of attraction. Eventually, I noticed the ones I really wanted would always slip through my fingers, but the ones I didn't care about seemed easy to manage. Now I just amp up the charm and seduction towards the ones I really like and move those forward. That's not to say that all the other girls aren't still just as easy as before, it's just that I can succeed where I want to now.

WIA20XX · 2018-05-09T11:16:48+00:00

I don't go for girls that I don't find attractive. Seduction is about choice, and if you're just fucking anything cause you need a girl to drain your balls - then you're missing the point.

jimmy804 · 2018-05-09T10:43:15+00:00

It's usually the ones that I don't care about. At least for me.

2018-05-09T12:53:58+00:00

[permanently deleted]

11kgm · 2018-05-09T13:11:25+00:00

As my coach said it's like hunting with a shotgun shoot hope you get something

So 3 for me

piperson · 2018-05-09T14:54:31+00:00

When I started to pick up girls, I remember wanting girls that I wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole now. I saw one recently and thought, "whew, I glad I missed that boat." I'm still not able to sleep with whoever I want, but I only go for girls who I'm attracted to.

One big difference between before and now is that even my number 10's, I hold judgement till the last minute. I'm never 100% in. I'm always evaluating them and the experience from the first moment till we part ways. Good looks are not enough for me. I need a girl who is really cool. I need a girl without all the weird shit girls often come with. If a girl decides that she needs to shit test me, no matter how beautiful, I'm outta there. Fuck that shit. I'm better off with a not so cute girl but way more cool and chill.

Even though I can't get all the girls I want, I am picky, even more picky than I was before. I know that I am cool and chill and I want someone to meet me at my level. I'm not going to go down to another's level.

Another thing I've learned is to stop being so desperate and "falling in love" with everything that moves. I tell girls strait up, "I do not want a relationship. I will not commit to you or anyone. I'm looking to hang out and have fun. The minute this is not fun any more, I'm outta here." What I discovered is that girls are as horny as guys are. They can get really dirty and fowl mouthed like a sailor, and the DO talk like a whore around their friends. This whole, "holy virgin" thing is what they learned from society, but once you cut through the bullshit, they are dirty slobs just like us. And anyone who can't relax and enjoy themselves around me is not worth my time, no matter how hot they are. So my attitude when I approach a girl is, "Hey, what's up? Wanna go have some fun? Sex or no sex, I don't really care. I just want to hang with a cool girl and have some fun. You down?" If they are not down, I didn't loose anything because a date with them would have sucked anyway.

To "fall in love" with a girl is so stupid. We kid ourselves into thinking that "this girl is special" and "this girl is the one" when in reality, there are millions of girls as beautiful and more beautiful than this one. So beauty is only a small part of what I am looking for and it's not the most important. I want a girl I can laugh with and I can talk dirty to. If they can't hang, I'm way better off without them.

So I am never, ever, 100% in. I am always evaluating and pushing to be more relaxed and have fun. That's all we really want anyway. To enjoy ourselves.

LimitedContributor · 2018-05-09T15:16:48+00:00

I extremely dislike when girls I want are accompanied. Its like you always have to go through them first and then when I do, I feel like ish because its like I ignored their existence. They didn't matter because I wanted her, not you.

Its never like that though and I end up feeling guilty for it.

2018-05-09T15:23:40+00:00

I did a lot of online dating, got a lot of lays through it, and now I'm in a relationship with a girl I met online. For me it was a numbers thing. But at the same time, I also never got into anything long term since my ex because either I or the girl cut it off after a few dates and lack of chemistry. It was/still is a learning process. I know now that if this relationship doesn't work out, I'm actually going to be okay and probably I'm going to strive to only go after girls I'm attracted to.

Not that I didn't do it before, but I was more...willing to change my definition of attractive while horny.

papi1368 · 2018-05-10T08:43:18+00:00

Theres a great saying which goes by "You attract the women you dont mind losing".If you live in abundance and dont really mind leaving a hot girl because you can always find another, you instantly become of higher value and she will want to validate and qualify herself to you.

2018-05-09T15:05:06+00:00

It's a process if you ask me, I'm 16 years old and for some reason I made my research because I really wanted to know how it works, right now I'm with a beautiful girl and she's the love of my life, but I hate to admit that I did seduce her into falling for me and it wasn't as natural. I didn't hold back from saying anything, and I kept the conversation going, I made risky jokes in the first 15 minutes of talking to her and we just clicked because she made risky jokes too, don't be too scared to offend the ones you like, and mind a few things like hygiene, how deep your voice is around her, make sure you are giving her this vibe that is making her drool for your lips, look her in the eyes and tell her her smile is beautiful and smile a bit on your own end, if the conversation gets sexual don't shy away and show her how real men treat their ladies, too mean or too nice is not attractive, always in the middle, dominating but sensitive, gentle but playful, touch her in places where she gets weak, make her worship your very existence, make her question her life when you're not around and she misses you (this is all under the assumption that you like this girl and are willing to take it to the next step, because this is dangerous advice if you play with her feelings)

Comments