I dont feel sad or happy. I just dont feel anything. I have no personality. No one loves me or likes me. Im tired of pleasing ppl just to be my friend. How to stop these?

ProudRamboBSNS · 2019-06-17T17:57:29+00:00

Read two books.

No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover

The Way of a Superior Man by David Deida

and if you feel inspired, maybe Models by Mark Manson.

They will explain it better than anyone here to you how to approach women and life in general.

I'll just tell you that you're still super young and things will be great, but you have to make conscious decisions every day to do things to improve yourself. Gym, study, meditation, good food, no porn, less masturbation. Take care of your mind and body. You'll feel much better if you just start doing these things.

The key to everything is doing.

If I started taking interest in these things, in seduction, when I was your age, boy, would my life look different now. But I started at 27 and I'm still new to this.

Your life will be great, keep your chin up :)

tickledpic · 2019-06-17T17:21:20+00:00

You don't need to be cool or funny. You just need to express your desires in a confident way.

Alan Roger Currie has a story of a nerdy client getting with his dream girl by going up to her and saying "I would love to take a shower with you sometime".

Once you have expressed your desires everything else is easy. It happens naturally. What fucks up most guys is they try to hide or suggest their desires in a covert way, which makes them seem needy because they are trying to please the girl (by friendly conversation and tip-toeing).

Just gather up your balls and be straightforward and direct with what you want. It's way easier than trying to find the perfect way to say things indirectly.

BetterBeLuckyThanGud · 2019-06-17T18:35:17+00:00

Start reading some stoic philosophers like Epictetus, Seneca, Marcus Aurelius... you don't need of anyone else but you.

mightymammuth · 2019-06-17T21:05:47+00:00

Its porn for sure.. Try to cut that shit back, its makeing you depressed..

DriedUpPlum · 2019-06-17T18:14:18+00:00

No More Mr. Nice Guy very well could save your life. Barring that you should see a therapist. Depression is serious business and won’t be cured by going to Reddit... it can be downright deadly.

iLikethehoney · 2019-06-17T21:23:55+00:00

You could start by cleaning your room.

BlueRock956 · 2019-06-17T19:30:56+00:00

Hi, you need to understand that it’s going to be difficult for people to want to meet someone with your attitude. You know what you want, and it’s overwhelming because you are trying to address everything all at the same time. I would recommend you seek help from a councilor, and work on your attitude. Read books and newspapers, as these will help you develop ideas, which will help you communicate with people around you. Find a hobby, as this will give you a chance to identify people who have similar interests as you. If you are hidden away in your room, make a schedule of activities and go do them during the weekend. You’ll get quite a few opportunities to interact with people wherever you go. I like to socialize, but one of my biggest weaknesses is participating in conversations. I can tell you that reading magazines and newspapers, before going to a party or an event, really helps me have topics to discuss in conversations.

2019-06-17T17:53:01+00:00

Me too i felt that rejection.. Am 19/M But am Short stature with only 1,60 meters So actually am the tiny guy im my collage And who would like to be friend or even talk with such guy

baddog992 · 2019-06-17T18:56:13+00:00

I feel you man. I was their at one point in my life. What I did was read books on the subject to see what I was doing wrong. This book changed my life. It got me close friends, a girlfriend and showed me how to gain confidence in myself. Its called Intimate Connections by David D. Burns.

I followed the steps. I did what the book recommended. I got friends and soon started having sex with women. Its not easy to change but sometimes its a good thing. The book is on Amazon. Linked. https://www.amazon.com/Intimate-Connections-David-D-Burns/dp/0451148452

Do not give up on your life. Read, learn and grow.

donaldduck2395 · 2019-06-17T21:07:40+00:00

I‘m really sorry you feel that way. Being alone and not understood is so hard. But don’t give up, for some of us, our time to shin isn’t when we are teenagers but a couple years later.

O think you should try to focus on yourself, find out what you like besides porn. Find sone interests and hobbies.

Life is hard and some people have to fight harder, that’s not fair but being sad about it doesn’t make it better. You just have to keep on trying to work on yourself to become more confident and self loving.

What you feel about yourself will shine to the outside. If you feel like a looser everyone will see you as a looser. If you feel attractive you will attract other people. This might sound a little weird, but it actually really works.

Stay strong

hh7139 · 2019-06-18T00:40:27+00:00

Read Models by Mark Manson, I’ve already seen results in 2 weeks.

susbehaviour · 2019-06-18T00:47:52+00:00

shii im sorry bro its aight be mrle confident ang dont say weird things and girls will like u like deadass

recyclablebanthas · 2019-06-18T04:24:49+00:00

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If you want to believe there is nothing you can do, then nothing anyone says here can help you. This battle is in your mind and sooner or later, you have to stand up to the negative voices in your own mind.

If you're ready to start this sort of struggle, part of the change involves you pushing your focus outside of yourself.

Right now it's more like you're stuck in your own mind, trying to figure out the right thing to say or do, or perhaps beating yourself up for inadequacies.

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I just dont know what to say, i dont have anything to say to make friends. Trying to entertain other person.

Shifting your focus outside of yourself, means you'll be paying attention better and actively listening to the people you interact with.

This grants you more information. Simply following up based on what someone just said, will be more effective than trying to imagine what to say on your own or read their mind. It's ironic. Anxiety and fear often drive us to plan a social interaction out or figure out what to do, when the information we get, that the other person is just giving us, is really all we need.

Approaching people as interesting puzzles to figure out, is a good approach. But only if you're actively listening.

brabg · 2019-06-18T15:20:33+00:00

You sound like you are a children of a narcissist parent, but can also be an asperger.

We cannot play armchair therapist, so you need to get at least a diagnostic from a therapist.

Narcissist parents or other kind of abusing parents repress and invalidate their son's feelings, making them to be accustomed to not express feelings or independent personalities.

SlugTheToad · 2019-06-19T09:40:50+00:00

The key point of your post is that you are 18 years old, and you had trouble with school, don't know what you want to be. You should work on this. I think that you don't have your life together, and don't even know what to do. That is still a natural state when you're at that age, but you need to go get education, whether a university or a vocational one, doesn't matter. Get into a profession, and then get a job. That's your first priority. Then you can have a car, and go where you want to, go out to meet new people in a bigger town in your area to attend activities there. Then you won't beat yourself up over the fact that the only thing cool in your little town is soccer, and that local girls only look for guys who have a prosperous outlook in that little town (and I'm not shitting on them, they know what they want at least). After you have money and success in your life, you can find time for hobbies. That will give you confidence and a chance to meet new people, who respect you. Jordan Peterson's book is very helpful to get your shit together, and see why you feel like a loser, and what you should do to get better.

If you don't know what you want to be, go to career expos and talk to experts whom you would like to be similar to (e.g. if you'd like to learn coding, talk to coders at the expo and ask them how to start becoming one, what it takes and how long it takes to become one and where to look for initial jobs) or ask around friends/acquaintances about jobs/fields that interest you. If you don't have anything that interests you, than sit down and think, what is your goal in life, or just go to expos and stuff where you can meet people from various backgrounds to get a goal, like career orientation offices where workers give advice for young people like you ( or just picture yourself to be a more successful man by 21 for example and imagine that you're happy, and think, what is your greatest strength that will get you there, what job could you learn by that time, and not daydream about unrealistic goals, like you're gonna be a star footballer by 21, when you're not even decent now, and don't even want to put work into it on a day-to-day basis).

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