Should you ‘sexualise’ topics early on? If yes, then how?

greatdateguy · 2020-10-09T18:16:44+00:00

Sexualize because she did something that turned you on.
Sexualize because your brain went there naturally.
Never sexualize because you think you should.

Yes, do it, but don't force it or it will be creepy and weird for everyone involved due to lack of congruence.

janus_Ouroboros · 2020-10-09T17:39:00+00:00

Yes. I like to make sexual jokes early on as possible.

Simple sarcasm has worked well for me in the past.

Don't hide being sexual

Alex_O7 · 2020-10-09T18:30:39+00:00

Yes you should, not too soon tho. Rather when you have talked enough to a girl. Think about that, would you make a sexual jokes with a dude you have already met? I don't think so. But you would do a lot of sexual jokes with your bros that you know long time. With girls is the same.

janus_Ouroboros · 2020-10-09T19:42:26+00:00

Depends on the girl. I agree that it has to come organically. You can try naughty pickup lines on wild party type girls on dating apps. In real life they’d have to be cutesy like “Hey, are you from Japan?” She says no, why? “Oh that’s too bad cause I would have been all up in Japanties.” Again, only works on some girls who are very open.

Girls like cutesy cheesy over sexy. Save the sexy talk for the bedroom.

rickyroyal37 · 2020-10-09T21:52:06+00:00

If you find your default social skills make you establish TOO much rapport that is hard to turn sexual later on than YES, sexualize early on to get comfortable with it.

(Definitely start sexualizing it more when the clock hits 12 am when you're out at night.)

1) Use The Classic Bar Game: Fuck, Marry, Kill

(Choose three randos in the bar and then have her choose 3 women for you.)

When it's your turn, use the opportunity to hype up the "sex talk" with your DESCRIPTIVES.

Get Shakespeare with this shit.

It makes it fun for you and an entertaining turn on for her.

(Ex: "I'd fuck her but Idk...do you think she gives good head?”)

Women's imagination is the best tool in your game box, not logic.

2) Use Sexually Descriptive Words

(This is a great way to covertly make things sexual that she will find funny if she picks up on the subtext.)

If she asks you "How's your day or drink...or whatever.”

Just say "orgasmic" or "it's like a warm explosion in my mouth, you know how it is.”

Another one of my favorite descriptive words to slip into conversations is “girthy."

3) Use Pop- Culture References

Talking about sex hypothetically involving movie stars or famous people they fantasize about removes a lot of the "slut-shame defenses" you'll run into.

Ask questions like "Who was your Hollywood crush as a teenager?”

Or which actor "would you break all the rules for?”

and then apply points #1 & #2 I mentioned above.

(I used slip in the talking about movies 50 Shades of Grey a lot into conversations to introduce the topic and get women comfortable talking about sex after just meeting me.)

***Be the leader and go first by sharing your hollywood crushes if she feels stuck or unsure.***

4) Swap Dating Stories

Ask her "what was your worst date?"

I find women's worst dating stories hilarious.

The best one was from a milf who blew me in back of her BMW SUV back in my homeless days.

When we grabbed drinks and she shared this story about a second date with this guy that went horribly wrong. When she went back to his place, she went to use the bathroom and when she came out his “close” was to pull a “How I Met Your Mother.”

(He just stripped all his clothes and stood in champion pose.)

I would always share a crazy Tinder date story where I had sex with this girl off Tinder who went ape shit and started swinging at me after I said she couldn't sleep over even though I offered to drive her home while she tried to drink all my boos.

I literally had one girl I told this to say "If we have sex and you said that to me, I would just sleep over anyways.”

When they start picturing themselves having sex with you, you know you've done things right you little social wizard ;)

primallyours · 2020-10-09T22:07:57+00:00

I think this comes down to self-awareness. Knowing who and how you are and what works for you. I’m naturally very sarcastic, dry and silly with my humour. I love puns, entendre and innuendo. Even so timing is everything. I would only ever ‘sexualise’ a convo once I got an idea of her vibe and personality. If she digs your humour and personality then you can introduce playful flirting through innuendo.

Tryna shoehorn that element into convo comes off contrived and makes you come off like a creep. Especially if it’s all focused on her. You might end up talking about something in popular culture or from people watching if you’re in a public space and make jokes about what kind of personalities you think they might have behind closed doors, keeping it light and silly.

Off the top of my head:

‘Look at this guy with his trouser waist up to his neck. You know he folds his clothes before sex. Look away, I wouldn’t want you falling under his spell.’

It’s light. The sexual part isn’t focused solely on her. It opens the door to ask her about the qualities she likes in a guy. Then as she’s listing things you could pretend you’re ticking most or all those boxes.

Honestly I feel like humour trumps everything. Don’t be fake/forced though, that’s easy to detect and makes you look weak. Keep it humorous with good, flirty eye contact. That gives you another opening: you make her smile/laugh then you compliment her. It’s calm, confident and natural. That goes way further to your goal than trying to superimpose some shit that ain’t you to try and get laid cos you’ll end up doing just that: trying.

2020-10-10T01:38:39+00:00

Lol. I like to do this within the first 5-10 text messages I send a girl. I don’t do it in blunt ways though, I make it more like a playful tease. Gotta keep it fun but have a sexual tone.

TheMailmanic · 2020-10-10T05:48:06+00:00

Depends on the context

In the club with drunk chicks? Yeah definitely go direct

In the park? No

SithLordJediMaster · 2020-10-10T06:31:41+00:00

Have you seen Inception? We can be inside each other tonight.

msinclaire · 2020-10-11T22:43:13+00:00

Sexualizing topics is a red flag for many women. It tells them you are not respectful of them and that you are looking for a way to get into their pants as quickly as possible with the least amount of effort.

In other words, it’s a turn off.

Colonelfudgenustard · 2020-10-09T18:58:37+00:00

Sure. Let's say your first date is an innocent bike ride. You've got to casually drop into conversation, "I'd sure like to get a sniff of that bike seat."

Title	Should you ‘sexualise’ topics early on? If yes, then how?
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Date	October 9, 2020 4:51 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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