Let’s settle the debate right now, How much do looks matter when picking up girls?

RalphWolfSamSheepdog · 2019-09-12T22:30:18+00:00

Looks are important. The PUA community says its not cause they want to sell you packages about how confidence can land you a playboy model even if you look like mr potato head.

Escochapo18 · 2019-09-12T21:11:57+00:00

Looks do give you a bigger chance to pull, but I also believe it’s how you carry yourself as well.

If you have both, then yes, you’re pulling left, right and centre.

IllStep · 2019-09-12T21:49:11+00:00

This debate will NEVER be settled lol

But the answer is (from cold approach especially) they matter a shit tonne!!

If you are NOT her physical type, like...at all (she thinks you're a bit ugly) then 'game' won't do shit. (and some girls, especially the very young, hot ones, can be picky as FUCK!)

You can get her emotions going. Tease her. Make her laugh. Make her sad. DHV. neg her bla bla bla, she still won't want to sleep with you. She won't be sexually attracted. That's just the the stuff that PUA's who want to sell you shit will tell you

Game is kind of the ability to show confidence and charisma, and without it, it will be hard to bang a girl (unless she thinks you're like some 10/10 greek God according to her idea of hot in which case, just don't piss your pants and you'll still get her). But it's not some magic jedi mind trick. We've all read the books. There's nothing amazing in them! It's all pretty common, standard stuff that most people know without needing to read a book.

I promise you that in every lay report or successful infield that you've seen, the girl knew within 1 second that she'd give the dude a shot. She liked the way he looked! It's simple. (sometimes people get confused about this when they see a fairly ugly guy pull a hot girl, but get this....I'VE DONE THIS!!! It's simply a case that peoples taste can vary. Most girls might think you're a 5, but there might be a hot girl at the bar who thinks you're an 8)

Game is about banging 'yes' girls which is sometimes not as easy as you'd think, thus game is usually required

crawleycrepe · 2019-09-12T22:04:32+00:00

Game matters, but looks are the most important thing because physical attraction is a pre-requisite (same as it is for us guys)

But yeah, You can be handsome, but if you have ZERO game (like you can't make eye contact or hold a convo for 2 seconds) then you're gonna fail (unless you're like Leo Dicaprio or something lol)

Witteness82 · 2019-09-13T01:02:37+00:00

When people say looks don’t matter I always took it to mean you can be a normal looking guy and still have success. You don’t have to be a GQ model. Let’s be honest here. If you are straight up unattractive you aren’t going to have a bunch of cold approach success. The same way most men don’t go out looking to approach a 2 or a 3, most women aren’t going to be receptive to being approached by one.

That doesn’t mean you can’t date though. It just means you will likely have better success getting to know a girl first through social circles, hobbies or other group outings and escalating from there. Getting them to where they are attracted so much by your personality that they overlook the looks like they usually won’t do during a cold approach.

wordbloom · 2019-09-13T03:47:30+00:00

In college I met this guy I worked on a project with. Thought he was butt ugly. BUTT. FUCKIN. UGLY. After meeting up two or three times for the project, his personality completely changed how I perceived him. He was confident and so funny. Was his face still objectively unfortunate? Yes. Did I give a shit? Nope. Would’ve fucked him any day of the week. Huge crush.

He had this effect on many girls, and eventually he married one of them at age 25. This guy was at peace with himself and connected on the human level to everyone, including women. We can see your game coming from a mile away. So I guess it’s refreshing when you don’t have one?

xtrusters · 2019-09-12T21:58:57+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/8o8os0/frnight_out_with_my_handsome_mate/

emd9629 · 2019-09-13T00:20:41+00:00

Let me ask you this, how much do they matter to you?

Women aren't much different.

SmallSteamedBun · 2019-09-13T04:27:32+00:00

Based on my preference and according to how I defined "looks" in my head which is, not so handsome but very neat looking and very clean person, it really matters. Like, 40%.

Lon4reddit · 2019-09-12T21:29:07+00:00

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intelectualycurious · 2019-09-13T00:29:46+00:00

They matter but probably not as much as you think.

Think of looks as marketing. It might get your foot in the door but if your product sucks and lacks substance no one will buy.

numberonegal · 2019-09-13T01:36:35+00:00

everyone has a type, so ya looks matter. doesn't necessarily mean you have to be the "HOTTEST" guy out there, bc some people have that type and some people don't. just try to look your best in something you feel comfortable in. don't try to look like someone else because honestly when you feel comfortable you'll feel more confident and have more success.

3ddie89 · 2019-09-13T03:46:52+00:00

A little! You cant be hideous either. But if you are at least ok then rest is all in how you carry yourself.

TerminatorReborn · 2019-09-13T04:00:02+00:00

Looks matter a lot. But I would say being fit is more important than just being good looking

BigComfyChair · 2019-09-13T12:11:33+00:00

I would say it depends on how well she knows you. If you two are complete strangers, it matters a lot more bc it's all she has to go on. If you two know each other already, they matter much less bc she knows what kind of person you are and she can decide if she likes what she knows about you.

Erwin_the_third · 2019-09-13T12:54:25+00:00

In my opinion looks matter 7/10 and charisma 10/10

stenbirk · 2019-09-13T13:59:42+00:00

I personally think that a good personality can make someone 10x prettier. If a guy were to approach me and be super nice and smiling ect, I’d already think he looks better than I would if I just saw him passing by.

EarthWarping · 2019-09-14T03:44:18+00:00

Of course looks matter but, if you’re boring as shit, she’s going to leave

2019-09-13T12:02:36+00:00

Psychologically speaking, the first thing men and women are attracted to are looks. The aspect on physical appearance tends to sting the most, especially since many of you have salt in your wounds after your crush mentioned something about another hot guy lol. The truth in the matter is (as hard as it is to believe) is that women don’t value physical appearance as highly as men do, other wise you would see male strip clubs everywhere, and famous fashion designer brands targeting a larger male demographic.

Based off these responses that all say ‘looks matter bro’ you can immediately smell see the insecurity, and it’s not their looks driving them away, it’s their lack of self-confidence, which is the biggest attraction killer of them all

Title	Let’s settle the debate right now, How much do looks matter when picking up girls?
Author	noahbjets
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Comments	28
Date	September 12, 2019 8:54 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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