How to ask a girl out?

kopkings1766 · 2019-01-27T14:09:32+00:00

Keep it simple, don't go into a verbal meltdown. Simply ask if she's seen the movie, if not then say that we have to see it! And suggest a date and time. She'll get it, there's no need to over explain, that will just work against you. Be direct and clear. If she's seen the movie, suggest a different thing to do. By you telling her over text she's attractive etc it's only going to work against you.

Swift_Dream · 2019-01-27T14:44:28+00:00

Keep it simple my guy. "Hey let me take you out for a coffee" replace a coffee with any events that sounds good. If theres resistance, you should frame it as a light hearted event and that shes escalating when you're trying to move things slower than her

DasLazyPanda · 2019-01-27T14:14:20+00:00

Movie for a first date is not a good plan.

You are sit in the dark during almost 90 minutes and you can't talk and it can be "expensive" I would recommend to show her your best coffee place, go to a minigolf, ping-pong bar, arcade game bar, cat coffee,....

boofuckinghoo88 · 2019-01-27T17:19:22+00:00

Imagine you were asking one of your guy friends, just do that.

actualMattD · 2019-01-27T14:32:49+00:00

Start with a large offer and if she says no then offer something a bit smaller until she eventually says yes or you run out of things to offer. The key is to have fun with it.

You: Hey you want to go out to dinner and a movie next Friday?

Her: hmm I'm really busy

You: how about just a quick bite to eat then? Everyone needs to eat!

Her: yeah but i have to study

You: how about coffee?

Her: i don't drink coffee

You: tea?

Her: i am way behind with my studying

You: how about i bring you a bottle of water at the study hall and quietly leave it on your desk and walk away?

Her: lol ok

If you do all that with a playful smile she will find it very charming. Even if she ultimately says no, then at least you both had a little fun chatting, she knows you like her, and you were charming and didn't act like a douche or pressure her.

If you treat every interaction as an opportunity to have a little fun and get to know each other a tiny bit better, then it doesn't matter if you "achieve the goal" of getting a date or bringing her home because your goal is to just enjoy yourself with her and you've succeeded!

That's my approach and it works.

Also, regarding your suggestion of explaining why she should see it with you... Don't do any of that. All those reasons you gave are about you and what you want, but you've got to make it about her and what she wants. It's not her problem that you don't want to go alone. Just show her that you are a fun, charming, and respectful guy that is fun to be around and she will be curious about you.

mleko69 · 2019-01-27T17:16:43+00:00

"Well, you have to see it. I'll take you out to see it, because I think you're sweet... and attractive. Besides, I really want to see this movie, and I can't go with a guy, because it's a girl-movie. But I'm sure you'll like it, because I've heard it's a lot of fun".

This wouldn't work. For few reasons:

Too much talk. Confident, masculine men go straight to the point, ie. "There will be a premiere of this New Movie in two days. Would you like to watch it with me?".
Cringe. "...I can't go with a guy, because it's a girl-movie..."... Srsly?
Neediness, and bootlicking presented with comments like "because I think you're sweet... and attractive"

You're asking her out - that's enough to show her that you like her.
I'd suggest to leave compliments only for special circumstances/occasions, ie. when she is your gf, and/or when she has really put some effort to look good (for you). That would make your compliments more valuable.
Also, going to cinema on the first date isn't the greatest idea. You'll spend with her too much time, and you won't talk (get to know her) and touch her enough.Simple dinner/coffee would work better tho.

myhoeacademia · 2019-01-27T21:07:39+00:00

There are countless ways to successfully ask a girl out. This isn’t one of them. You’re saying too much & of the wrong things. You’re lowering yourself in her eyes when women seek & are attracted to higher standards. I can definitely help you get results

_do_not_read_this_ · 2019-01-27T14:59:46+00:00

First, you need to *tell* women to go out with you, not ask them. It's your life, you're inviting them into it.

This format has an almost 100% success rate (assuming you've pre-qualified the woman with IOIs and flirting):

Stop her, look her in the eyes, smile, and slowly say "Listen [this gets her attention], I really enjoyed talking with you about [whatever topic you were just talking about]. Meet me for [drinks/coffee/movie] on [date and time] so we can chat some more about it."

It has to have a purpose (drinks etc.) and be specific as to date and time. Those elements. Women crave a man to take charge of even the simplest of things, and this will get her tingling.

Then shut up. Whoever talks next loses.

You have to be firm and confident, and know your schedule obviously.

In your case, don't start with a movie date. Sitting there silently, looking forward, not touching, is not a "date". Also, bring new women to movies *you* want to see. If they want to be with you, they'll come. It's your life, you're just inviting them into it. Once you're in a relationship, then you can pick a movie "together".

goblinboglin · 2019-01-27T15:55:03+00:00

That is so cringy...

I am going to see movie X, you are free to join if you want.

Title	How to ask a girl out?
Author	YOLOFTW2016
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Date	January 27, 2019 2:04 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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