Building your self esteem, by doing whatever you want to do in that exact moment

tk_96 · 2018-05-20T14:37:40+00:00

The only negative part of this is dealing with that chatterbox in your head which questions your every move. Has anyone got any tips for silencing it?

Insertopinionhere · 2018-05-20T16:52:25+00:00

This seems to rely on thinking too much imo.

The jist of your post is basically be true to yourself. The problem with a lot of guys is that they don’t even know who they are. When they stop and try and think about it there’s a hundred voices in their head. Their mom, their dad, their friends, society, girls...etc. The list is endless.

Eventually you just throw up your hands because you can’t tell if that’s what YOU really want or if it’s just what you’ve been told by the people around you.

In my experience learning to be true to yourself means listening to your intuition or your gut. You turn the thinking mind down and listen to your feelings and emotions. If the thought of becoming a lawyer makes your stomach turn then you know it’s probably not the job for you. If sitting around doing nothing all day end up making you feel like shit don’t do it.

Basically tuning into your emotions will guide you to your true self. Not the self that has been told what to do by society, parents, religion, friends...etc.

Once you’re tuned into your true self then your advice is great. The problem is that most people don’t know themselves. Their thinking mind is overrun by the people in their lives.

recyclablebanthas · 2018-05-20T17:24:22+00:00

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Just listen to yourself and whenever you feel like doing something, you do it right away.

There has to be a balance. When it comes to pursuing your self-interests, as a default, this is great. Once your actions start potentially impacting people around you, empathy is a necessary skill.

Done right: A guy who wants to talk to a girl and flexes his empathy as he does so, to read the girl's state.

Done wrong: A guy who wants to talk to a girl but pays little attention to her states and is more focused on what he wants.

The first situation is more likely to work out for everyone and the second situation is more likely to go tits up in awkwardness for everyone.

question4red · 2018-05-20T17:33:23+00:00

When I talk to that cute barista at Starbucks I feel like I want to put my hands on her butt.

4sins · 2018-05-20T14:16:19+00:00

This seems like some really great advice that I will definitely try, thank you^{^}

acquired_ · 2018-05-20T16:37:39+00:00

Yeah it's an important concept called micro-avoidance

The_2nd_Coming · 2018-05-20T18:02:04+00:00

This is really good practical advice. I kinda have been doing this for years.

It gives you control over your life.

You know how sometimes you have a problem in life and you think, "If only I was X, then I could do Y"?

Become X, and even if Y doesn't happen, then at least you know that theory wasn't true.

PenguinHank · 2018-05-20T18:53:43+00:00

I think that this is great advice that I am going to try. But the difficult part is motivating myself to do whatever it is when I don't actually have then motivation to do it.

beastboi27 · 2018-05-20T19:18:46+00:00

Kind of like the 5 second rule.

It sucks because everytime i push myself, i feel like I'm still not getting anywhere. I have all these goals in my mind and i can't even get one of them done. Now since i lost my Dog , it feels like hell trying to get back to feeling ok enough to keep going. He was like the only one that kept me happy and at ease in a place i hate so much and now he's gone and i can't just get up and move out of here with no job or money.

donkeykong69xxx · 2018-05-20T20:39:44+00:00

Use it for activities, that improve yourself and not something like "I feel like watching youtube for the rest of the day"

Your post should be titled do stuff you are afraid of if you want your self esteem to increase.

lovellutherin · 2018-05-21T02:13:56+00:00

"I feel like masterbating, No no no, thats not suppose to happen." COUNTER with "I feel like not listening to THAT voice, and NOT masterbating. hell yeah."

Flamingofever · 2018-05-22T10:28:55+00:00

So if I'm drinking a beer with a girl, laughing and having a good talk, and I really want to kiss her, I should go for it?

Title	Building your self esteem, by doing whatever you want to do in that exact moment
Author	xpl0t
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Date	May 20, 2018 1:21 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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