Your APPROACH anxiety (or fear of women) is going to make your brain come up with all kinds of DEFENSES to stop you taking action. You might pretend you don't care, blame women, or think you have to learn as much as you can. In reality, you just have to spot where you're holding yourself back.

wont_give_no_kreddit · 2018-09-19T18:22:25+00:00

Okay fair enough, you can come up with excuses as to approaching.

But lets picture this, you have approached over 200+ times and have got no results despite changing tactics & gaming differently & given up.

Does this sound like an excuse to you, or reasonable action?

The reason why I think It is reasonable is because usually where if you keep repeating something and 100/100 times you fail doing the same thing (in this case approaching) it is time to move on to something else as the failure rate is 100%.

Take a similar analogy, you create a business and its failing, you invent new methods of adapting this business idea and fail 200x, isn't it better to move to something that provides you greater success.

On that note am I really holding myself back or being reasonable after long thought & experience?

beastboi27 · 2018-09-20T07:27:46+00:00

Sad to see so many dudes with mental blocks that keep them from having a relationship. For me, it's all of those excuses. It feels impossible to keep a girl interested with conversation, but I guess that's because I never use touch to further my advances. Being so long without affection and intimacy, feels hella awkward to try being intimate with girls I barely know.

ChrisSuccess · 2018-09-20T00:15:26+00:00

Thank you!

whomeverIwishtobe · 2018-09-22T00:41:41+00:00

So I’m hearing you have trouble escalating things, and building attraction. Maybe be more flirty, kino more, be less indirect more direct use less humor. Push pull, which is like, not being so agreeable. Using conversation spikes, so just basically every once in a while spice the conversation up with a more risky statement, or something more emotionally stimulating. Google any of these concepts RSDtyler and RSDmax are my favorite YouTube PUAS And they are better at explaining it than me.

Messisfoot · 2018-09-19T22:13:36+00:00

I really can't understand how men can come to the conclusion that blaming women is the only option left after years of being shit at talking to women.

It's the ultimate form of complete lack of self-accountability.

OlaFriend · 2018-09-20T12:07:37+00:00

You imply confronting emotions as an alternative. Could you explain this with an example. Also, I like the article but I am also interested in your insights in how dealing with these behaviors and overcoming.

One_Insanity · 2018-09-20T14:50:31+00:00

This is all great and interesting but I have a question.

I don't think that women are worth the effort they require. Is this an excuse as well?

Where do you draw the line for what is considered an excuse?

Is anything we say an excuse when it deters us from getting a basic human need we all have?

Because let's be legit, we all have it. Even if you're a porn addicted masturbation fiend, there is still some part of you that wants actual sex and intimacy. And yes the people that deny it are lying to themselves.

In my book, women make men weak. And if you think otherwise and are a super pimp, just imagine if you woke up and all of your experience, skills and confidence about the matter were gone. In other words, you were back to ground zero. You'd freak the fuck out as you realized you no longer have the ability to bed hot babes on the regular.

I seriously doubt any man experienced with women would take this well. In other words, you depend on women.

Flintblood · 2018-09-19T23:45:50+00:00

I can agree for most of us who have gone through self-work. I’ve grown a lot and practicing the inner game and doing a little better game. The only thing giving me caution now is concerned that approaching the wrong girl will land me in the sights of the #MeToo movement.

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