What does it mean when i tell a girl that she is beautiful and she doesnt think that way? And what to do?

zincSF · 2019-04-23T16:56:45+00:00

The vast majority of women are down on themselves at some level, regardless of how they look.

In my opinion, a "you are beautiful" opener is a bit too strong. It can work, but being so strong, it can backfire in multiple ways, including the response you got of bringing out her inner demons.

If you follow up the initial compliment with a high quality "stacking" comment about her (example: "by the way you are dressed, I'd guess you are some kind of professional", or more teasing: "with that colored hair you kind of look like a flamingo!") then you immediately redirect her mind from the compliment, and you are less likely to have her commenting negatively about herself. If she does comes back with something negative about herself, just ignore it and push on with other observations about her; don't debate her about her looks. My $0.02, YMMV.

Tokemoke · 2019-04-23T18:20:16+00:00

Low self esteem. A lot of women have it. I wouldn’t worry about it. Move on. If a woman cannot accept a genuine compliment that is a HUGE red flag. She would probably be the type to kill you in your sleep or case your house or something.

Some women are damaged goods and it’s really too bad but you have to look out for and protect yourself as a man at the end of the day. You don’t want anything to do with someone like that. I’ve been there.

2019-04-23T18:08:45+00:00

She might have low esteem or be humble about her appearance. Just let it go and talk about other stuffs.

2019-04-23T18:41:02+00:00

Nice you had the courage to do this. Personally though, I don't think it's a good idea to go up to any girl (you are interested in) and give a great compliment like this.

Imagine some girl did that to you? Unless she was gorgeous too, you will probably think she was weird and will be less interested in her. Maybe even want to avoid her.

LuckyEros · 2019-04-23T19:31:36+00:00

A lot of woman generally have low self esteem, because they don’t generally look like the pictures they see(which are heavily edited). They also may just be fishing for compliments.

PuroPincheGains · 2019-04-23T18:23:20+00:00

Who cares what it means? She can feel how she wants, it's not a debate. You think she's beautiful, that's your opener and your justification for talking to her. So talk to her. You didn't approach her to talk for 10 minutes about her looks, right? Make small talk, find a chance to get the number.

xoxuv · 2019-04-23T18:55:22+00:00

The only utility you should expect from telling a girl that she is beautiful, is to open a conversation, and to make it clear that you are not there to be his friend, but his lover.

You should NOT expect her to like you, or love you, because you told her that she is beautiful. It means nothing to her.

She doesn't need to be told that is beautiful. She knows it. Dudes tell to her, the exact same thing, all day, everyday.

You make 4 giant mistakes by telling her that is beautiful:

First, you put yourself on the same group that any other loser. You only show that you are a drone clone NPC, repeating the same thing that everybody does.

Second, you put her on a pedestal, making clear that you have lower value than her, and thus not deserving of her love, because you are inferior.

Third, you reveal that she doesn't need to gain your approval. She already has it, because she is pretty, so she doesn't needs to gain you. People only value what requires effort to get. If you are free, committed and guaranteed, she has you in the bag. You are owned, abundant, cheap, and worthless.

But the main mistake you make, is that you do not understand that women do not love voluntarily. Women do not love out of generosity. Women do not love to give. They love to receive.

You cannot "convince" a woman to "decide" to love you.

The mere attempt to convince her, turns her off.

If you try to show that: you love her, you are a good person, you are a good father, a good provider, she rejects you.

If you try to boast how much money you make, how expensive is your car, how smart you are, how prestigious is your job, how muscular is your body, she rejects you.

She rejects you, because you are telling her that you do not have intrinsic value, and for that reason you need to compensate with money, muscles, nice boyiness, gentlemanly and attention.

If you need to boast, then you don't believe that you are enough, and that's what matters to her.

If she demands and you obey, you don't feel that you are enough. You need to gain her approval, and that's needy and repulsive.

If you try to convince her to love you, you are asking her something impossible: you ask her to voluntarily love you. That's out of her capabilities. She cannot voluntarily love.

When a wife stops loving his husband, she wants to love him, but she can't. She wants to love, because love rewards the person that loves. Feeling love feels good.

But she can't love, because it is the husband who gives, her love for him, to her.

She receives her feelings from the man. She receives her love. She doesn't gives her love.

By telling to her that she is beauty, you are trying to convince her to make the decision to love you. She can't, and you also are failing to make her feel feelings for you.

To seduce a woman, you don't need to negotiate with her rational mind. You deal with her feelings directly. You bypass her brain, and go right for her animal core. You talk to her feelings.

You talk to her with emotion and passion in your voice. You feel lust, you touch her, you play with her, you give her emotions, you neg her, you do cocky & funny, you lead her, you push-pull, you reward her when she is nice, and punish her for being negative.

You have to make her feel emotions, take her to bed and give sex to her. If you do not give sex to her, she loses interest, and goes away to another dude that gives sex to her.

She will only want you, after you gave good sex to her.

dednian · 2019-04-23T18:12:25+00:00

Difficult when she brings herself down like that because it puts her in a negative mood, thinking about her flaws rather than appreciating the compliment. To that I personally would say something that would make it a little more light-hearted, like 'well beauty is in the eye of the beholder/that's just my personal opinion, you're free to disagree' or in response to her being the ugliest in her class maybe something like 'damn you should introduce me to this class of yours if you're the minimum requirement'. Just something to sort of make it not such a big deal?

I'm not a pro like a lot of the guys on here so don't take my word and of course different girls will respond differently but an approach maybe worth trying?

WhatsReddit123456 · 2019-04-23T19:13:35+00:00

It means that while most guys don't find her attractive, YOU DO. That's good for you because you don't have to worry about competition.

greenlittleman · 2019-04-23T19:44:00+00:00

Lol, why would you want a girl to think about herself as beautiful? Do you understand what women want to be with someone who they consider above their league? So if she isn't considering herself to be a beauty it is much easier for her to accept your higher status and do anything to get you to be with her. Also she is probably right and she isn't so hot compared to other woman. For needy guy who can't get laid even 5/10 girl would be hot, but unless she is delusional she understand her real place compared to other women.

SpinPlates · 2019-04-24T01:39:38+00:00

She wasn't attracted to you.

roamtheplanet · 2019-04-24T02:27:57+00:00

Tell her whoever told her that lied

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