In your social circle, what is the right kind of image you need to project as a player not having a girlfriend.

hunterpua · 2019-10-29T10:28:58+00:00

How can I maintain a good image in my social circle for not being awkward?

Don't be awkward.

As in don't act like you're doing something wrong by living the way you want to live.

And for the main question, think about it, who are really the weird ones??

Why rush into a relationship when you haven't met the right girl?

I've been in a position where I just fuck around and some friends tell me I should grow up and settle down.

But really think about that...do you think settling down really is that easy?

In my opinion, I believe seeing tons of girls is the fastest way to settle down properly.

Because if you just take the advice of "settle down" and the decide that you're gonna make the next girl you meet your girlfriend you're taking an enormous risk.

The friends who told me to grow up and settle down also say things like, "You just gotta say you're wrong even though you think you're right.", "Fighting is natural, we even had a big fight just last night", and "There will come a point when you just can't do everything you love and make those sacrifices for your relationship."

They also look pretty fucking miserable and broken except during the times their girlfriends want them to pose for a photo to look like "the perfect couple".

Yeah no, fuck that.

I have a girlfriend now and I met her doing exactly what I was doing, meeting and fucking a bunch of girls.

And I didn't make it a point to make her my girlfriend. We just naturally got drawn to each other and other girls naturally became less appealing to me compared to her.

Guess what, she admits when she's wrong, she doesn't want us to fight ever if we can help it and even actively tells me to tell her if I don't like something she's doing so that she can make adjustments before we end up fighting, and she supports everything I do and wants me to do more of the things I love.

She is also not really one for photos. She believes that when you do something fun you should focus on experiencing that thing, not documenting it.

She doesn't care about what other people think of our relationship. In her words, "All that matters is how we feel about each other, everyone else can eat shit."

Getting a girlfriend...the right girlfriend...is not as simple as deciding you want a girlfriend.

So next time your friends make you feel weird for not having one, try to look at their relationships and try to look past the facade that they want everyone to see, because fights, resentment, and misery happen in private.

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Captain_w00t · 2019-10-29T12:06:05+00:00

friends in the group including girls in the group find me weird for not having a girlfriend

are they really friends? do you feel the need to conform to what they think it's weird or not?

if you don't want to settle right now it's your choice!

What is the best reason I can tell for not having a girlfriend or planning to settledown?

What is your reason for that? Do you really need to explain those reasons to your supposed friends? When someone asks me about me being single I just reply that I'm fine with how/where I am right now, I'm not planning to settle, however I don't exclude that it might happen, who knows?. Period.

maddisser101 · 2019-10-29T14:46:03+00:00

Don't have it define you. You don't have a girlfriend because you are focusing on other things like traveling, career, hobbies, working out, etc.

It is not all about women. Make it about yourself. If your time is used up in a significant manner then it makes you seem more desirable.

smoothmax · 2019-10-29T15:24:23+00:00

Don't acknowledge their supposed opinion as a guy without a gf as "weird". That is something that should not exist in your reality.

Women make a big show of shunning players but that's just social peer pressure bullshit. It's attempting to slut shame any girl who sleeps with a guy who isn't an official bf.

I was looking at instagram babes yesterday and saw two of them in a row posing with T shirts that said "No Fuckbois". You tell 'em, sister! Lol

You don't go around saying you're a fuckboi, you make it your unshakeable, unspoken vibe that (a) yes I'm a fuckboi (b) there's nothing with that (c) but don't worry I'm super discreet so your slut shaming "friends" won't know.

You have to do it that way, or else give in and become some girls bf/property. And she'll bang fuckbois anyways when you're not around, like on girls vacations.

rich_god · 2019-10-29T10:00:49+00:00

What is weird about not having a girlfriend ? Just be honest, be yourself. It won't be awkward if it's not awkward for you.

AmITooAutistic · 2019-10-29T13:33:21+00:00

“I haven’t found the one”

Gentleman_Pervert_ · 2019-10-29T09:37:42+00:00

You are not alpha, clearly.

Title	In your social circle, what is the right kind of image you need to project as a player not having a girlfriend.
Author	Deeppua
Upvotes	4
Comments	13
Date	October 29, 2019 9:34 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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