Any hope/advice for a 48yo virgin?

Feared4life · 2019-03-12T00:25:16+00:00

definitely keep working out. Look the best you can and keep a positive attitude. If you’re making such good money OP ever thought about dating foreign women?

Or getting a sugar daddy arrangement. Money is power and power is key to the pussy

2019-03-12T00:31:07+00:00

I'm quite wealthy.

Jesus, get on seeking arrangements or something and get to it.

bolxrex · 2019-03-12T08:50:19+00:00

It doesnt matter how you look or how much money if you have if you let your negative attitude bring you down. That is a stink you cant just wash off. You have to 100% change your internal monologue about yourself, think positively and it will reflect outwards. Nobody wants to be around a downer. You need to start with getting friends and doing fun stuff first.

VIGILANCE981 · 2019-03-12T00:34:51+00:00

Go to church seriously lots of single woman Volunteer in place go out of your way to go to hip coffee shops go Online and dude get a fuckin prostitute your 48 years old I promised myself that if I hit 30 and dont get laid I'm doing a binge of cocaine and prostitutes

ripgd · 2019-03-12T13:33:35+00:00

First thing I’d honestly recommend is rip of the bandade, and hire an escort. You can clearly afford a high quality one and I’d recommend you pay for a full evening experience. Explain your situation and actually enjoy their company doing something first such as treating it like a trial date before the natural desired ending.

This immediately removes your “virginity” insecurities.

Now you’re a not a virgin, your a man, who’s successfull, good looking, and apparently has good dna. You should be a catch. If you’re not, it will all be in your head, so you can take time working on and enjoying that by learning seduction and making its traits part of your personality.

Age is less important for women so I wouldn’t be concerned that the only women your age looking “weathered”. I’m sure there are countless women in their early to mid 30s that would get with you if you don’t look your age.

lilfrank101 · 2019-03-12T01:41:25+00:00

Hey bro. When have you truly felt like you accomplished something worthwhile? I found that I started becoming depressed when I stopped growing my life overall. I hear somewhere that happiness is directly related to growth.

Growth in the areas of your life that you want more from.

Look. You've said it yourself, you've never really asked a girl out. How would you feel if you got to a point where you could ask her out? Nevermind if she agrees or not, would the person you are today be impressed if your future self had the ability to do that? If so, that's growth.

It's not about the girls. It's about you. I'm going to get a little more real just to hit this home. Dude, you're 48. You're not really anywhere near old yet, but you're not getting any younger. How would you feel on your deathbed knowing that you let your insecurities hold you back from potentially having a more fulfilling life? That's not growth, thats stagnation and regret.

I'm telling you right now, it's your insecurities that's holding you back. The only way to get past them is to be aware of them. And there fortunately one straight fire way to be aware of them in clearly in less than one day:

Find a day when you're free. Take a pen and paper with you, put them in your pocket. Go out with the intentions of asking out 2 girls. Commit yourself to it. Then go out.

It doesn't matter if you end up doing or not. But what will happen is that you will be in a position when you see someone that you would want to talk to and know you should talk to. If you don't, I want you to take out your pen and paper and write down what thoughts and feelings were going through your head that convinced you to not approach.

From there, work on challenging those thoughts.

Feared4life · 2019-03-12T00:34:27+00:00

Wtf! Bro you’re balling man if I had your cash lol. You’re a bit behind in the sexual department but that’s fine.

If you’re the type who values his virginity this may not be for you. I was a virgin until I was 21 years old. I had problems nutting for some unknown reason.

I found out I couldn’t nut when I started screwing escorts like a mad man. I think mentally I was just not prepared, but I’m glad I screwed escorts to see I needed to work on my sexual life. I found out after I stopped jerking off it was now easier for me to cum from sexual intercourse.

If you don’t value your virginity I’ll tell you to hire your own sugar baby who will let you fuck and get you experienced for a real relationship.

Put that cash to work bro. And you need to learn how to approach women. But bro I don’t know how you look. But I would definitely consider with your flow of cash to pick up a sugar baby. You could get a dime with the money you have.

7598132973 · 2019-03-12T05:43:24+00:00

Did you try online dating? Considering your age you should have competitive advantage since guys start falling off and women your age should be wild for a great guy. Either way put yourself out on those sites and if you are not getting results there we should check why is that the case.

HeadingForTrouble_ · 2019-03-12T04:03:32+00:00

Your problem is you're not experiencing life.

Install Tinder, put some effort into dating and your problem will solve itself

I didn't get intimate till I was nearly 30. Since then however I have realised that if you don't put the work into dating or interact you are never going to get anywhere.

Watching all the videos in the world won't help. Dating is only really learned by interaction. You will have many failures, many no-shows. All this is part of the learning experience.

What you have failed to learn is the most important rule of dating: You lose all the games you don't play

I'm in my 50s in the tech field as you. I met my last GF when I was 50 and she was 20. Your age isn't a problem if you put the effort in.

I'm so depressed though, even have occasional thoughts of suicide.

Social interaction, even if unsuccessful, should have some positive benefit to your depression, providing you don't regard it as the end of the world if a date isn't successful.

itsfun2Bdumb · 2019-03-12T08:31:44+00:00

If your rich then you can afford to go to a bootcamp that teaches inner game and how to meet women. Some high end coaches cost over 10grand but they are worth the money.

Not_My_Real_Acct_ · 2019-03-12T01:22:37+00:00

I make thousands a day in the tech field. I'm quite wealthy. But yet I can't meet anyone. I don't derive any joy from what I make.

Are you me? lol we have very similar backgrounds. My mom is batshit insane and I'm a millionaire techie.

For me, the biggest panty dropper by far is to just have nice things and be overt about it. For instance, when I was dating a lot, I had a big house with a great view near a hip city. About once or twice a year I'd get a text from an ex-gf and we'd end up fucking, largely because I simply have a nice home.

The rest of it is just the basics:

1) this is a numbers game, so you have to cast a wide net. Go on lots and lots of dates. I would sometimes go on two dates in the same night.

2) Meeting girls online is the easiest by far. The quality sucks, but that's how it goes.

Errantsquire · 2019-03-12T15:04:47+00:00

If you're rich I'd look into Real Social Dynamics and start doing their programs. It helped me a lot. I went from 2 divorces and lot's of dating failures where it was a chore to actively enjoying the process of meeting new women and interacting. I can have a night of rejections now and end the night feeling better than I did when I started. So far I think I've engaged around 350 women in conversation since starting in January. Recently I started getting sexual experiences as well.

Wish you lived in my city I'd love to take you out and wing with you bro!

Title	Any hope/advice for a 48yo virgin?
Author	nylostandfound
Upvotes	14
Comments	36
Date	March 12, 2019 12:20 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/b011qf/any_hopeadvice_for_a_48yo_virgin/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/any-hopeadvice-for-a-48yo-virgin.1464174 https://theredarchive.com/post/1464174

Comments