How do I show intent without kissing the girl’s ass/ putting the girl on a pedestal?

XDEC · 2021-02-08T03:01:43+00:00

Showing your intentions is only needy if you have needy intentions. If your intention is to try to get to know her, find out if SHE is a good fit for YOU (not the other way around) then that’s not needy. Needy intentions would be anything that involves you wanting to get something from her (validation, attention, sex). So change your intentions and then honestly express those intentions.

lucs8833 · 2021-02-08T06:13:16+00:00

Ok, aquí te va el consejo de una chica y de como le gusta que le coqueteen, espero que te sirva.

Se amigable pero deja en claro que tus intenciones no son de solo amigos: Para cual sea la relación que quieras con la chica, sea algo serio, o sea algo casual, necesitas generar en ella esa confianza, esa empatía. Tratala como tratarías a cualquier persona con la que quieras volverte amigo, se amable (las chicas amamos a los chicos que son amables, caballeros, carismáticos), pero de manera genuina, se amable en medida de lo posible y que te sientas cómodo y natural haciéndolo. (cuando fingen se les nota, se huele cuando son falsos).

También creo que es importante (y he visto que muchos cometemos a la hora de ligar) es ver a la otra persona como un igual, no como un objeto del cual obtener algo (validación, sexo, etc.) , Si no ver a la otra persona como a nosotros mismos, como seres humanos, con virtudes, defectos, miedos, vulnerabilidad, etc. Trata como te gustaría que te traten si estuvieses en el lugar de la otra persona.

Deja claro tus intenciones: no tengas miedo de coquetear un poco, de dejarle en claro que te gusta. A una chica le gusta que los chicos tengan esa seguridad de ser directos. Si no tienes tanta confianza puedes coquetear con chistes, plan lanzas algún coqueteo peroo haces sonar que lo dices como en joda, y si vez que responde bien o que al menos no se incomoda, significa que puedes seguir y ser cada vez más directo. Pero no dejes que ese tiempo hasta ser más directo se extienda demasiado jaja o puedes quedarte en la zona del amigo.
Cuando coquetees se honesto. Por favor jaja a los hombres se les nota demasiado cuando fingen ser más caballeros de lo que realmente son, o cuando exageran con frases excesivamente cursis o coqueteo del mismo tipo, se genuino en lo que piensas o sientes, si piensas que se ve bonita, díselo; si piensas que huele bien, díselo, pero no seas un lame botas con halagos excesivos y falsos, por qué creeme, se notan , y te huirán.
Por último hazte a la idea de que puedes ser rechazado y que todo bien, acéptalo con humildad, y no reacciones con resentimiento o algo así, que se no se sienta incómoda por sentir que te incomodó el que te rechace (puede que hasta cambie de opinión viendo que te lo tomas tan bien). Hazle saber que no hay problema, que está todo bien, y que respetas su decisión.

Creo que es más cuestión de mentalidad, si la vez como un objeto, inevitablemente va a percibir que le ves así por como la tratas, y consecuentemente te va a rechazar. Creeme que cuando nos tratan como iguales, podemos acordar cualquier tipo de relación, sea de una vez, una seria, etc. El punto es que no seas un patán.

johnbugara · 2021-02-08T03:57:09+00:00

lead but dont chase. ask for their number, ask them out and if they agree great. if they dont it's completely fine and just move to the next one. dont be sulky if they say no and they might even come back around when you give them space. it's only when you persist when they dont reciprocate interest that you come off as needy and it will also hurt your self esteem.

ShakaPiontkowskie1 · 2021-02-08T04:17:23+00:00

You have to show intent in a way that gets her chasing you; flirting is perfect for this. You can flirt in a way that insinuates that she's chasing you, instead of the other way around. Yesterday I thought of a line to use when getting a number (haven't tried it yet): "I like you so far and I'm going to let you have my number. Please do NOT send me crazy texts even though you're excited, you'll kill your chances...completely...". Obviously, I'm saying this in a playful manner and what's just as important, I'm ASSUMING that she's into me, wants to see me again and is very excited to do so (I flipped the script). I told her that I like what I see and hear so far so I'm also showing more intent.

This example might be tough to implement depending on your skill level so think of different ways to flirt in push/pull style and practice on girls that are outside of your social circle.

caesarfecit · 2021-02-08T10:22:41+00:00

Give sexual affection as a reward, not a demand. Tease her, challenge her, playfully disqualify yourself ("you're too cute and innocent for me, I like bad girls"). When she plays along, she gets more invested in you, and you reward this with sexual attention, like touch, an earned compliment, or leading the interaction on. You want to establish that man-to-woman frame? Flirt with her. Polarize to attract.

The time to show intent is the same as the way - kiss her.

2021-02-08T14:06:49+00:00

Strong eye contact, calibrated kino, & playfully teasing/misinterpretations.

cauliflowerandcurry · 2021-02-08T03:15:24+00:00

I don't know how old you are but keep in mind that all women are serious if not inebriated (drunk) or under some other type of influence. Just like the magazines say - women do look for a steady relationship. Unless the woman is someone you see yourself having a baby with leave it alone. That is the test for men I think. If you do look at her that way then all the rest will come naturally. She is like you. You have to treat her like you would like to be treated. Do not put her on a pedestal to obtain sex. It will be obvious.

revente · 2021-02-07T20:43:56+00:00

Physical escalation. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/hlmra/dicarlo_escalation_ladder_concise_and_emphasized/

2021-02-08T06:44:50+00:00

Being able to do whatever you feel like unapologetically and not fearing the outcome or her opinion of you is what will be the foundation for your attractiveness. Now add in some calibration and charisma with a dash of social intelligence and you have someone who can show intent without ever coming off needy

fvckCrosshairs · 2021-02-08T06:54:13+00:00

throwing compliments here and there, show intereset without expecting her response, just say it casually and not in a simp'ish way.

HandsumSquidwerd · 2021-02-08T22:27:33+00:00

Your intent should be “I would like to be with her if she’s on board, but if she’s not that’s okay I’ll find someone who is”

It should not be “I must get with her at all costs, I must have her, she is so perfect and so can’t live without her”

cementlog · 2021-02-08T23:05:34+00:00

First step, stop thinking like this. You receive the same respect and energy you give out, and it sounds like you’re too egotistical to actually show affection for someone without something in return

socialanimal_us · 2021-02-09T00:04:13+00:00

The only way to give compliments and express interest without being needy is to have a healthy outlook on your desire. Once you are comfortable with your desire, it will be fine. Checkout this video on this topic , good luck out there : https://youtu.be/bZAgGiDf2lo

NateHate1402 · 2021-02-12T01:59:32+00:00

Pretty simple, be honest and straight forward. If you want to tell a girl you find her attractive just say so without adding on multiple unnecessary adjectives and do it looking her in the eyes like a man.

Too many people act like a girl rejecting them is the worst thing in the world when in reality it’s not the worst thing that’s happened to you that day most likely.

Does rejection suck? In my opinion it depends.

If it’s by a girl I have liked for a while then yeah it sucks. But if it’s some girl I’ve known for a few days not really, I only used up a small amount of time and likely learnt something along the way.

Title	How do I show intent without kissing the girl’s ass/ putting the girl on a pedestal?
Author	beepingview
Upvotes	14
Comments	14
Date	February 7, 2021 8:24 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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